Am i being ungrateful?

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My partner has surprised me with a night away tonight.
I was so excited but then he tells me it's in the city close to us (30 min train ride away )
I thought he might of booked somewhere a bit further afield.
We are leaving at one
He's booked us for a brunch and then out tonight at 8 for a meal at a nice restaurant.
The hotel looks nice
I just thought it would be somewhere else
I'm trying to get excited but it's a bit meh now

Am I being ungrateful?

I think you are being ungrateful, sorry .

yep

Yep, super ungrateful.

Yes.

Why does the location matter if it’s a nice hotel and nice meal?

Yes

yeah.. your partner has gone to all this trouble!

Sorry OP but you’re definitely being ungrateful. I’d kill for a night off from cooking/washing up regardless of how far away from home it was😄

Just go and have a nice time!

Then book somewhere further afield to treat him next time.

Go and have a nice time.
On another occasion, when it doesn't sound like you are criticising, talk about your expectations for nights away. Or suggest that you would prefer not to have surprises (if this is the case).

Definitely ungrateful. Just because it is nearby doesn’t mean it can’t be great.

Yes, you are.

He's booked us for a brunch and then out tonight at 8 for a meal at a nice restaurant.
The hotel looks nice

Why is any of this meh? Perhaps he should cancel, and you can get a supermarket pizza? Seriously.

Yes, very ungrateful. I would love my partner to do that. and surely it's silly to waste time travelling far, for 1 night.

Yes you sound ungrateful. I'd rather a short journey than a long one for a night. Surely the point is you can spend time together.

Sorry OP, you are being ungratful. He's been thoughtful to surprise you with a night away - try and have a nice time, and maybe you can plan the next one a little bit further away?

One of my most memorable nights away was in a hotel 3 miles from home.

We have a disabled son so going away was virtually impossible but we managed to get 2 excellent carers so after the second attempt, had a lovely evening meal and a nights sleep.

Be grateful or let your DP know his plans haven’t been appreciated.

Yes, you are. I've had great weekends away in the city which is a 35 min train journey away. Your day weekend will be what you make of it.

Your boyfriend was being thoughtful.

Very ungrateful. You get a nice night away and a chance to experience somewhere as tourists and step out of the norm. Sounds ideal.

If you think this is so shit, why don’t you suprise him with a night away that’s so much better.

Unless the hotel is in Slough, you are being a tad ungrateful
(Sorry, Slough!)

Yes you are.

Yes you're being ungrateful! My DP is brilliant in many ways but planning things and suprises are not his strong point so I would love him to tell me he's taking me away! Even if it's to a hotel down the road!

Also, for one night, surely the closer the better?? Less travelling, more time for eating and drinking and whatever else you choose to do with your time 😜

It will be great to get away. Just pretend you're in another country, lol. The weather is warm enough!
Why not book something later in the year for you both that's a bit more exotic?

You are being ungrateful, yes.

It's fine to think 'Would have been nice to go a bit further afield' but ultimately, he's gone to a lot of trouble and expense to surprise you with brunch, a posh dinner, some quality time together and a night in a hotel. It's not like he's told you he's surprising you and then taken you to a McDonald's at the bottom of your street. Stop whinging.

I need more info to comment. So it’s not for a special occasion? When was the last time you did this for them -obviously if you whisked them off to Las Vegas then it’s quite different from them taking you to Leeds!

I wish I even had a partner to do something like this. So yes you’re being ungrateful.