Married 20 years. DH has ED. I get that and there are other things we can do. I've said this to him. He always says he loves me. However ...
Every time I touch him intimately he says it tickles too much/ he needs the loo/ he has the shits and feels ill/ he's too hot. It seems there is always an excuse. He sleeps naked, I started do the same. It made no difference. He still made his excuses.
When we are intimate it's v v rare. I snog him but after a minute he pulls away. He tries to disguise the fact he's pulled away. I don't pressure him. He knows there is no expectation for sex (due to the ED).
I feel so frustrated. He won't ever talk about it with me.