Background is I live a single lifestyle, no children and am an only child. I didn't want this life, I wanted a marriage etc but it just hasn't worked out. This may bear some relevance to the importance of friendships and this situation.
I've been friends with a man for about 8 years now. It started when I first moved to a new village, and took to taking my dog and a book and sitting in a local pub beer garden in the summer. I was just looking to make some connections and he's someone who came and spoke to me. Since then we've met up a couple of times a week for a drink or dinner/walks. He's married, I'm gay, totally platonic. We share a hobby too so chat about that a lot.
He comes to my house for a few beers almost every weekend. This is not reciprocal because he lives with his wife and children, keeps us separate.
Of the hobby, I was lucky enough to acquire some supplies for it free, recently. He asked if he could buy half off me-I said yes. He came around, gave me the money and then he proceeded to try to take more than half, thought I'd not notice. I did and took some of what he'd taken out of his carrier bag and put them back, so it was fair for what he'd paid me. That was number one irritating thing.
The other is, although I am more than happy to provide him with alcoholic drinks when he comes to my house, I feel that was it the other way around, I would buy him a drink now and again. He knows that although I am lucky enough to not be struggling, I have far less income than him, and he has a dual income household. He's been getting free beer from me for at least 3 years now, and it isn't as if it is equal because I don't go to his house ever. I just find it a bit cheeky.
And then, we went for a drink recently and decided to go to a different pub. My other friend came with us but he took a taxi as he can't walk far (disability) and me and the friend in question walked. When we got there, other friend had bought us a round. Friend in question ran out of his drink first, and just bought his own. I of course bought other friend a drink back.
The icing on the cake for me was, I was looking at houses in the area on Rightmove, on my phone recently. I pointed at one I liked and said friend commented 'Oh god, I could buy that in cash right now'.
This was a 'grrr' moment for me.
A couple of people in my local have picked up that there's a bit of an atmosphere between me and him now. I also note that none of them really like him. The landlord hates him! I don't suppose that is much relevant, I have always really liked him. We've been there for one another, I cried on him not so long ago about the state of my life, you know, he's nice to me! We text though the week sharing daft jokes/rants about work, we get on well- I have just found myself feeling very rubbed up the wrong way by this recent series of events and realisations.
Others have picked up on the fact that I am quite annoyed with him and they might say something. They don't know in full detail but I have told them bits and bats when pressed. Again not really relevant but I feel like I should say something to him about how he's annoyed me. Or I could just gradually phase out our meetups and get togethers, maybe tell him I am not going out for a while/trying to save money or whatever and I can do the hobby by myself, maybe we'll drift.
What do you think? Am I overreacting or being stroppy?