DD 16 months and DD 4 share a bedroom, once they are both settled and asleep there is no issues and they sleep great but bedtime is taking hours every night and we're both exhausted.
16mo goes up first and needs cuddled to sleep, I have no issue with this but she is at a point of fighting sleep so it can take up to an hour to actually get her off. usually me or DH will take her into our bedroom to get her to sleep so she isn't disturbed by 4yo coming to bed. Whoever is downstairs with 4yo will bring her up 30-45 mins after 16mo comes up and will sit with her until she falls asleep because she wont stay by herself, this can take anything from 15 mins to an hour.
By the end of bedtime myself and DH are exhausted ourselves we pretty much just sit in silence or go to bed, we have next to no time to ourselves.
We've tried putting them both down together but they just bounce off each other and keep each other awake so it ends up taking longer.
What's your routine if your kids share a room? I'd love just to have an hour a night to decompress but Is this normal and we just have to wait it out until they are a bit older?