Has there been an uptick of male posters on MN?

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Just something I’ve noticed recently. I know MN is not just for women (the About Us states it’s for parents, but I haven’t watched the video as it’s pretty long so maybe more is said there).

I was wondering how other women feel about this? And as for men, are you here to gain a perspective from a female-dominated space? Is there even an equivalent space for men?

Yes. I've been on here for a good number of years, use the site regularly and I have definitely noticed more of this lately. It's off putting.

No, I mean the app, in the App Store.

Men can do as they please. Even if MN did try to make if Mums only they'd still be here.

They were born with the golden ticket and can do whatever they like.

You can always spot male posters who post on the relationship board (they tend to be the ones with the 1800s belief/ attitude of a woman's place....I just ignore them and try not to rise to the bait).
There are also some male posters, that I just start reading their comment, start eye rolling, check the username and stop reading any further.
There are also a few dubious posters that are clearly posting for titillationwanking purposes.
I'm sure there are also some very helpful male posters, but they go under the radar because, well because they are supportive and not looking to derail or a bun fight!

There's been a very obvious "uptick" of people whinging about men being on MN that's for sure.

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I'm an old gimmer and don't like these sort of new expressions! My bad though, you do you 😹

But couldn't anyone just identify as a woman? Would MN need to check birth certificates to see what sex was designated at birth!

More seriously I think sometimes posters are a little unfair about the "man here " posts.

The door come across as " I'm a MAN so everyone should listen to me" but sometimes I think the posters are using it as a shorthand for " I'm speaking from a male point of view" and don't realise how annoying it sounds.

I think it's more for women who have no kids than it is for men. It does grate a little. But I think some people are men but pretend not to be? I could be wrong.

I do sometimes think, "oh yes, XXXXX is a bloke, I forgot". There's only two of them though. The Wall of Text Men are everywhere and very obvious.

Apart from the MRAs, I am really sick of the men who post " Bloke here. Let me tell you what I fancy in a woman. Thong bikinis. Long hair. No makeup. Blah blah blah." We don't care and we don't want to know.

I would like MN to remain a female dominated site.

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What does it mean? Nobody used it a couple of years ago.

But I agree with PPs that male posters can be spotted several miles away.

I do sometimes think, "oh yes, XXXXX is a bloke, I forgot". There's only two of them though. The Wall of Text Men are everywhere and very obvious.

There's a few who I might forget are blokes except they've got usernames which signal they are.

The ones that really irritate me are the ones that come here to irritate us, I'm sure! The ones complaining that their wives no longer love them, etc. They always, always, always turn out to be about not getting enough sex. And they're written in a way that's designed to get posters here to agree that 'aren't women awful'. So many of the handmaiden, 'not my Nigel' types flutter around these men too, as they're too dense to see beyond the fact that it's a man supposedly asking for help.

Unfortunately there isn't anything we can do. Giggle vs Tickle, women aren't allowed to have women only spaces.

At least they tend to keep mostly to the sex forum, apart from starting threads about their wives not being affectionate or being depressed (which when you read further down, the wives just aren't having as much sex with them)

I just come here because I was seeking a UK forum, so tired of how everything else seems to be dominated by the Americans.

I will definitely think about deleting my account.

My apologies for commenting.

I really don’t care if there are more men here. It’s not just for women

Personally I like it, there was a man asking advice the other night and I’d say his wife appreciated the povs he got back which were sensible and friendly enough to probably have made him think (he seemed sensible).

Some of the "man here" posting is just about honesty because it's embarrassing when you are exchanging posts with someone who assumes you are female. It isn't meant to convey that a man's opinion is worth more. As to why I'm a "man here", shouldn't more men be listening to female voices and considering female perspectives about parenting, relationships, etc? I've been on for about a year after first reading about it in the press. I have three kids, one with additional needs, and there aren't really any other spaces with men that don't degenerate into "bro" chat. For me, I like to join in the threads, but it's more about listening than telling.

That’s exactly what Sall Grover tried to set up in Australia, an app called Giggle. There was facial recognition software that screened for men trying to join. Then a man who believes himself to be a woman tried to join and forced his way in through the courts.

Id love access to an online space that was free of men for exactly the kind of reasons op mentions. I think that’s fine for women to want that.

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I just come here because I was seeking a UK forum, so tired of how everything else seems to be dominated by the Americans.

I will definitely think about deleting my account.

My apologies for commenting.
A lot of people over the years have considered deleting their accounts over a huge variety of things- you’ll find there’s a huge range of subjects and views on here and people will be mad at some people for existing but if you think you’ll get something out of mn there’s plenty to get out of it!!

Yeah your advice about vibrators and opinions on teenage girls swimwear are prime examples of listening...
You're all "different" aren't you?...🙄

It doesn't bother me. I only come here for some lightheartedness so I never notice who's male and who isn't. I avoid the sex topic where most of the men hang out.

I prefer that men should stick to other sites. Leave this one to women.

Not that it's not useful to hear their opinions, or in a man-hating way, but it's because this is the only mainly-women site, and we should keep it that way.

So it does bother you then.