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My best friend has been attacked today.

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Cadela · 08/08/2024 19:28

She’s Brazilian and white, but because she has an accent whilst we were waiting for a taxi a group of very young, around 10-17 year olds white kids spat on her and started shouting fucking horrific abuse.

Police were there within a minute of our call THANK GOD and loads of people on the street stepped in to help, and if you were in Norwich today on Gentleman’s Walk. - THANK YOU for helping.

I cannot believe it has got to this point where my settled status friend is now having to give statements and recover after having a glass of wine and going home. What the fuck is this county?

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Abigail47 · 08/08/2024 22:09

Tlittle · 08/08/2024 21:54

Sorry to hear that. I am local to Norwich and heard two guys being racist to a begger on tuesday there when I was with my kids. I was shocked tbh as have never heard it before there and felt sorry for the man receiving it.

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I genuinely can't understand people being "shocked" at racist abuse.

Are you aware of the UKs history at all?

There has been loads of racist abuse in the UK.

For a long long time.

Look at the history books.

One of the times was when they used to put up signs in London that said

"No blacks. No Irish. No dogs"

SummerSnowstorm · 08/08/2024 22:09

Eldrick47s · 08/08/2024 20:36

I think the police haven't helped either with their passive approach. Any little thug watching the far right fascist riots where the police stood back and did nothing will have been emboldened.

That seems unfair. There have been hundreds and hundreds of arrests with fast tracked high sentences as a deterrent.
Like with any of the other recent violent protests the police have to be mindful of crowd control. Sometimes going in too hard at the wrong stage could actually worsen an already hard to manage situation and become more dangerous for the general public.

betterangels · 08/08/2024 22:10

Spitting is such a sign of contempt. I will never forget being spat in the face by some random dude just going about my business getting to work. My apparent crime was being in England as a disabled foreigner. I don't look English, I guess.

This was almost 20 years ago. I want to shower every time I think about it.

I'm so sorry for your friend and for you, too. What's happening is abhorrent.

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 08/08/2024 22:12

I'm so sorry this happened to your friend 🧡 I hope she is OK and being looked after.

So awful to hear it happened in Norwich. I live near the showground outside of the city and I'm mixed race (half Chinese), but now I'm pretty worried about going out around the city and local area more. Our community on our estate has seen a rise in general poor behaviour from the teens and kids more recently, with real reasons for local residents to be getting pretty concerned.

Nothing that involves racism as such as far as I know, but it's only a matter of time I guess.

I originally lived a very multicultural town in Bucks before I moved to Norwich a decade ago. The population there was a lot of Bangladeshi people, and my best friend from primary was the daughter of the owner of a local Indian restaurant, which did the most delicious curries. I dread to think how the Bangladeshi community there are faring.😞😪

SallyWD · 08/08/2024 22:18

Cadela · 08/08/2024 21:42

Actually it is shocking here, in my 20 years of being here I’ve never experienced or seen racial hate, hence my post.

Dd’s school is massively multicultural, she’s not growing up with racism.

It’s not normal for Norfolk, we’re not isolated, I find it quite vile that you have that mindset.

My DH is Asian and we used to live in Norwich. He suffered a couple of racists incidents there. He was never physically attacked but suffered verbal abuse.
We used to live in Magdalen street where there are a lot of Indian restaurants. I saw racism directed at the Indian waiters a few times. One time I saw a gang of white thugs chasing a group of terrified Indian waiters up the street. This was in around 2005. Racism has always existed in Norwich like everywhere else.
We still go back to Norwich a few times a year. There are definitely more black and Asian people there now, but it's not multicultural compared to many places. We're now in a big city and 60% of the children in my children's school are from ethnic minorities. Norwich feels very white compared to that. I'm not saying that's a bad thing, it's just different.

Abigail47 · 08/08/2024 22:19

SallyWD · 08/08/2024 22:18

My DH is Asian and we used to live in Norwich. He suffered a couple of racists incidents there. He was never physically attacked but suffered verbal abuse.
We used to live in Magdalen street where there are a lot of Indian restaurants. I saw racism directed at the Indian waiters a few times. One time I saw a gang of white thugs chasing a group of terrified Indian waiters up the street. This was in around 2005. Racism has always existed in Norwich like everywhere else.
We still go back to Norwich a few times a year. There are definitely more black and Asian people there now, but it's not multicultural compared to many places. We're now in a big city and 60% of the children in my children's school are from ethnic minorities. Norwich feels very white compared to that. I'm not saying that's a bad thing, it's just different.

Yes I've heard people say that before.

That Norwich is a very white city

saltytowers · 08/08/2024 22:24

Many years ago, in my last job (a law firm) we had a Spanish secretary briefly. A client spewed racist bile down the phone at her one day (the usual stuff about going back where she came from on hearing her accent). She was so shocked she dropped the phone, told us what had happened and then burst into tears. Another secretary picked up the phone and ripped him a new arsehole. Then the partner that represented him was informed, phoned this client back and told him the firm was no longer prepared to act for him.

Must have 25-30 years ago and you'd think things would have changed but here we still are.

Porridgenpots · 08/08/2024 22:24

LateAF · 08/08/2024 20:43

It takes these riots for people to finally admit that Britain is racist. I’m sorry for your friend but getting spat on by adults passing me on the street happened several times in my childhood. No minority that has grown up in the UK is surprised by what is happening right now. It’s only the while people who refused to listen when we said that England is racist for years that seem shocked by this. This has been our daily reality knowing that many people in this country hate us for existing in the colour of our skin.

True, what happened around 2016/ Brexit and now again with the riots is the ever present hate kind of reaches fever pitch and extends past the usual targets - Muslims & POC to reach some non-English whites.

I watched a bbc documentary with a Polish woman saying she was dismayed and shocked about Brexit as her friends and neighbours told her she wasn’t the type of immigrant people mind, so she was shocked the nation had turned on her as she saw it and basically voted to limit how many people came from her country.

I wish the interviewer had asked her to elaborate what her neighbours had meant, and how she had felt about that at the time pre-Brexit but I’m pretty sure we can all guess what she meant. People often don’t care until they’re in the firing line 🤷‍♀️

ForGreyKoala · 08/08/2024 22:26

How awful, your poor friend. What on earth is happening in the UK at the moment?

Tlittle · 08/08/2024 22:29

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Abigail47 · 08/08/2024 22:30

ForGreyKoala · 08/08/2024 22:26

How awful, your poor friend. What on earth is happening in the UK at the moment?

At the moment?

Sure racism has always been here in the UK.

In my last job, I worked in a large office in a large UK city

We dealt with a lot of customers, and I answered calls.

A lot of foreign people worked in my office.

The amount of times I had people ringing me and saying : "oh I finally got through to someone that's from here that can speak English. Those Indian fuckers don't have a clue".

I was allowed to hang up on people if they were being really racist about my other colleagues.

I was thinking "those "indians" that worked with me had masters degrees actually.

Anyone that was foreign who worked in the office, experienced racist abuse.

My colleague said to me thst she answered a call and the customer said "not another paki bitch"

Etc etc.
They were getting calls like that every week

Abigail47 · 08/08/2024 22:31

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I wont shut up about the UK's long racist history

Nope.

Allofaflutter · 08/08/2024 22:31

As a local I’m so sorry to hear this.i was not expecting it to be Norwich. I’ve personally not seen and racist behaviour but I’m white so I’m not the ones they would target.

Abigail47 · 08/08/2024 22:36

Allofaflutter · 08/08/2024 22:31

As a local I’m so sorry to hear this.i was not expecting it to be Norwich. I’ve personally not seen and racist behaviour but I’m white so I’m not the ones they would target.

I'm sorry allofaflutter , but I think its a bit silly for anyone to say that they weren't expecting racism to happen in their city.

Racism is everywhere in the UK.

Everywhere.

It would be like me saying "oh I wasn't expecting racism to happen in cambridge".

It seems naive and thoughtless.

Of course it happens

CozzieG · 08/08/2024 22:38

Getonwitit · 08/08/2024 21:17

For the last 5 years teens in my area have been out of control. Nothing to do with riots and everything to do with a left wing education system and parents who don't parent.

"A left wing education system". Just checking you'd noticed we've had a tory government for 14 year They're not known for their left wing policies. Maybe research the changes to education started by Gove. I have no words. This is a thread about racist attacks and the behaviour of children.

RubyMentor · 08/08/2024 22:39

Fucking hell that's horrendous I hope that your friend is okay

Porridgenpots · 08/08/2024 22:42

Not sure what left education system is being referred to but I do agree it’s partly about lack of good parenting.

Did anyone see the video of the wee girl in Belfast shouting the P-word in one of the riots there and her mum or whichever adult was with her was obviously delighted?

www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/uk-riots-girl-skips-down-33412748.amp

paddypipedown · 08/08/2024 22:46

I'm so sorry for what happened to your friend. A very similar incident occured in the town I live in - and the person (physically attacked by youths for having an accent) was hospitalised. It was a random incident - not part of a riot or protest.

I have no words for any of this. It's absolutely senseless and feels like we've gone back in time.

RosyappleA · 08/08/2024 23:02

My SIL is young and comes from an ethnic minority and we were having conversations about recent events. I said that I thought we were past this, that the rise in social media especially has made us less racist as people watch and follow people from all over. I said especially in London it can’t be like that. It made me sad when she said I have no idea and she has experienced racism all her life IN London and described a few events. I think the more impoverished, ignorant ones take out all their frustrations on immigrants who appear to be doing better than them.

GingerScallop · 08/08/2024 23:03

Abigail47 · 08/08/2024 22:36

I'm sorry allofaflutter , but I think its a bit silly for anyone to say that they weren't expecting racism to happen in their city.

Racism is everywhere in the UK.

Everywhere.

It would be like me saying "oh I wasn't expecting racism to happen in cambridge".

It seems naive and thoughtless.

Of course it happens

Indeed. There isn't a place in the uk that is free of racism. And am always surprised when people say: "am surprised you experience racism. I haven't seen it. Am white".
Of course they don't see it because it's not happening to them.
My in laws were so positive about this country these last 2 to 3 years. And would "politely" dismiss that I didn't share their optimism. I just stopped talking about it because theirs was the optism and naïveté only à white person can have. I wonder how they feel now. Probably forgotten about those discussions. They are shocked and sad but I wonder if they are reflecting on their naïveté

Livingtothefull · 08/08/2024 23:08

I am very sorry that this happened to your friend & I am so saddened to read the stories on this thread.

I am old enough to remember racist slogans on display in cities in the 70s-80s, also one of my non-British relatives around that time was called a 'bloody foreigner' in the street. I thought/hoped these kinds of attitudes had been left behind in the past, it is beyond depressing that there are still diehard bigots like these around.

They let us all down and should feel so ashamed of themselves.

socialdilemmawhattodo · 08/08/2024 23:08

Tauranga · 08/08/2024 21:03

You are so condescending. Perhaps the lived experiences of the people who live in the 'deprived white majority area' is entirely different to your own, living as you do in an area with "nice" well educated people.

As of course, well educated people are automatically correct in their political leanings, and deprived white people are automatically wrong, due to them of course being uneducated.

People have a different way of seeing the world based on their goals, experiences and values. You are dismissing working class white peoples goals, experiences and values because you believe them to be racist, thick and "not nice".

You are the one who sounds not nice.

Probably best if you re-read the post you've criticised. I think you've missed its main message.

Abigail47 · 08/08/2024 23:13

RosyappleA · 08/08/2024 23:02

My SIL is young and comes from an ethnic minority and we were having conversations about recent events. I said that I thought we were past this, that the rise in social media especially has made us less racist as people watch and follow people from all over. I said especially in London it can’t be like that. It made me sad when she said I have no idea and she has experienced racism all her life IN London and described a few events. I think the more impoverished, ignorant ones take out all their frustrations on immigrants who appear to be doing better than them.

I'm genuinely shocked that you thought that we as a country were "past racism". Are you living under a rock?

Like, how could you have thought that?

I was volunteering in a charity. We often used to have guest speakers in to talk about different relevant things.

One black woman who was the director of a different charity came in and gave us a talk. A very educated and established woman.

She told us that she was constantly told to "fuck off back to Nigeria". She said she remembered thinking sadly "but my parents aren't even from nigeria". She was getting racist abuse and the racist abuse wasn't even correct. Her parents were from a different part of Africa.

She told us that she was spat at om the street , hit, pushed over, called racist abuse, every month.

Abigail47 · 08/08/2024 23:17

I think the white people on here who are saying that "I didn't expect racism would be in my city".

Or even crazier, the people who said,

"I didn't think that racism happened at all anymore , I thought we were past that".

Are a big part of the racism problem .

White people thinking that racism does not even exist, is part of the problem.

It's like when you try to talk to some men about all of the abuse and sexism that women go through in life.

And they dismiss it and the men say " ah that doesn't go on, sure its fine, women have it easy in life".

It doesn't happen to them, so they don't care about it, or even see it

AdviceNeeded2024 · 08/08/2024 23:22

SummerSnowstorm · 08/08/2024 22:09

That seems unfair. There have been hundreds and hundreds of arrests with fast tracked high sentences as a deterrent.
Like with any of the other recent violent protests the police have to be mindful of crowd control. Sometimes going in too hard at the wrong stage could actually worsen an already hard to manage situation and become more dangerous for the general public.

Yes this 100%. When there’s a large crowd and things are simmering, it absolutely can make it go up and very quickly become out of control. Often police are outnumbered. These are carefully practiced tactics by specialist trained officers. They can always arrest later if needs be.