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Do you get homesick when on holiday?

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BlueButterflyHome · 03/08/2024 21:08

I have always struggled with travel and being away from home. Even as a child I hated sleepovers as I just wanted to be in my bed.

All holidays I go on (good and bad) I struggle with homesickness. I just feel so sad at night time and long to be home.

It’s annoying because I do like travel and it’s not like I have an amazing home to get back to! It just seems to be something that’s a part of me.

I can remember sobbing all night on a school trip abroad aged 13. I had a good time during the day but dread came over me at night. It’s the same now I am an adult although I manage not to sob.

Is anyone else like this?

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KnickerlessParsons · 03/08/2024 21:10

No. For me it's more "wherever I lay my hat, that's my home". I love travelling.

FionnulaTheCooler · 03/08/2024 21:11

Yes, I definitely look forward to going home to my own bed again.

Toomuchcuddles · 03/08/2024 21:11

I enjoy travel and going away but I don’t think I have ever been on trip where I haven’t been homesick …I don’t even like my flat

owladventure · 03/08/2024 21:13

Only the first night or two while I adjust. If it's a long/tiring/stressful journey then maybe a day or two longer. Once I feel familiar and settled in the new place it's ok. Unless I get sick or something else happens that gives me a reason to want to be at home.

Drunkhusband · 03/08/2024 21:14

Yes I’ve always had this. I used to (before kids) book fancy holidays then when they came about and I had to leave my house and the dog, I’d suddenly not want to go. I used to get it a lot with my parent’s house as I never felt fully relaxed unless I was back there. I moved away for uni but less than an hour’s drive away. I’d be driving back to my flat then suddenly find myself on the motorway and I’d decided to go home again. I think I’ve got slightly better but the main thing for me now is leaving the dog and knowing that even though a dog walker comes in, he is still having a worse week because I’m not there

MonsteraMama · 03/08/2024 21:15

No, but I do always have the most amazing sleep when I get home and back into my own bed!

I have a friend who gets homesick who I holiday with occasionally, she brings a small throw off her bed from home to snuggle up in at night!

honeyfox · 03/08/2024 21:15

I was homesick a lot as a small kid. I haven't been since I was 8 or so in my cousin's house for a week, I love holidays. I have the rest of the year to enjoy my own house.

owladventure · 03/08/2024 21:15

I just feel so sad at night time and long to be home.

One technique to manage this is to end the day by listing 3 things you enjoyed that day and 3 things you're looking forward to the next day.

I think it's natural for emotions to be more raw at night when you're tired and somewhere less familiar.

Overtheatlantic · 03/08/2024 21:15

I always miss my cat but otherwise no. I love being away and then the absolute joy of seeing England out of the windows of the airplane is very special.

Katherineryan1986 · 03/08/2024 21:15

I wouldn’t say homesick exactly but I do like to get back to my own house and bed and routines.
My husband likes a 2 week (or longer) holiday, but I am happy with a week, so we usually compromise and have 10 or 11 nights.

BeaRF75 · 03/08/2024 21:20

Dear Lord, no. I have never been homesick, and as a teenager I was always desperate to be away from home. Now, although I'm happy at home, I love travel and go away as often as possible. The hardest part of lockdown for me was going something like 4 or 5 months without a single night away from home - grim.

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BlueButterflyHome · 03/08/2024 21:20

Drunkhusband · 03/08/2024 21:14

Yes I’ve always had this. I used to (before kids) book fancy holidays then when they came about and I had to leave my house and the dog, I’d suddenly not want to go. I used to get it a lot with my parent’s house as I never felt fully relaxed unless I was back there. I moved away for uni but less than an hour’s drive away. I’d be driving back to my flat then suddenly find myself on the motorway and I’d decided to go home again. I think I’ve got slightly better but the main thing for me now is leaving the dog and knowing that even though a dog walker comes in, he is still having a worse week because I’m not there

Yes I am like this as well. By the time I’ve finished packing I am over it and don’t want to go!

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FourForYouGlenCoco1 · 03/08/2024 21:26

Yes, massively. We’ve just arrived, so only on day 1 of our week long holiday and I feel terribly homesick. I miss my pets.

I feel it less on active holidays (like skiing), but sitting by a pool all week leaves me too much time to think 🤦🏽‍♀️

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BlueButterflyHome · 03/08/2024 21:28

owladventure · 03/08/2024 21:15

I just feel so sad at night time and long to be home.

One technique to manage this is to end the day by listing 3 things you enjoyed that day and 3 things you're looking forward to the next day.

I think it's natural for emotions to be more raw at night when you're tired and somewhere less familiar.

Thanks that’s a good tip. I do like holidays and love watching my children have fun. I traveled quite a bit before I had kids as well. Even back then I struggled with home sickness. I think I feel silly as travel is something you are supposed to enjoy. If it were up to me I would prefer just to stay at home now.

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ThereIsAMassivePiegeonOnMyFence · 03/08/2024 21:29

I miss my pets, but I don’t like my house or neighbours, so not homesick. Petsick 😅

ShoehornSheryl · 03/08/2024 21:33

i love my home and would rather be there than anywhere else

MadameMassiveSalad · 03/08/2024 21:37

No. Love holidays.

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BlueButterflyHome · 03/08/2024 21:40

ShoehornSheryl · 03/08/2024 21:33

i love my home and would rather be there than anywhere else

See I don’t even like my home that much! My house is old and needs a lot of improvements. So it’s not like I am missing a lovely location when away.

I just seem to not be able to cope with being away.

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Cysco · 03/08/2024 21:42

I've always been a bit homesick at night on holiday.

Zanatdy · 03/08/2024 21:43

I miss my dog a lot, but my home / bed, no.

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 03/08/2024 21:44

Yes, I love booking a holiday but as soon as I get there I think "I just want my own bed" or "how many nights until I'm home".
Don't know why!

needhelpwiththisplease · 03/08/2024 21:44

Only if it's past 10days .

PassingStranger · 03/08/2024 21:46

Nope don't get homesick.

sawnotseen · 03/08/2024 21:48

Nope. Same as @KnickerlessParsons -I love travelling and never want to come home. Travelled a lot in my 20s, 3mths, 6mths,. Now at 53 a three week holiday is ideal and when I retire, my holidays will be longer.

Sadtosaythis · 03/08/2024 21:49

Yes. I really struggled as a child with this and still do now if I’m away without one or all of my kids. It’s a horrible panicky stomach feeling that I only get in this situation. I’ve felt like it my whole life. I thought it was just me!