How often do your children see their grandparents?

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We visit my partners family once every two weeks at a minimum and often once a week. Our child’s grandma says that she rarely sees our child. This just isn’t true is it? Or am I wrong and we should be going more?

DH's parents a couple of times a month on average. My parents are both dead.

She should visit you then.

My child’s grandparents complain they don’t see him enough but they never get in touch to make arrangements. And often when I try to they cancel on me last minute. Their loss!

As little as possible as MIL is toxic narcissist and is horrible to everyone including her grandchildren ... due a visit very soon 👿

Mil once a year for a few hours if she comes to the UK ( seeing us is sn after thought it feels). Fil - not seen in over 7 years dd was three.

That's their choices.

Once a week is a lot! Once every month would be nice.

Maternal once every 6-8 weeks maybe. Live a distance so only see in school holidays

Paternal once every 6 months ish. Live much closer but not as bothered

Maternal - 2-3 x a week
Paternal - have only seen 5 times in 13 months, they live further away but no excuse not to make more effort as they are retired and in good health. Happily travel to see BIL. They choose not to have much involvement. Their loss!

My dcs see paternal Grandparents weekly.
My parents probably similar.

The longest they go would be 2 weeks.

Paternal - 5 days a week (they do school pick up for us)

Maternal - 3 times a week (mam visits one night during the week, and then I always pop down on a Friday evening and several hours on a Sunday)

Plus both help with school holidays etc when needed

When my DC were small, we lived in a different time zone to all their grandparents.

We all made a big effort, and saw each set face to face about 5 times a year, with video calling in between.

Now we live in the same country, about 4 hours drive from one and about 6 from the other - in opposite directions. To be honest, we see them probably less often!
But the DC are teens now and have a good relationship with them, they can phone or text - which they do - independently.

I’m sure they’d love to see more of each other, but it isn’t really possible outside the school holidays for us.

PILs - every 6-8 weeks I guess, they live about 2 hours drive away

My mum - more ad-hoc, at the moment she sees DC weekly as she's covering a temporary change in my working hours. When I go back down to 4 days, it'll probably be more like monthly. Then DC 2 is due in December so will probably see her a bit more frequently again. My dad's not on the scene.

Anyone who saw my child every 1-2 weeks and complained it wasn't enough would be getting a huge eyeroll from me frankly.

Before DD started school it was roughly once a fortnight. Now it will be roughly every 4-6 weeks. She is about to turn 5 and grandparents aren’t local.

I think 2-3 times a month is plenty!

I think they see them enough OP. From the people around me the ones that see Grandchildren more than that is where the grandparents are involved in childcare.

My kids see their grandparents very regularly.

My husbands parents are separated and only see their grandad 3-4 times a year as he lives far away. But their grandma and step-grandad they see 1-2 times a week and see my parents 1-2 times a week, sometimes more.

Surely it's the other way round? My parents have added to my dcs's lives in a way no one else could or would want to, so I'd say the privilege is my dcs's.

That's loads, OP. People I know usually live at a significant distance from grandparents so, in my experience, two or three times a year is much more normal.

Both sets we only see once a year at Christmas. They compete to which one is the worst Grandparents. My Dad forgot my daughter's birthday recently so he's the worst at the moment.

DPs parents at least twice a week, his GPs once a week. My nan at least twice and they seem my parents most days!

We all live very close and both sets of GPS either drop or pick up from school. This isn't even required anymore but the kids and the GPS enjoy it so I let them arrange it between themselves!

They see my Mum every day as she lives with us, they see dh's parents maybe once a year, they only live half hour away but don't make the effort and I've got to the stage where I think why should we bother when they don't.

My mum, it would probably average every two weeks or so. We’d probably see a bit more of each other but she works full time (I’m a sahm), she has just bought a project house and we live an hour apart.
My in laws see DS at least twice a week, sometimes more. They live 5 minutes away.

My children see my mum once a year (due to living a plane ride away)

My DHs parents live round the corner, so probably 3/4 times a week including sleepover on a Saturday night

My dad about once every 2 years briefly, my mum, never.
Neither of my parents have the slightest interest in my kids. Neither do the ILs unfortunately.

MIL at least once a week as she does childcare for us (happy to do so especially since FIL passed away before anyone comes for me). Sometimes we also visit on a weekend. My parents, maybe 4 times a year but we live a 4 hour drive away. More over video chat too. If we all lived in the same area I'd imagine we would see them at least once a week too.

Every other day. My parents Monday Wednesday and Friday and my parents in law Tuesday and Thursday. He goes there after school, we socialise together quite often too with both sets of GPS so see them at the weekend quite a lot.

We're off out with ILs tonight for SILs birthday so he will see them tonight & tomorrow. He'll be staying at my parents on Saturday night as we're at a wedding and he's staying for 2 nights at the end of September as we're going to Belfast for the weekend.

Both my husband & I had the same sort of relationship with our grandparents too.

He has a key for our house so could go straight home if he wanted to, which occasionally he does after school but he enjoys seeing them. In the holidays he will stay at home in the morning, go to see his GPs or my sister and then head out with friends.

DS sees my parents once a week, we have brunch at theirs every Sunday. It sometimes more if my they help with childcare or if there's a family party or something on. We live about half an hour away. My nieces see them pretty much every day but they live just down the road.

DS sees FIL at least once a week. He picks him up from school and he goes to his house or out for tea.

I didn't have grandparents growing up and was always jealous of my friends and theirs. I am very fortunate that we all get along well and want to spend time with each other!

Paternal, averages 1-2 months. They don’t live far away, we are just all very busy.

maternal. Maybe every 3 years. They live very far away and the relationship isn’t great.