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Milk allergy death- should the book be thrown at the staff involved?

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mids2019 · 13/08/2024 19:07

....or if you are minimum wage staff member working in a stressed environment without English as a first language there should be leniency. Doctors are paid for life and death decisions but are Costa staff?

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WindsurfingDreams · 14/08/2024 14:16

howaboutchocolate · 14/08/2024 14:10

They would need multiple separate machines if they did that. My DD has milk, soya, and oat allergies, the main three milks used in coffee shops. Almond or coconut milk would be fine but I don't trust coffee machines to be cleaned properly so we don't get hot drinks. It would be nice if we could though.

None of her allergies are life threatening so far, but that shouldn't be the main consideration, she would still be very sick for a few days after eating it. Which is what good food hygiene is supposed to avoid. I wish allergies, even the non life threatening ones, were taken as seriously as food poisoning is.

Yes its funny how people say they would never eat food prepared by someone else if they had serious allergies yet anyone could have a fatal response to food poisoning. My friend who is very fit and healthy was in hospital for weeks and will never be fully recovered after really nasty food poisoning from a meal out (at a pricey restaurant!)

we all take risks in life. We all drive on the roads knowing we can't control the actions of other drivers. The point is that anyone who could potentially put someone's life at risk in the course of their job or business should be held to standard of conduct. Costa are making huge profits they can at least accept the responsibilities that go alongside that.

WickieRoy · 14/08/2024 14:28

WindsurfingDreams · 14/08/2024 14:16

Yes its funny how people say they would never eat food prepared by someone else if they had serious allergies yet anyone could have a fatal response to food poisoning. My friend who is very fit and healthy was in hospital for weeks and will never be fully recovered after really nasty food poisoning from a meal out (at a pricey restaurant!)

we all take risks in life. We all drive on the roads knowing we can't control the actions of other drivers. The point is that anyone who could potentially put someone's life at risk in the course of their job or business should be held to standard of conduct. Costa are making huge profits they can at least accept the responsibilities that go alongside that.

Exactly. I once was ill for 6 weeks after eating some dodgy beef pasta in a restaurant, I lost 1.5 stone and about a third of my hair. But it didn't stop me eating out.

My DD should be able to eat out and trust that staff know enough to use clean utensils for her food and not the knife that just cut a peanut butter sandwich.

AugustAlready · 14/08/2024 14:31

DuckyShincracker · 14/08/2024 13:50

I'm so very sad that this has happened, it's absolutely tragic. My DP has an unpleasant dairy allergy but not life threatening. We run the gauntlet of eating out and are often promised dairy free but are let down. It's very easy to tell when DP has eaten dairy but I won't go into details. One notable occasion at a local pub I questioned if the garlic butter was dairy free. The reply I got was "is butter dairy then?"

@DuckyShincracker
FFS

someone as thick as 2 short planks shouldn't be anywhere near the general public!!

Did you complain to management? If it was a chain, to the HO?

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AugustAlready · 14/08/2024 14:36

Secradonugh · 14/08/2024 14:05

Jugs should be labelled with what is to be put into them. Chopping boards for example are labelled differently (by colour) as to what will be chopped on them. If that means that they need more jugs then so be it.

@Secradonugh

yes, they should, it would be much better.

but it wouldn't have made ANY difference, the Barista poured cows milk into the jug, it wasn't a case of contamination!! She knowingly made the drink with cows milk!!

DysonSphere · 14/08/2024 14:38

Italia89 · 14/08/2024 13:47

@muggart Gaaaah!

@WindSurfingDreams The "peanut privilege" is real. When we were first learning what my son is allergic to I remember being so grateful he wasn't allergic to peanuts (though he does have a hazelnut and cashew allergy).

Knowing what I know now, I'd happily trade his milk for a peanut allergy.

I constantly have people telling me peanut allergies are "more severe" or only nut allergies are airborne.

As you say, milk allergies are sadly the leading cause of anaphylaxis in children.

And we've dealt with an airborne milk anaphylactic reaction when milk was being steamed, so milk can certainly be airborne.

Milk is basically unavoidable and in nursery he was surrounded by cups of milk and cheesy sandwiches and yoghurts. But the staff were always reassuring me there would be no peanuts, as if this means anything to a child who doesn't have a peanut allergy!

If one tiny thing comes from this tragedy, I hope awareness of severe milk allergies is raised.

Wow! You'd rather your child have a peanut allergy than dairy. I never considered before that dairy might be harder to manage than peanut/tree nut allergy. But it makes logical sense.

Thread has been illuminating.

My niece has allergy to both dairy and treenuts. I always thought the nut is harder, but then I don't deal with her allergy on a constant basis.

WickieRoy · 14/08/2024 14:40

DysonSphere · 14/08/2024 14:38

Wow! You'd rather your child have a peanut allergy than dairy. I never considered before that dairy might be harder to manage than peanut/tree nut allergy. But it makes logical sense.

Thread has been illuminating.

My niece has allergy to both dairy and treenuts. I always thought the nut is harder, but then I don't deal with her allergy on a constant basis.

We constantly say that if our DD had to be allergic to anything we're delighted it's peanuts. They're in practically nothing, and it's always taken very seriously.

Milk, egg or something not in the top 14 would be very very difficult.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 14/08/2024 14:45

DuckyShincracker · 14/08/2024 13:50

I'm so very sad that this has happened, it's absolutely tragic. My DP has an unpleasant dairy allergy but not life threatening. We run the gauntlet of eating out and are often promised dairy free but are let down. It's very easy to tell when DP has eaten dairy but I won't go into details. One notable occasion at a local pub I questioned if the garlic butter was dairy free. The reply I got was "is butter dairy then?"

Genuine question, how can butter be dairy free? Surely it wouldn’t be butter if it were.

I think the language usage adds to the confusion. Soy milk, almond milk and so on are not milk and if there weren’t called this then there would be no confusion as to what is what.

Notmushroomforthis · 14/08/2024 14:55

DysonSphere · 14/08/2024 14:38

Wow! You'd rather your child have a peanut allergy than dairy. I never considered before that dairy might be harder to manage than peanut/tree nut allergy. But it makes logical sense.

Thread has been illuminating.

My niece has allergy to both dairy and treenuts. I always thought the nut is harder, but then I don't deal with her allergy on a constant basis.

It's far easier to dodge peanuts than dairy. Go round a supermarket and pick up everything you buy and check the ingredients. It's worse in Aldi and Lidl. Whey is a cheap filler and in so much food and almost impossible to avoid.

Notmushroomforthis · 14/08/2024 14:58

CynthiaSlam · 14/08/2024 14:01

Nah. It's an intelligence test that's needed.

As a recent PP said, some people don't understand that butter is dairy. So what good is it being fluent if you're also just an idiot?

And don't forget the idiots who think eggs are dairy

Notmushroomforthis · 14/08/2024 15:00

Italia89 · 14/08/2024 12:53

Another point to be made here, is that we often use the same word for an intolerance vs sensitivity vs anaphylactic allergy.

When a server hears "allergy", they won't always assume the customer means life-threatening, as most don't.

We really need a separate term here. In the medical field, an allergy that can cause anaphylaxis is an IgE allergy, but the average person won't know this.

When I explain my child's allergies, I usually state "they have an epi pen", but even then I feel the understanding isn't always there.

Every allergy, no matter how serious the reaction, should be treated as if a worst case scenario. I know people who are lactose intolerant who don't mention it because they're happy to take the risk but equally I know people who aren't and so say they are allergic to dairy. Sitting on the toilet in agony for a few days is to me a serious enough reaction to warrant full avoidance if I were in their shoes.

Cornflakericekrispie · 14/08/2024 15:01

trainboundfornowhere · 14/08/2024 13:08

I do have food intolerance to tomatoes, peppers and strawberries. I get stomach cramps, a rash and vomiting though no life threatening reactions. One day though I ate a few Cheesy Wotsits without thinking and I ended up with weeping eyes and running nose. This is not a reaction I had ever had before and I am far more cautious now as I am aware that my intolerance could turn into an allergy. I feel horribly sad for the family as it sounds like the girl had only had mild symptoms or reactions up to that point and so the family maybe hadn’t fully understood how serious it could get.

How soon do you get the symptoms after eating the food? It could be an allergy not an intolerance. You're getting systemic reactions.
Might be wise to go to gp and get it checked out.

OneCoolPearlOP · 14/08/2024 15:03

ABirdsEyeView · 14/08/2024 11:36

@howaboutchocolate I'd agree if their working environment was supportive, so they could concentrate on what they were doing. And if the person who takes the order, makes it and there are separate prep areas. But it's so easy to mis hear or accidentally pick up the wrong bottle of milk in a tiny kitchen area where everything is crowded on one surface. And where you are expected to serve 3 customers at a time.

I've had the wrong order loads of times in coffee shops, so I always double check at the counter. If my child had an allergy, I'd not trust a coffee shop to get this right.

Ultimately I don't think you can give people responsibility for life and death but put them in a noisy, distracting and crowded environment at the same time.

Well the noise,distraction etc is exactly why there was a simple procedure in place - show customer allergen book. Which wasn't followed.

FWIW I don't think the barista bears 100% culpability, but she does bear some. In any case, the current hearing is only the inquest. Nobody has been charged with anything yet.

Also @muggart Who told you that 'vast numbers' of unskilled immigrants were being welcomed by the UK...?
Its not the 1980's where people could just swan in from Commonwealth countries. Or pre-Brexit with lots of unskilled workers from Eastern Europe.
You can now only come here legally on a work visa , granted for specific jobs with a high minimum salary. Even the minimum income threshold for spouse visas have been increased to above the median income. The only visa which perhaps could allow seemingly unskilled workers are the health and social care visa.

Illegal immigrants and refugees are a different category but these people certainly aren't welcomed they're treated horribly and not allowed to work until asylum has been granted, this sometimes takes years.

muggart · 14/08/2024 15:05

My DD has tree nuts, peanuts, sesame & egg allergies. I would have to agree that the nut / peanut allergies are the most manageable, partly because they are (irrationally) taken the most seriously but mainly because they aren't a core ingredient.

Egg is the worst for us because it's in almost everything (or at least it feels like it is) and every brunch or lunch place has it in abundance, not to mention pastries etc.
Sesame is horrible because it rules out so much bread and asian restaurants are entirely off limits due to sesame oil.

IMO dairy, wheat and egg have the worst impact on quality of life.

Dairy is the most fatal for children but the flip side is many children will outgrow their dairy (and egg) allergies, which isn't the case for nuts. Nuts are more fatal for adults which is probably why they get such a bad rep!

howaboutchocolate · 14/08/2024 15:30

Notmushroomforthis · 14/08/2024 15:00

Every allergy, no matter how serious the reaction, should be treated as if a worst case scenario. I know people who are lactose intolerant who don't mention it because they're happy to take the risk but equally I know people who aren't and so say they are allergic to dairy. Sitting on the toilet in agony for a few days is to me a serious enough reaction to warrant full avoidance if I were in their shoes.

The best places I've eaten out who show some understanding always ask if we need to avoid cross contamination. I think most people with an intolerance don't need to, but those with an allergy, however severe, do.

In my DDs case we have to avoid cross contamination but it won't kill her, which is made even more difficult to explain by the fact that I also have to avoid the foods as I'm breastfeeding her. I just say I have an allergy even though I don't to keep it simple, the actions the restaurant has to take are the same.

Lorapots · 14/08/2024 15:38

I just came across a story on social media regarding a potential wrongful death settlement but Disney does not want to pay out clearly.

It seems the woman who died and her partner made it clear she had allergies and the server assured them it was fine. They did use an epi-pen but sadly died anyway.

She was found to have elevated levels of dairy and nut in her system from what she ate, so I’m not sure what happened. Interesting to see how that goes.

edition.cnn.com/2024/08/14/business/disney-plus-wrongful-death-lawsuit/index.html?Date=20240814&Profile=cnn&utm_content=1723645561&utm_medium=social&utm_source=instagram

Lorapots · 14/08/2024 15:50

From another article on the case I linked to above:

Piccolo is seeking in excess of $50,000 from Disney for mental pain and suffering, funeral expenses, medical expenses and loss of income.
He said his wife was highly allergic to dairy and nuts and the couple chose to eat at the pub because they believed Disney would have proper safeguards in place.
The couple repeatedly asked their server about allergen-free food, and claimed the waiter even went to confirm with the chef.
'The waiter unequivocally assured them that the food would be allergen free,' the lawsuit read.
Tangsuan ordered the following menu items: 'Sure I'm Frittered,' 'Scallop Forest,' 'The Shepherd Went Vegan,' and 'Onion Rings.'
The bottom of the menu available online notes, 'Cross-contamination may occur and thus we CAN NOT GUARANTEE that any dish we prepare will be completely free of gluten/allergens.'
She began having severe difficulty breathing and collapsed to the floor, 911 was called and the caller told the dispatcher Tangsuan had self-administered an epi-pen.

I know it’s different companies, different countries etc but I just wonder if in general - not necessarily this case - there needs to be more of a push to hold businesses responsible for these sort of things so perhaps they’ll train staff better or something? I feel we need to hit them where it hurts so things do improve.

I have a very mild allergy to walnuts but it does cross my mind somethings that allergies can get worse and new ones develop.

In this case though they do have their disclaimer that they can’t guarantee it’ll be allergen free. I can imagine many people with known severe allergies will just stop eating out now tbh

WindsurfingDreams · 14/08/2024 16:10

Lorapots · 14/08/2024 15:50

From another article on the case I linked to above:

Piccolo is seeking in excess of $50,000 from Disney for mental pain and suffering, funeral expenses, medical expenses and loss of income.
He said his wife was highly allergic to dairy and nuts and the couple chose to eat at the pub because they believed Disney would have proper safeguards in place.
The couple repeatedly asked their server about allergen-free food, and claimed the waiter even went to confirm with the chef.
'The waiter unequivocally assured them that the food would be allergen free,' the lawsuit read.
Tangsuan ordered the following menu items: 'Sure I'm Frittered,' 'Scallop Forest,' 'The Shepherd Went Vegan,' and 'Onion Rings.'
The bottom of the menu available online notes, 'Cross-contamination may occur and thus we CAN NOT GUARANTEE that any dish we prepare will be completely free of gluten/allergens.'
She began having severe difficulty breathing and collapsed to the floor, 911 was called and the caller told the dispatcher Tangsuan had self-administered an epi-pen.

I know it’s different companies, different countries etc but I just wonder if in general - not necessarily this case - there needs to be more of a push to hold businesses responsible for these sort of things so perhaps they’ll train staff better or something? I feel we need to hit them where it hurts so things do improve.

I have a very mild allergy to walnuts but it does cross my mind somethings that allergies can get worse and new ones develop.

In this case though they do have their disclaimer that they can’t guarantee it’ll be allergen free. I can imagine many people with known severe allergies will just stop eating out now tbh

Edited

These disclaimers are often part of the problem, because certainly in the UK you can't contract out of liability for death or personal injury caused by negligence

Most fatal reactions don't happen as a result of minute traces of cross contamination but because the actual wrong food is given to someone. It can't be that hard to make sure people are given the right food.

KaliJones · 14/08/2024 17:36

As someone who’s worked in coffee shops and retail, I know customers, and I fully believe that the mother did not communicate correctly the allergy and confused the barista (who is paid minimum wage and treated like crap every day and absolutely should not even have been named as it is NOT their fault)

If I had a child with an allergy that bad, I simply wouldn’t take them to a coffee shop. The idea that this could cause these jobs (which no one wants) to have an actual risk of a PRISON sentence (?) because customers can’t ask for things correctly and take responsibility for their own actions is just insane.

OneCoolPearlOP · 14/08/2024 17:40

WindsurfingDreams · 14/08/2024 16:10

These disclaimers are often part of the problem, because certainly in the UK you can't contract out of liability for death or personal injury caused by negligence

Most fatal reactions don't happen as a result of minute traces of cross contamination but because the actual wrong food is given to someone. It can't be that hard to make sure people are given the right food.

I always thought the disclaimer was meant for minute traces of something, not serving the wrong food entirely! IANAL and happy to be corrected but.
Nut allergies for example can be so severe that entire offices are made nut-free. Of course there can be a separate kitchen area, all the correct procedures etc followed but to what extent can anything be made 100% safe? For example if the restaurant itself serves nuts, surely these people would have an allergic reaction triggered by other customers' orders?
Giving a customer the wrong information, or serving the wrong food on the other hand is clear cut negligence. There should be multiple levels of control to ensure that the order is filled correctly.

What we should really have is a standardised set of procedures by the governing body , and if not followed - lead to court action. If a restaurant has followed everything to the letter , yet still couldn't prevent a reaction how is that their fault? If it was preventable it would've been in the guidelines. Some things are just accidents.

WindsurfingDreams · 14/08/2024 17:52

OneCoolPearlOP · 14/08/2024 17:40

I always thought the disclaimer was meant for minute traces of something, not serving the wrong food entirely! IANAL and happy to be corrected but.
Nut allergies for example can be so severe that entire offices are made nut-free. Of course there can be a separate kitchen area, all the correct procedures etc followed but to what extent can anything be made 100% safe? For example if the restaurant itself serves nuts, surely these people would have an allergic reaction triggered by other customers' orders?
Giving a customer the wrong information, or serving the wrong food on the other hand is clear cut negligence. There should be multiple levels of control to ensure that the order is filled correctly.

What we should really have is a standardised set of procedures by the governing body , and if not followed - lead to court action. If a restaurant has followed everything to the letter , yet still couldn't prevent a reaction how is that their fault? If it was preventable it would've been in the guidelines. Some things are just accidents.

Agreed, and I think the disclaimer is fine for that purpose but my worry is it lulls people into thinking they don't have liability for negligence when they absolutely do.

If you don't want to take responsibility for it, don't run a food business.

Especially places like Costa that are making chunky profits, they have no excuse for not getting their processes right

WindsurfingDreams · 14/08/2024 17:56

KaliJones · 14/08/2024 17:36

As someone who’s worked in coffee shops and retail, I know customers, and I fully believe that the mother did not communicate correctly the allergy and confused the barista (who is paid minimum wage and treated like crap every day and absolutely should not even have been named as it is NOT their fault)

If I had a child with an allergy that bad, I simply wouldn’t take them to a coffee shop. The idea that this could cause these jobs (which no one wants) to have an actual risk of a PRISON sentence (?) because customers can’t ask for things correctly and take responsibility for their own actions is just insane.

It's not different from being criminally liable on the roads.
We all drive our children on the roads (or walk along them, or cross them) knowing that anyone on the roads could be driving under the influence of drugs or alcohol

There is a standard of care below which, in any situation, someone can be held criminally liable and rightly so.

Of course there's an evidential threshold to meet and that is why Costa should have made sure they had much better record keeping (like some restaurants do really well these days)

But people need to get their head round the fact that food is not benign and therefore needs to be approached with the same care and responsibility as driving a vehicle or providing cosmetic treatment or any of the other profession anywhere negligence could potentially result in a criminal conviction and /or civil liability

Lorapots · 14/08/2024 17:57

WindsurfingDreams · 14/08/2024 16:10

These disclaimers are often part of the problem, because certainly in the UK you can't contract out of liability for death or personal injury caused by negligence

Most fatal reactions don't happen as a result of minute traces of cross contamination but because the actual wrong food is given to someone. It can't be that hard to make sure people are given the right food.

I agree it seems as if it’s the wrong food that’s been given as opposed to traces which is massively worrying - if companies are continually allowed to wriggle out of taking responsibility nothing will change. Watching to see how these current cases unfold with interest.

WickieRoy · 14/08/2024 18:00

KaliJones · 14/08/2024 17:36

As someone who’s worked in coffee shops and retail, I know customers, and I fully believe that the mother did not communicate correctly the allergy and confused the barista (who is paid minimum wage and treated like crap every day and absolutely should not even have been named as it is NOT their fault)

If I had a child with an allergy that bad, I simply wouldn’t take them to a coffee shop. The idea that this could cause these jobs (which no one wants) to have an actual risk of a PRISON sentence (?) because customers can’t ask for things correctly and take responsibility for their own actions is just insane.

Do you think someone would be held responsible if they added rat poison to load of coffees and handed them over to customers?

Staff who work in food service are absolutely responsible for safety around allergies, regardless of their pay level.

If the staff member didn't have adequate training, then Costa are at fault. If she did, then she is to blame.

UnfriendMe · 14/08/2024 18:00

If your condition is so critical that a simple mistake could kill you, maybe don't put yourself in that situation? If someone is deathly allergic to potatoes and they go to McDonald's hoping a minimum age worker won't make a mistake, that stupidity is most definitely on them.

WindsurfingDreams · 14/08/2024 18:03

Lorapots · 14/08/2024 17:57

I agree it seems as if it’s the wrong food that’s been given as opposed to traces which is massively worrying - if companies are continually allowed to wriggle out of taking responsibility nothing will change. Watching to see how these current cases unfold with interest.

Edited

It's no different from wheelchair access to me. People with allergies shouldn't be excluded from a huge part of modern life (eating /drinking out with friends) and the legislation should reinforce that.

Plus each business that doesn't accommodate my child with allergies safely misses out on the business of the rest of our family as we would never go somewhere where he wasn't safe. Given the rise in people with allergies companies that can't get this right are missing out on a lot of business

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