How often do your children see their grandparents?

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We visit my partners family once every two weeks at a minimum and often once a week. Our child’s grandma says that she rarely sees our child. This just isn’t true is it? Or am I wrong and we should be going more?

Maternal - never
Paternal - 3/4 times a year in person, 1 to 2 times a week by skype.

Maternal Gp's once a week, sometimes more if it's a special occasion (birthday meal etc). Also holiday twice per year with them.

Paternal 3 times a year for 3-4 days for each visit.

My parents - a couple of times a week - they live locally

MIL - we try for a long weekend at least every 3 months - she lives 3 hours drive away

My children get collected from school by maternal grandmother once a week, and by paternal grandmother twice a week. This has only started this school year though. Before that they would see maternal grandparents once every couple of weeks or so and see paternal grandmother once a week

MIL lives with us so they see her every day.

I was brought up from 7 by my Grandparents and they are now dead.

Used to be weekly both sets, but more sporadic now due to school and distances. Frequently in the holidays and maybe every month or so in between? If they lived closer it would probably be at least once a week

Maternal - they live 3 hours away, see them 2-3 times a year but usually for a weekend or even a week at a time. They usually look after DD for a long weekend once or twice a year too now she's older.

Paternal - live 2 hours away and MIL is housebound. We usually see them 2-3 times a year too - either we stay overnight locally or do a long day of going up early and back late.

We don't have a car - I think we'd see both more often if we did but currently rely on public transport and both sets live fairly rurally so have to rely on lifts from stations etc.

When I was little we saw my paternal grandparents every week or two but my maternal side a few times a year as they lived overseas. I don't think it had any detriment on my relationship with either side.

I also couldn't fathom seeing my parents or in-laws more often than we do though - the idea of them being local feels really alien to me 🤣

My parents they see my kids 2-3 times a year for 5-6 days at a time but we live opposite ends of the country which is a shame as they are really hands on grandparents.
My mother in law maybe once or twice a week or so just depends.

My parents probably four times a year.

MIL once a year (she lives in a different country).

I think that’s very much swayed by your relationship and what the grandparents offer. And that could be also what they don’t offer. Mine offers nothing that benefits my child in terms of her actions and thoughts and attitudes. My mums latest gems have been to tell my daughter that men are better teachers and boys are better at maths. So yes she’s lucky to see my daughter, my daughter is unlucky to have her.

Ours live 2 hours away and these days think the roads only go in one direction, so about twice a year.

I think once a fortnight is loads!

Maternal grandma - once a week (sometimes more if helping with childcare, birthdays, family get togethers)
Maternal grandpa (my step dad, no contact with late dad) roughly once a month as my mum usually comes to our house.
Maternal grandparents are married and do live together, just the way these things work out
Paternal grandparents - twice a week as they help with after school childcare one night a week
Works well for all of us.

i am a new nana to 2 DGC. my DD's little boy i see probably every day, at a mimum 5 days out of 7, she does live just round the corner. the other little boy is my SS's baby, and they live further away. We try and see him twice a month, and he says overnight once a month?

i do not know how this will work out moving forwards? is one too much and the other too little?

MIL comes to us for a full day once a week

DM comes 2 or 3 afternoons a week

But they're both preschool age so that will obviously reduce when they go to school. I hope to continue at least once a week for both though!

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Ohthejoys21

"Surely it's the other way round? My parents have added to my dcs's lives in a way no one else could or would want to, so I'd say the privilege is my dcs's."

"I think that’s very much swayed by your relationship and what the grandparents offer. And that could be also what they don’t offer. Mine offers nothing that benefits my child in terms of her actions and thoughts and attitudes. My mums latest gems have been to tell my daughter that men are better teachers and boys are better at maths. So yes she’s lucky to see my daughter, my daughter is unlucky to have her."

The post was generalising that its grandparents who are privileged to be part of their grandchildren's lives, and I was showing by my post that you can't make a sweeping statement like that as situations (like mine) can be different.

Unfortunately op if you see them every day and ruined your life to facilitate it, it would never be enough

i see x 2 GC 3 to 4 times a week ( DDs)…they live 5 minute drive away

I see x 1 GC once a fortnight ( lives with my DSs ex and not in my town) …but she does usually sleep over with her Dad so it’s over 2 days

3 sets of GPs here
My parents twice a week
DH's DF ever few days and his DM once a month

Mine see my parents once a week, and in-laws around once a fortnight.

Until this week my PILs had DS1 and 2 from Thursday afternoon to Friday evening every week. Now DS1 has started school they’ll just be having DS2 (they’ll still see DS1 when we go to pick DS2 up and bring him home) until I’m ready for them to have DS3 overnight as well. They’re fantastic, and thank god they’re so fantastic because my own parents are dead.

My parents at least once a week. They live round the corner.

Inlaws 4 /6 times a year - they live a couple of hours away and are quite hard work.

The kids are 12/15 now and saw more of them when they were small, maybe every 2-4 weeks.

Both kids love all of their grandparents and are always pleased to see them.

My mum sees my son every day some days. But she does help with childcare, and lives in the same town.

My in-laws have only just seen him for the first time in 3 months. We can't easily visit them as they have a dog that can't be trusted with children (think small, but bitey..) so it is really up to them to come here. They live 25-30 mins away.

It doesn't really matter what everyone else does as we all have different family dynamics and live in different areas.

If she feels she's not seeing her grandchild enough then maybe you could all work to change that, if possible.

They see their paternal grandparents maximum twice a year, maternal grandfather maybe 3 or 4 times max during the summer but sometimes not at all, maternal grandmother maybe 5x again as a maximum. Sometimes more like once. We live abroad from most family and other side of the country from the rest.

Once every few months.