Who are you really jealous of?

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I’ll start. A woman I know, we’ll call her K. My friends all worship her and cancel plans to hang out with her because she IS objectively more fun to be around.

She’s happy, bubbly and energetic. She’s meticulously clean and tidy and her house is beautiful. Her husband is doting and loving, would do anything to make her happy. And she has no kids 🤣

Worst part is I love her just as much as everyone else because she’s genuinely great so can’t even get mad.

Who is your biggest source of immature teen-like jealousy?

Woman with slim legs here. Would like to swap for living husband 😭

haha same here I have a shit diet but still quite slim. Anyone have a load of money or a husband that hoovers?

@LonelyInDville Re your first one there. Don't be fooled by every couple you see who have been together since they were 20, and are now 45-50+ and seem deliriously happy. They may seem 'truly in love, and seem to cherish each other and have a happy relationship,' but the reality could be quite different.

Nothing is ever quite as it seems. And NO couple is really happy all the time, and without problems. Me and DH have been together around 32 years - and are (for the most part) quite happy these days. There have been some hard times and peaks and troughs in our marriage though, and times I wish I could leave him. I have had times when I hated him, and I'm sure he felt the same about me. Yet people who have known us for many years say they envy us as we are the perfect couple who don't seem to have had a cross word between us. Yeah LOL, no we're not!

We're a married couple who have had to work through a lot of shit, a bunch of problems, family bereavements, financial difficulties, job losses, raising children, and having multiple rows for a 4-5 year period of time in our 30s. We get on well now most of the time, are financially secure now, and rarely row, and do love each other, but the perfect couple we are not! And never have been!

It's always grass is greener isn't it. I met dh young and I hate that I didn't get lots of opportunities as a result. Obviously I could have walked away but that wouldn't be right either, I just wish we met a bit older. My friend met her DH in early 30s and she envied all our shared history and uncomplicated relationship, she says she would love to have met the right person young.

Agree with all this totally.

One of my friends. We call her A. She attracts men left right and centre. How she does it, I'll never know. They just vibe towards her plus she's genuinely nice. I had a real hard time dating when we used to hang out, all of my ex partners would like her.

One of my friends. She's beautiful, has gorgeous clothes, has a husband who adores her and a baby on the way. Really supportive loving family, good job, nice house. Loads of friends who adore her. She just seems to have it all.

My brother. He will admit he isn’t brightest person on earth but he is instinctively very kind, people like him and he hasn’t got many worries (he worries about his kids but probably less than most to be honest). He also does not have ASD so I think a lot of it is based around me being jealous of his social skills. My life is great but occasionally I will just get a weird fit of intense jealousy. I’ve told him this and he thinks it’s really funny and sweet and he says he is jealous of my intelligence and wishes he was “book smart” but to be honest if I could swap a few IQ points for better social skills I would. I’m not a genius or anything but I am really good at anything exam based, so I’ve done very well for myself in that respect. I am really glad we are close and I can talk to him about stuff like this because I think the openness stops resentment building.

Anyone who lives in a stately home. I despair when I see these clueless aristos on tv complaining about their lot - that it costs so much money in upkeep etc. Remember the F**king Fulfords.
I've got so many business ideas to make money for those types of places -I'd just love to get going on turning one into a proper business empire £££

It’s not all that great if you worry about what you eat all the time, my mother has always been ‘slim’ and quite a headturner (she hated us calling her skinny but honestly at points over the years she’s been skin and bone) but her disordered eating is awful. She can go days without food. She always judges others by their weight. She’s so insecure it’s pretty much ruined her life and makes her comment on our bodies (her children!) and she tried it with my children, her granddaughters, but I shut it down immediately - my youngest was 2 at the time! I’d hate to live in her head.

Equally, I am slim, always have been, but you would not want to be me. I have a crippling phobia of vomiting that I suspect is actually a type of OCD, it controls everything I eat, drink and do basically, the people in life I am genuinely jealous of are those who don’t overthink things the way I do and don’t have my awful
phobia! I’d honestly give anything to have a normal brain that doesn’t make me live in fear all the time 😩

People with loving families, that must be so nice. Also stupidly jealous of people who have seen my favourite singer in concert and met him more than I have 🤦🏻‍♀️

My husband.
More successful, smarter, seems to take everything in his stride, confident, doesn't take any shit from anyone.

Everything I want to be, really.

I live on my own and believe me it isn’t fun at all😥

Anyone who's able to retire relatively comfortably with good health. Before that, anyone who has enough financial security to have genuine choices in their life and what they do each day. I feel like my entire life has been one long treadmill of working full time and trying to squeeze housework/renovation stuff into too-short weekends while wanting to do nothing as I'm always tired.

People with two working, pain free knees.

no-one. Very content with my life.

I'm not really jealous of anyone as I've always made my own way in life but if I had to, I would say people who are great at parking as sadly, after nearly 30 years of driving I'm still hopeless at it (I blame being too short to see that far down the bonnet!). And, I guess I'm envious of people who get money for no effort like a big inheritance from spinster Great Aunt Mable who they've never met and vaguely knew the existence of.

I envy those not in constant pain. God that's crept up on me. I'm not envious at all generally but it's just getting me down so badly.

My partner’s daughter. She travels abroad to the most amazing places every five or six weeks. I have cancer and feel nauseous if I walk to the shop.

I’m with the PP who said her cat.

She has no job, no responsibilities and me and DH spend a ridiculous amount of time making sure she’s happy.

I always say cats have reached the pinnacle of reincarnation.

No one but when I was homeless I was very jealous of people who had a home. I remember being in the playground with my daughter and I saw a man watering his plants at his flat and I felt very very jealous of him who had a home and also plants!

People who who have loving supportive families

just knowing that your parents truly love you is wonderful

People with large close families that spend lots of time together and are similar in levels of income and ages of children/cousins.

Women who have loving and supportive relationships with their mums. I'm currently no contact with my mother after a lifetime of verbal abuse and betrayal

I would give anything to have a mother to have tea and a chat with

various people in my industry who have managed to do things I know I'm capable of but will likely never have the time/capacity.

They don't have kids, of course. Or they're men.