How often do your children see their grandparents?

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We visit my partners family once every two weeks at a minimum and often once a week. Our child’s grandma says that she rarely sees our child. This just isn’t true is it? Or am I wrong and we should be going more?

We visit my partners family once every two weeks at a minimum and often once a week.

When are they coming to visit you?

Maternal 3x per week ish
Paternal 4-6 x per year for 2-3 days

Once every two to three months. My PILs live 2 hours away.

My in-laws every 2 months. They live 20 minutes away and we basically have to beg them to see the kids.

My parents every 3 months. They live in another country and have to fly here.

My parents do the school run so see my nephews once a week in term time. Outside of that it’s probably less and they see their other GPs much less because they live further away.

Well. They used to see my mum about 2 or 3 times a year for a few days at a time, because she lived 300 miles away. Now she lives less than a mile away and we see her several times a week for much less time.

DH's parents live 200 miles away, and have got very insular since Covid. We maybe visit them a couple of times a year.

Never on my side, dad dead and the other we're NC.

However we have chosen family who we see a lot. And my brother's are steadfast in our lives.

They see their father's side a few times a year.

No not true!
They see my parents at least once a week because they pick them up from school and care for them once a week, then depending what's on we might see them at the weekend too, maybe one weekend a month.

DH's parents are a 5h drive away so we see them less, they rarely come to see us so it's usually us having to travel, ends up being once or twice a year. DH doesn't have a close relationship with his family really but makes the effort to keep up with visits for the sake of the DC.

When my mum was alive we probably saw my parents once every 1-2 weeks, and I spoke to her on the phone several times a week.
After she died we probably saw dad every 2-4 weeks. (And then more frequently at the end of his life)
When MIL was alive we probably saw PIL every 6 weeks, now we probably see FIL every 8-10 weeks.

When my parents were in the country (they lived abroad half the year) every week for Sunday lunch. They lived about a 10-15 minute drive away. They were well into their 70s when I had kids so it wasn't like they took them out for the day or anything, and we'd also take the kids to visit them when abroad for a week every year until my father passed away.
They saw their paternal grandparents about three/four times a year. They lived between a 30 minute to two hour drive away at various times. This is because they really weren't that interested and it was always at our instigation.

My mum: never, my dad maybe once or twice, grandparents on ex's side, maybe 3 or 4 as they holiday together.

Per year that is.

Maternal grandparents - often but not daily or even weekly necessarily. They live literally 5 streets away so the kids will sometimes pop round of their own accord when we're wfh, especially DD(16).

Paternal grandparents - never met them, they both died long before DC were born. I never met my MIL myself.