DH and I have been together for 15 years, 2 DCs, 6 and 2. He’s never loved the early years and definitely has more of a bond with the DCs as they get older. He’s much closer with 6 than he is with 2, for example, but she is very much still in her mummy all the time phase.
Recently DH has been complaining about some of the early years things, for example we went to a splash pad whilst on holiday, he said he’d rather not be there, he’d rather be at home reading a book. Or he’s rather be at a museum than at the zoo. That sort of thing.
its really getting to me, and I feel a bit angry with him. He wanted to have children (didn’t pressure me, I wanted them too,) but I’m a bit tired of him playing the martyr when we go to the children’s farm instead of an art museum. (We go to those too). He’s not a snob generally and we’re not posh people so I don’t know exactly what’s going on.
We’ve never had many rows but this bit is really getting to me. Do other partners do this? AIBU to be annoyed? Am I getting the ick? I would also love a day to lounge in bed and read a book but we chose to have two children so I think we owe it to them to have some days out with child-centred activities and no moaning from the adults!