Who are you really jealous of?

[Al991]

I’ll start. A woman I know, we’ll call her K. My friends all worship her and cancel plans to hang out with her because she IS objectively more fun to be around.

She’s happy, bubbly and energetic. She’s meticulously clean and tidy and her house is beautiful. Her husband is doting and loving, would do anything to make her happy. And she has no kids 🤣

Worst part is I love her just as much as everyone else because she’s genuinely great so can’t even get mad.

Who is your biggest source of immature teen-like jealousy?

Grandparents/inlaws/whoever who actually rejoice in their grandchildren. Like, really enjoy their common

I saw a woman at the pool the other day who was playing with her grandchildren and the look of absolute joy on all of their faces was absolutely lovely

Berlin lover

💐💐💐 So sorry about the cancer

Judi Dench

I'm jealous of everyone for being able to sleep normally

I'm quite lucky I don't really feel jealous over material things but I feel pangs of jealousy when people talk about what a lovely mum they have / had and what a great childhood. My mum didn't love me and sent me off to live with my Nan when I was younger. She was abusive and didn't protect me from others either. I wonder how differently my life would have turned out if I had known what it was like to be loved as a child. I'm happy for them but also jealous.

My neighbour with no job and intention of working.

(I only realised this yesterday when posting on another thread, I am
actually jealous of this) I feel similarly when I see people smoking and looking
carefree.

I need to cop on immediately.

People who have enough money not to have to work. A couple of DDs friends parents - the mums don’t work, have cleaners and gardeners, have an immaculate home and spend their whole lives (its seems) shopping, playing tennis and meeting in coffee shops. Can say I am a teensy bit jealous!

I'm with you there.

One of the school mums who never has to pay for holiday childcare as her PIL take the children for most or all of the holidays - they maybe have one or two weeks at home in the summer, but are there for half-terms and Easter.

So not only do they never have to pay for childcare, but she and her DH get several child-free weeks over the year. We have no family nearby, and grandparents are now elderly and with health issues, so could not manage a sleepover.

The thing that really annoys me is that she doesn’t even seem grateful! She complains about having to drop them off, and that her MIL is strict about the clothes they wear. If I had healthy parents / PIL who would do even one week of holiday childcare, I’d be so grateful and just tell DD to follow grandma’s rules about clothes for the week!

@EllieQ oh I hate people like that.

My SIL is the same "oh can you believe it, my mum is only taking them for one week in the summer and I have to drop them off"

We have had zero nights without the kids ever..but she is constantly whining about her "lack of family support"

Almost everyone

Everyone.

Well maybe apart from Lucy Letby.

People who are well organised, efficient, on top of their workload and do it well, who just switch off at 5:30 and at weekends in their lovely clean, organised and attractive looking homes.

I'm jealous of no one.
Of course I'd love a big house, more holidays, be more focussed, be more fit and healthy but I'm not jealous of anyone who has those things.
I focus my energy into achieving more in my own life.

I’m not jealous of anyone in an “I want their life” way. I am lucky enough to have a lovely life. But I do get a twinge when I see kids with both grandparents, my dad died in my early 20s and I’d love to have seen him be a grandpa. So I envy people who still have both parents! Including my DH even though I get on very well with my PIL

Jealousy isn't a bad thing. There's no such thing as a bad emotion. It's what you do with it that matters. If you can use that emotion to help you understand your desires, find your ambition etc, then it's a really helpful emotion. If you use it to put other people down to make yourself feel better, or let it get in the way of otherwise good relationships, or let it make you bitter, then it's a very destructive emotion.

Not jealous, a little envious maybe, of those whose retirement involves frequent holidays, exciting and time consuming hobbies, time to volunteer, generally pleasing themselves. I don't actually know anyone whose retirement looks like this. All of us are caring for grandchildren, some as full time carers, dealing with elderly parents who are increasingly frail, suffering some health decline ourselves or supporting adult children with physical or mental ill health.
Of course it's a choice to do this or not, and none would have chosen differently. That doesn't stop us being wistful for what could have been.

I don't think I'm jealous of anyone but I'd love to be one of those instantly likeable people with great social skills and a happy face. Instead I'm an awkward introvert with resting bitch face.

I'm not jealous of any individual people but I would like to be effortlessly slim and naturally sociable.
The reality is I'm overweight and a little bit socially awkward.

Yep, me too. The same.

I don't THINK I'm jealous of anybody....

I’m jealous of people with ha-has. I’ve always wanted one.

Slight professional jealousy of a good friend who sells more books than I do.

what’s a ha-ha?

Yes I want one now too. Whatever it is.

People who have managed to buy houses after being gazumped twice on different properties and a near miss with a property that needed to be completely rewired and had a bathroom that wasn’t waterproof