Who are you really jealous of?

[Al991]

I’ll start. A woman I know, we’ll call her K. My friends all worship her and cancel plans to hang out with her because she IS objectively more fun to be around.

She’s happy, bubbly and energetic. She’s meticulously clean and tidy and her house is beautiful. Her husband is doting and loving, would do anything to make her happy. And she has no kids 🤣

Worst part is I love her just as much as everyone else because she’s genuinely great so can’t even get mad.

Who is your biggest source of immature teen-like jealousy?

Your friend K sounds like me apart from im single and having a lot of one nighters.

Women with husbands or partners who love and cherish them

Not jealous of anyone really but dds is friends with a billionaire’s Dd and they have staff which would be nice. No drudge to do whatsoever. Was round there and the staff were cooking lunch doing laundry etc.

People who are financially comfortable. So thats 90% mumsnet it seems.

A friend of a friend who I would have spent a fair amount of time with back in my very early 20s. I have her on social media platforms, as well as her mum and sisters.

They are the most nauseating perfect family. Grandparents are alive and well, at least on their mums side. Their own parents are young, together, alive and well.

This girl has 2 sisters and all 3 of the siblings are married and have had children. They all live within a stones throw of one another, including parents and grandparents.

Her parents are retired so just dote on the kids and grandkids. Even taking them away for weekends away!

I'm so jealous. I worry so much about my siblings who can't settle down, have depression.. we don't have parents and never had grandparents. Were quite neglected as kids in fact but we didn't go without, we had nice toys and holidays, just no guidance or love shown.

I struggle so much with 2DCs under 2.5, if we ever need help it's a 2.5 hour drive or paid for help.

They post non stop between them all, not shy at all about the tight knit family they have. I always said 'If you boast on social media about money, it's crass but if you boast on social media about your close knit family, it's wholesome'. Their sickly posts about 'grandads 80th' and 'Dads 60th' with the whole clan there made me feel down. My parents were so old and out of health and bad lifestyles. I am so jealous that family have each other.

Anyone who lives in a quiet remote location with no near neighbours.

People who have aged better than me (nearly everyone I know)

People who have found a loving respectful and kind partner.

People who wake up every morning feeling well and energetic.

I’m jealous of no one. Why are so many people not taught that jealousy is a bad thing? 😔

Literally no-one. I am jealous of no-one. No-one I know has anything I want.

People who seem to be able to eat anything and stay slim!

Women who live on their own!
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🤣 ok love

Good for you!

I feel you at hygienic.
People can be so yuck.

Oh me too !!!! Got no family help up here with my little one.

Interesting .. I might want lots more cash and be thinner etc but I don't want to be someone see or feel jealous. I don't want anyone else's life. This is very new for me I wonder when I stopped wanting to be anybody else but me!

I get jealous about a lot of things (though I'm very self aware and know its a 'me' issue so don't let it impact how I behave or treat people) but I ironically get jealous of people who aren't jealous. People who can hear news of someone they know winning lots of money or being hugely successful or see someone drop dead gorgeous and their first thought is to be thrilled for them as apposed to fighting a gut reaction of feeling jelly

People who don't deal with intrusive thoughts or have permanent fanny problems.

I have a relative - let's call her Lucy.

She has lovely supportive parents, a husband who adores her, conceived easily and has a healthy baby, great relationship with her in laws, no financial concerns at all. Just absolutely everything has gone perfectly for her. And she is lovely and kind and charming and I am really fond of her but also very jealous.

Also - in a different way, one of the school mums I know, let's call her Danielle. She is a yoga teacher, incredibly physically fit, very earth mother, always delighted when it's school holidays "because I do love to spend time with my children, what a treat!", never looks the tiniest bit frazzled or like she has struggled to get her kids out the door in the morning.

I have a friend (who is lovely) I wouldn’t say I’m jealous more envious, I’m sure she has some problems but I have not worked them out yet

beautiful children, all very smart and excel academically and each have a hobby which again they excel at, her dh has a marvellous job so she only works term time part time hours, beautiful house which is slowly being done up with a lot of land, very comfortable financially

where my life just seems to be a constant car crash of problems, her just seems so easy in comparison to mine 🤷‍♀️

Other than that I don’t really get jealous - I don’t have enough time to car crash life

couples that are truly in love and, cherish each other and have a happy relationship, and the jealousy meter goes up if they met young and are still together decades later.

people that have no financial concerns at all

people that have interesting careers that make a lot of money

people who are very tolerant of others

Slim people. I can't move on from it. No matter what is going on they still get to inhabit a nice slim body. Stuck in a traffic jam? Imagine using a lovely slim leg to engage the clutch. Cooking dinner? Imagine seeing an elegant slim wrist stirring a pot. I just cannot imagine the joy of being a slim person taking a shower or pushing a trolley around Tesco, or watching Netflix, or visiting a relative. All the mundane crap, but a much better version of it. I sometimes can't understand why they aren't ridiculously happy all the time. I have to remind myself that they take it so for granted it doesn't even register with them, much as my gift of sight would be enviable to a blind person. I still can't shake it off though, it's my gut reaction to everything.

Women's with long , slim legs.

People who have loving supportive parents. People with high achieving children who have no problems whatsoever. Women who have never needed to worry about their weight .

Outdoorsy people. Those who hop on their bike for a morning ride with the kids. Those who drive out to remote areas to hike. Those who actually enjoy camping.

I like the outdoors. These things all look lovely to me. But I just don't actively enjoy doing them. I like being inside in my own home comforts. I wish I were more willing to step out of my comfort zone.