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What do you think happens after you die ?

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Ella2001 · 08/09/2024 15:42

I’m waiting on “you’ll be dead and that’s that“ 🤣
but genuinely curious as to what everyone else thinks happens , I know it’ll be like before you were born , you won’t know but what if after life/recantation is a thing ? I’ve come to terms with the fact tomorrow isn’t promised but what if there’s afterlife and we get born into a horrible abusive family ? In that case I think I’d rather just be nothing ? What you all think ? Love to read these threads thought I’d make one myself 😆

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HoppityBun · 08/09/2024 16:42

Nothing. You’re dead. Physical remains continue as atoms. If you’re wondering about your personality or non material aspects, think of it as going back to being how you were before you were conceived.

SocksShmocks · 08/09/2024 16:43

somereallyniceadvice · 08/09/2024 16:39

Read the book of Revelation - the last one. It explains the whole end for some( when and where) and the new eternal beginning for others - also when and where.

But I don’t believe that’s true. I’m happy for you if you have a faith you find sustaining. But it being written down in a book doesn’t mean the rest of us have to believe it. Other people have just as strongly held contradictory beliefs.

DillDanding · 08/09/2024 16:45

I am genuinely flabbergasted that anyone really thinks anything at all happens other than absolutely nothing.

Daltonbear1 · 08/09/2024 16:45

somereallyniceadvice · 08/09/2024 16:39

Read the book of Revelation - the last one. It explains the whole end for some( when and where) and the new eternal beginning for others - also when and where.

I am well schooled on revelations but again the bible talks about Gehenna which was a rubbish dump near where Jesus was tortured. Yes revelations speaks about a firery lake where Satan will be disposed off but that’s not hell as it says that people will be resurrected etc. yes it talks about the king of the north and the king of the south which many think are America versus China then the end will come but hey ho

Bloom15 · 08/09/2024 16:47

My dad has only just died and I have to believe what made him 'him' isn't gone. I couldn't cope with that.

I am an agnostic so I don't have any particular belief system

alreadymisssummer · 08/09/2024 16:48

. Yes Jesus existed we do know that historically but where gre he was son of god make your own mind up

Mary was probably a rape victim(and not by god) and conceived Jesus out of wedlock, this would have been extremely shameful and deemed her unsuitable for marriage and her family would have disowned her.

Ella2001 · 08/09/2024 16:49

I’m absolutely loving reading all these answers, I haven’t gone quiet just silently reading 🥰

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Jenasaurus · 08/09/2024 16:49

In all honesty I dont know but hope its more than a void of nothingness.

I had a very vivid dream the other night (side effect of taking statins I am told) anyway. I started off at a Prom with my old boss from 15 years ago as well as my ex BF and a small 3 year old on a fancy train carriage. We all started discussing what happens when we die, and someone told me that we could re-inherit our own wealthy if we sign up to be reincarnated into our own family again but we have to say a code word as soon as we can talk to prove who we were previously. I asked if that meant I would have to give back the inheritance my parents left if they came back to reclaim it. It was so weird but at the time it all made sense.

If you can get reincarnated and like some say you choose who your parents will be (reading a lot of these books after I lose my parents for comfort) then it may actually be a possibility to come back as deceased Georges great grandchild and then claim to be the reincarnation of George himself and claim all his worldly possession's i have gone a bit ott here but dreams do open up your mind done they (sill cant work out why my boss was my prom date either!)

Beansandneedles · 08/09/2024 16:49

I appreciate this wasn't the point of the thread but I read your question out to my very literal friend and their response was

'well I'd presume someone would call an undertaker...maybe the police depending on the circumstances...really hope the dog doesn't eat me. That wouldn't be my top choice.'

😂

Sleepydoor · 08/09/2024 16:50

I’m one of the atheists who finds it very comforting to believe that nothing happens after you die and humans are no more significant in the grand scheme of things than a tree or a frog or a bacterium.

TwigTheWonderKid · 08/09/2024 16:50

I'm dying and I believe that will be the end of me. All the minerals and metals and billions of cells will be recycled again, just like they have countless times before, and that's enough for me.

I can understand the comfort of believing you'll be reunited with loved ones, but for me that's just a fairytale-like story, told to make people feel better. It's not very likely is it? Although, I have told DH, who is likely to live for a good 25+ years once I'm fine, that if there is a heaven, I'll be spending the next 25 years there with David Bowie, until DH joins me...

BobbyBiscuits · 08/09/2024 16:51

I did nearly die a couple times and it's just like blank, you just don't exist anymore. Your ego doesnt exist so you don't think it's weird. Like you have no sense of self, it's just like really deep sleep or when your under anesthetic. But permanent.
I'm a bit into Buddhism so I wouldn't mind coming back as something else. I'd like to be a well loved cat. For some reason I'll probably be a hedgehog or a flea. Lol.
I honestly think you just are at peace. No ego, no feelings, no pain, no anything. So it's not bad. It's like space. Just black. Maybe we come back as stars or something?

IncessantNameChanger · 08/09/2024 16:52

You go back to your constituent elements and energy. You have always existed since the big bang and always will but never in this form again.

I think it's amazing listening to Prof Cox recently talking about once there was no life on earth, until chemistry formed memory. How and why we don't know. That magic bit, we don't know. But as a scientist I theories we rot down back into our basic elements and that's pretty much it. One shot at this miracle that's biology.

AuCo44 · 08/09/2024 16:52

Although I would love to believe there is an afterlife, where we are reunited with loved ones in some kind of paradise, I think it's just like a full stop at the end of one's life. If I die young and healthy, I'd like my organs to go to people on the transplant waiting list though, but hopefully I will be a very old lady who just doesn't wake up one day.

IncessantNameChanger · 08/09/2024 16:53

BobbyBiscuits · 08/09/2024 16:51

I did nearly die a couple times and it's just like blank, you just don't exist anymore. Your ego doesnt exist so you don't think it's weird. Like you have no sense of self, it's just like really deep sleep or when your under anesthetic. But permanent.
I'm a bit into Buddhism so I wouldn't mind coming back as something else. I'd like to be a well loved cat. For some reason I'll probably be a hedgehog or a flea. Lol.
I honestly think you just are at peace. No ego, no feelings, no pain, no anything. So it's not bad. It's like space. Just black. Maybe we come back as stars or something?

What if you come back as an intensly farmed animal or a child in war zone? I find the concept of reincarnation terrifying

PoodlesRUs · 08/09/2024 16:53

I think I'll burn (literally, not spiritually) and my family will say how expensive it all was and the world will keep plodding along.

terracottafarm · 08/09/2024 16:54

I think we all hope there's something after death but in reality, once you are dead, you are dead. Just nothingness.

DillDanding · 08/09/2024 16:55

I think it’s very hard for some people to
think death is just the end, and there’s absolutely nothing beyond.

I think that’s why some people have a faith, because it’s hard to face up to the reality. But it’s also refreshing to me.

I was brought up by Catholics, one devout, one who felt obliged. They’re both dead. It’d be nice to think they’re reunited in some heavenly domain. But do I believe that? No, not even slightly. They ceased to be and I can accept that.

Tomorrowisyesterday · 08/09/2024 16:55

DillDanding · 08/09/2024 16:45

I am genuinely flabbergasted that anyone really thinks anything at all happens other than absolutely nothing.

You must find life perpetually surprising.

NewMe2024 · 08/09/2024 16:58

LaurieFairyCake · 08/09/2024 15:54

I believe in the Jungian idea of universal consciousness

And as a Christian that fits in with what I think, no individually but one consciousness (with God)

I know there is a soul and believe we live on. I had a bereavement last week of someone very close (I've now been with 6 people who have died) and I'm always struck by how they look after death. Just like a vessel, the essence of them (the soul) has gone.

Yes I’m the same. I have never had any kind of religious faith but I was with my beloved grandmother when she died. It was relatively peaceful because she was in the end stages of cancer and made comfortable with drugs. We had been at the hospital with her for hours and I was holding her hand. I swear I knew when she had gone even though you couldn’t tell. It wasn’t a sudden thing, just a growing realisation. I thought I would be devastated saying goodbye to her but I wasn’t because I knew she wasn’t there in the same form anymore, but I still felt her with me, telling me not to be sad.

MagentaRocks · 08/09/2024 16:58

somereallyniceadvice · 08/09/2024 16:22

I am mainstream christianity. So it is either Heaven or hell. Sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear or if I rained on atheists parades

I am an atheist and I really don’t care that you believe in heaven and hell. Each to their own. If being religious gives you comfort then it really doesn’t matter what I think. I don’t agree with you but I don’t expect you to agree with me. I actually envy people who have faith a little bit because I know they get something from it.

I would like to think I will be reunited with loved ones when I die but I don’t actually believe that is what will happen. I will just cease to be. Death once it has happened does not have any effect on the person who has died. It only affects those left behind.

ncforcatquestion · 08/09/2024 16:59

I have been thinking about this a lot the past few years. It for me adds a new dimension to life, knowing that I could just die and that's it. It makes me each for more

RamonasHouse · 08/09/2024 16:59

ButterAsADip · 08/09/2024 15:52

I love these questions

I think it’s just like before you were born too. But the I’m also pretty sure DS2 has been here before, so no idea how that works!

I saw something the other day where a man presented to hospital with headaches and they found his brain was totally absent except for about a centimeter around the whole perimeter. So he had the outside of his brain and nothing inside. No symptoms, normal job, family etc. So now people are like, where the fuck is our mind kept then? Where is the soul?? We’ll never know.

No. This just wasn't true. It didn't happen.

BobbyBiscuits · 08/09/2024 17:00

@IncessantNameChanger I know what you mean. I don't really think of it that way. I'm really not scared of death. If I did come back as someone else then I wouldn't know I used to be me? Haha. I don't really believe in it. But I like the idea of being a nice person then you come back as something happy. It's another way of controlling your life though really isn't it.
Lots of religions focus on death and what happens as nobody can tell them what really goes on. BC they're dead. Lol

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