Any there any good things about being the middle child?

[Lelophants]

Just curious really and not thinking about having a third child 😳

Tend to be peace makers
Don't think the world revolves around them.
Learn to consider others
Can be independent.
Good conversationalist, and self reliant.

It's a great position to be in, less cossetted than the eldest and youngest.

Well, being the eldest is shite, but there’s not you can do about that one.

As a middle...no, can't think of any

This might be true out of necessity. But also learn not really to ask for help and to try not to bother anyone which as an adult has required a lot of unpicking

I’m middle, it’s all been positive, same for my middle child too.

Also a middle and I only had 2 children because of it.

None what so ever. An older brother who was seriously the golden child, clearly favoured by my mother. Baby sister who was somewhat of a surprise apparently and then spoilt rotten.

These are definitely true for me except for the conversationalist part. I'm ok now but I had a terrible stutter throughout childhood that only really resolved after I got my first full time job at 18 and had to communicate.

I love being a middle child! No one really bothers me in the family, and I just get on with my own life, which is just how I like it.

No

Yep, that’s me. Nothing to recommend it.

Completely agree with both of these posts. I hated being a middle child but can see how it's shaped me through life. I feel guilty and almost apologetic asking for any help and there's absolutely no chance of ever feeling like the world revolves around me.

IME oldest is privileged as a result of being, well, the precious first born. And youngest is the pampered baby who completes a family. It's isolated in the middle. And often golden children produce golden grandchildren..... So the cycle of never feeling good enough can continue well into adulthood

The middle one is the one everyone loves. Eldest and youngest want to kill each other, both adore middle one.

Everyone thinks their own birth position is the worst. Being the eldest totally sucked.

As with anything it depends on the personality of each child in the family. In my case it worked out fine because I never felt overlooked or less important. This may be down to excellent parenting but I would say my older sibling has a natural tendency to feel aggrieved, I tend to be complacent if anything, and my younger sibling has always been laid back. I think we would have had the same traits regardless of family position, but if my older brother had been the middle child he would be on here telling you how tough it was.

I'm the middle of 5 and I am the best.
The others won't acknowledge it obviously.

I hated being a middle child but can see how it's shaped me through life. I feel guilty and almost apologetic asking for any help

I just want to say I am a middle child and I have never once had trouble asking for help or attention or recognition. It wouldn't occur to me to feel apologetic about doing so.

Same.

Except they usually have a huge chip on their shoulder😂

I think my view is skewed by having dysfunctional parents. So it is diffcult to separate anything out from that.
Honestly, have as many DC as you want as long as you have enough time and love to go around and you try to be as fair as possible, and don’t have an addiction (I make an exception for coffee here). Don’t think or express that any of them ruined your life and if you have a favourite, certainly don’t tell the one who is not the favourite.

Being the middle child is awful as you're the least special.

You're not the special first born child who hits all the milestones in life first or the baby of the family who gets doted on. You're nothing, may as well not be there.

Wouldn't wish it on anyone.

This sounds really good actually.

But what if you’re the only girl or boy?

I know only one person who is a middle child and she is so nice! But she’s the most happy go lucky person I’ve ever met so may just be her.

Oldest is always made to be responsible for everything and the third is always mollycoddled. The middle child gets more freedom and less hassle 😂

No issues with being a middle child. Was only girl sandwiched between 2 boys so perhaps that helped? But was not treated as anything special just because I was a girl & if anything, my mum prefers boys!

Have never understood the angst about being a middle child but obviously everyone's experience is different.