Has there been an uptick of male posters on MN?

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Just something I’ve noticed recently. I know MN is not just for women (the About Us states it’s for parents, but I haven’t watched the video as it’s pretty long so maybe more is said there).

I was wondering how other women feel about this? And as for men, are you here to gain a perspective from a female-dominated space? Is there even an equivalent space for men?

Yes, the sex topic is infested with them.

And Advanced Search is a very useful tool.

Edited to add: I can understand why some men come on to MN, if they're after parenting advice. Possibly relationship advice. But it's the men who come here to post about sex that really make me wonder.

Certainly there’s an uptick in MRAs. I’ve just read a bloke arguing that men should be able to force women to terminate a pregnancy (this is based on him being cross he still has to pay for his kids post divorce). A real asset to the site, I’m sure 😭

Non-psychopathic blokes are very welcome
in my book.

Probably my ex he is annoyed I found out he was short changing his kids again he is just about to quit his job anyway and his wife will financially support him so he will pay nothing (again) but it's the principal don't cha know

I’m not a native British English speaker so maybe my phrasing is strange here. It means an incremental increase.

Troll hunting is against the rules, and your posting history is public 🙌

Exactly

Yes and it's pissing me off.

They have the whole rest of the internet.

I want one place where I can post and get replies from women.

So it does bother you then

No it doesn't. I avoid the sex topic because I'm not interested in anyone else's sex life, male or female. Just pointing out that's where the majority of men in mn seem to be anyway, compared to the other threads.

My husband has started doing the daily puzzles. He hasn't joined yet but he keeps asking my opinion on trending AIBUs, mostly ones I haven't posted on.

Yes there seems to be more men on here in the last few weeks. None of them seem very pleasant and I wonder why they are here or where they have come from. A thread the other day had so many deletions. All of the deleted comments by men. .

You can bet any thread about sex will be full of men. The sex topic is to be avoided at all costs.

"there aren't really any other spaces with men that don't degenerate into "bro" chat"

Right, so take it up with men in other spaces instead of coming into womens' spaces? Fuck me, talk about proving the point exactly why a lot of women don't want men on MN.

As I said earlier, I'm not suggesting a blanket ban on men, there are a couple I appreciate, but your post is exactly why I, and others, want this to remain a female dominated space.

Let women speak and be heard.

There are few places not dominated by men.
I'd prefer if they stuck to other sites and there was one for women.

I avoid them and wouldn't deliberately interact with one. I would prefer a women only site, but even if every single woman agreed with me men would still do what they do. They're easy to spot and scroll past.

"I’m not a native British English speaker so maybe my phrasing is strange here. It means an incremental increase."
I'm a native British English speaker.

The word uptick is a perfectly ordinary word and was used in the correct context.

Yes I've noticed more and a few repeat offenders who like to get others riled up. I got a message from a guy apparently 21 years old asking if I want to watch him masterbate as he liked women in their late 30s. I quickly blocked him and mn banned him. I don't even get messages like that on Facebook or Reddit so I was surprised.

I've seen Mumsnet post links to Mumsnet threads on Twitter. I don't know if that's always been a thing but it could be pulling people who wouldn't normally look at Mumsnet. On the excluding men side there is AI facial recognition software which can recognise male faces. Proposed for for Jenny Watson's lesbian dating app L'App. (Don't think that's been launched yet.)

Yeah, that did not work out so well for Giggle!

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Does it mean increase? If so, why not say increase? Uptick is not a perfectly normal word; it's a 'look at me' word.

It really is a perfectly normal word. Tens of thousands of posters on MN all with slightly different vocabularies and levels of pedantry.

Fun, innit?

I don't mind the 'man here' posters, I think they're being polite. There are quite a few posters back in the day that I didn't spot as men. That's fine, but it's more comfortable to know.

I do wish the Sex topic was how it used to be. I used to go on there a lot but ever since the Sex chat thread was provided, even though it's gone again, it's a very different bit of the site, and reminds me why the rest of MN is special.

'An equivalent space for men' - erm, that would be the Internet. Reddit, for example.

Given that a woman in Australia recently lost a court case for something similar (not allowing a man who claimed he was a woman onto her woman only app) I don't think it's going to go very far.

There are some men who will take extraordinary measures to barge into women's spaces, whether they are wanted or not.

As for men on here, I'm sick of the ones who come on to bitch about their wives, not getting enough sex etc. They all paint themselves as perfect husbands/ fathers ...but I keep thinking - this site is full of women who know well what it's like to have a husband who does fuck all and thinks he's great, do you really think they're going to be on your side here?