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Ice cream on holiday

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Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 01/08/2024 22:50

If you were on a sun holiday how often would you allow your kids have an ice cream or treat? Just curious, am having a disagreement with DH here.

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notacooldad · 01/08/2024 23:06

Everyday to be honest. We didn’t have it the rest of the year so why not?

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Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 01/08/2024 23:07

Nicknacky · 01/08/2024 23:03

What is his objection?

Ds is overweight, I admit this is a big problem and we have chatted about changes to be made after Summer. He didn't quite realise how big he is until he stripped off a few days ago. The weight gain has been recent and sudden. I've genuinely been worried and talked to DS about cutting portions a little to make room for treats but I need to seriously address it, I just thought we could park it til after the holiday.

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ShanequaAndWhat · 01/08/2024 23:11

That does change things but there are so many factors at play here.

How old is DS? What's his relationship with food? Is it puppy fat or prep for a growth spurt?

Weight change is normal in kids to a point. Either way, it's ok for him to have two a day. Don't give the poor kid a complex.

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NaomiNameChange · 01/08/2024 23:12

None another day to “make up for it”?! What’s to make up for? What overall impact on your DS is one extra ice cream on holiday going to have that it needs to be mitigated against another day?

Unless your child is obese, has serious dental issues or the ice cream is unaffordable I don’t see the issue.

Edit - ok, your child has weight issues, I don’t think deciding to address it on holiday is a good place to start. He didn’t get overweight from holiday ice creams. Get medical advice to address it, carefully.

Divebar2021 · 01/08/2024 23:16

Holidays are not the time to be addressing weight problems… for anybody. I’d make sure he’s eating some fruit and veg with his meals and be sensible with the treats but not overly restrictive. When you get back you can have some healthier meals for the whole family and do some activities.

LittleGreenDragons · 01/08/2024 23:18

How old is DS? All three of my brothers got chubby just before a growth spurt and by midteens all were lanky.

I normally say daily as a holiday treat but your extra one was as a dessert, what else was there to choose from cake, cheesecake, etc?

PeterCapaldiBae · 01/08/2024 23:18

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 01/08/2024 23:07

Ds is overweight, I admit this is a big problem and we have chatted about changes to be made after Summer. He didn't quite realise how big he is until he stripped off a few days ago. The weight gain has been recent and sudden. I've genuinely been worried and talked to DS about cutting portions a little to make room for treats but I need to seriously address it, I just thought we could park it til after the holiday.

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Quite a few people may change their opinion now you've mentioned your DS is overweight, but I agree with you, OP. It's an issue to tackle once you're home from holiday. Let him have a second ice cream and enjoy his holiday. Address the weight afterwards.

Just an aside, if it's been recent and sudden, have you checked there's no underlying medical issue?

Swollenandgrouchy · 01/08/2024 23:20

Probably a couple a day. I wouldn’t stress about it that’s for sure.

WickieRoy · 01/08/2024 23:20

AI - after lunch, after dinner and often another in the afternoon.

Other - after dinner, and maybe another in the afternoon some days.

Mine are healthy weights and stop when full though (unlike their mother Blush).

The weight issue does slightly change things IMO, but I'd focus more on sensible portions for the holiday. Making an issue of food isn't going to help at all.

If your DH is so invested in his DC's weight, why did it take a holiday for him to realise?

GoFigure235 · 01/08/2024 23:26

When we go on resort holidays, my DC is allowed 2 ice lollies a day plus ice cream after dinner.

Doingmybest12 · 01/08/2024 23:37

Ice cream from a kiosk or van are pretty expensive depending on how many you are buying for , I think 1 a day is plenty .

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Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 01/08/2024 23:38

Ds is 11 and hasn't had a growth spurt yet, he is small enough for his age. He seems to have a bottomless pit stomach and I feel i am constantly saying no at home but I also agree I've failed to monitor it enough as he has gained weight. The diet is fairly healthy so the issue seems to be portion sizes. His siblings are both a healthy weight. I agree its something to be addressed and not just wait for a growth spurt, I just don't think today is the day. He was reading by the pool today and DH started telling him to get up and do something, he isn't active enough, ffs he was just chilling out for a while. So there has already been a fight brewing today as I told DH he was being unfair and let the child relax. He said we need to address the weight issue, I agreed and according to DH I contradicted myself by giving DS ice cream this evening.

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LittleGreenDragons · 01/08/2024 23:49

He said we need to address the weight issue,

If he carries on then you can probably lose 12st immediately 😉

Is he in good shape himself, or does he want the whole family eating healthier? Or is he just focusing on DS? That is where you start, although it's slightly worrying if DS has only suddenly put on weight. Perhaps address that with GP first.

DodoTired · 02/08/2024 00:13

Every day especially if its all inclusive (can’t avoid it then!!)
but that would be just one dessert a day (fruit/youghurt don’t count as one)
back home its mostly weekends only although sometimes in the summer we are more generous

NewName24 · 02/08/2024 00:21

My ds is in his late 20s.

He still talks about the best day of his life being when he was about 5 or 6 and he went camping with dh and they did a long hike (for a 6 yr old) on what turned out to be a warm day. Across the day and evening, they had 4 ice-creams.
It is one of his best memories ever.
He not only survived, but made a fantastic memory with his Dad that day.

Your dh would perhaps benefiting from relaxing on holiday and looking at the bigger picture.

coxesorangepippin · 02/08/2024 01:03

One per day

MumChp · 02/08/2024 03:55

I don't count at holidays. 1-2 a day is average.

Sweetteaplease · 02/08/2024 04:35

Depends on age, if sugar affects them, if they're generally healthy and normally eat healthy. Every day is fine!

Thebellofstclements · 02/08/2024 05:04

My child's grandparents gave them unlimited ice cream on holiday and they came back visibly fatter. I was pretty unimpressed. I know the fashion is for body positivity, but being overweight as a child (and adult) is unhealthy and it's my responsibility as a parent to ensure the good health of my child where possible.

LightFull · 02/08/2024 05:41

At an AI they can just help themselves all day every day

They regulate themselves though so only a couple a day

LightFull · 02/08/2024 05:45

What so DH is lying by the pool doing nothing yet has a go a DS for doing the same

Get a grip

Either get up and do something with the boy or Prav the poor kid alone

LightFull · 02/08/2024 05:45

Leave

llamajohn · 02/08/2024 05:45

Thebellofstclements · 02/08/2024 05:04

My child's grandparents gave them unlimited ice cream on holiday and they came back visibly fatter. I was pretty unimpressed. I know the fashion is for body positivity, but being overweight as a child (and adult) is unhealthy and it's my responsibility as a parent to ensure the good health of my child where possible.

How long was the holiday? 3 months???

LightFull · 02/08/2024 05:49

I can not fathom that any parent would berate a kid reading by the pool on holiday

That's just horrible and unkind and lots to be unpicked here

Either go exploring with the boy or go off and do a sport with him, chuck a ball in the pool, there's so many things

llamajohn · 02/08/2024 05:52

LightFull · 02/08/2024 05:49

I can not fathom that any parent would berate a kid reading by the pool on holiday

That's just horrible and unkind and lots to be unpicked here

Either go exploring with the boy or go off and do a sport with him, chuck a ball in the pool, there's so many things

Or just let him read.