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A third child has died in Southport.

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Conniebygaslight · 30/07/2024 12:21

Incomprehensible and senseless. Absolutely devastating. 💔💔💔

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Cattery · 30/07/2024 16:13

LlamaNoDrama · 30/07/2024 16:03

Exclusion is the last thing they need. It will push them even more into the fringes of society which makes them much more vulnerable to being radicalised, getting dragged into county lines, turn to ropey communities, start believing shite spouted by only know who because they feel like they finally 'fit' somewhere.

So kids that behave are left to put up with those that can’t?

TokyoSushi · 30/07/2024 16:17

I read that if you're under 18 then you have to remain anonymous until a) a judge/court says that you can be named or b) you turn 18. I suppose if he hasn't been charged yet, he's not been to court, so there can't be any discussion on naming him yet...

Comicalanatomical · 30/07/2024 16:18

lollipoprainbow · 30/07/2024 12:46

It all seems very specific he took a taxi to the venue like he knew exactly who he was after. Could he have been known to any of the victims ?

Stop speculating. It’s harmful to the investigation. You don’t need to know the fine grain detail.

ChildlessCatLadiesRuleOK · 30/07/2024 16:19

GingerPirate · 30/07/2024 12:49

Why even give these people a fair trial, that's what
I cannot comprehend.

Because the alternatives are martial law or lynch mobs.

Rosemarycc · 30/07/2024 16:20

If ever there was a time to reintroduce the death penalty by special exception it would be now. There’s absolutely no question that the suspect committed these crimes. I don’t give a damn what his twisted motivations were or whatever psychiatric conditions he’s got. Attacking young innocent girls is such an utterly despicable act he deserves to die in the most painful way possible imo and anyone that had any inclination that he was capable of this sort of thing needs to get locked up too.

TooBigForMyBoots · 30/07/2024 16:23

PeachLemonGummy · 30/07/2024 16:08

I can't recall when the name was released but they definitely gave an overall profile shortly after the attack, including the fact it was a person who was mentally unwell and in some sort of assisted living arrangement. They also reported he had ASD which caused some controversy as many weren't happy with it being associated with senseless acts of violence. But was still enough info to give the tragedy some context, and to rule out other speculations like terrorism, domestic incident etc.

His name was released when he was 18.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-49902038.amp

Jonty Bravery

Tate Modern balcony push suspect named - BBC News

Jonty Bravery was 17 when he was charged with attempted murder but can be identified after turning 18.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-49902038.amp

FreshGas · 30/07/2024 16:24

Rosemarycc · 30/07/2024 16:20

If ever there was a time to reintroduce the death penalty by special exception it would be now. There’s absolutely no question that the suspect committed these crimes. I don’t give a damn what his twisted motivations were or whatever psychiatric conditions he’s got. Attacking young innocent girls is such an utterly despicable act he deserves to die in the most painful way possible imo and anyone that had any inclination that he was capable of this sort of thing needs to get locked up too.

He is 17 years old and we don’t know if he is mad or bad, we don’t know anything yet. Be careful what you wish for.

Dancingqueen18 · 30/07/2024 16:26

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 30/07/2024 16:09

There still are secure units in psychiatric hospitals. There are medium secure units in many hospitals around the UK, and these are units with very tight security where the patients can't come and go as they like (although there are cases every so often of patients absconding - the mental health system is at breaking point, so that's not surprising). Many of the patients in MSUs have been convicted of serious offences and either transferred from prison because they are obviously mentally ill, or sent to hospital instead of prison in the first instance. They are monitored by the Ministry of Justice. Others have a history of violence, arson, sex offences etc as well as a diagnosed mental illness, and this should feed into the risk assessment done before deciding whether to move them into lower security in-patient units, or back to the community, if they seem to be improving. If they get worse there is the possibility of a transfer to a high-security hospital. In England there are three such hospitals: Broadmoor, Ashworth and Rampton. In Scotland there's Carstairs.

I am not a mental health professional but I used to work with many and visited a medium secure unit for work purposes several times. It's not a picnic being an in-patient in a place like that. Most of my colleagues had worked at Broadmoor and that sounded like a very grim place indeed. The security is exceptionally tight and it's not a remotely normal life for anyone there.

Decades ago when there a lot more in-patient beds in psychiatric hospitals most wards were not locked. Care in the community has failed because there has never been enough money put into mental health. The money made from selling off the old asylums should have been ringfenced for care in the community. I don't imagine it was.

I believe it is an established fact that most people with mental illnesses are not violent and are actually at greater risk of experiencing violence than the population as a whole.

Thank you. My thoughts were more geared towards facilities that have been closed down with unsuccessful 'care in the community' programmes often leading to homeless psychiatric patients wandering the streets. They are not all dangerous but even one is one too many if they are putting the public at risk.

PeachLemonGummy · 30/07/2024 16:27

Comicalanatomical · 30/07/2024 16:18

Stop speculating. It’s harmful to the investigation. You don’t need to know the fine grain detail.

I disagree because the exact context plays a massive role in how a tragedy like this should be processed.

If it was an incel or politically driven attack with victims chosen purely for their inability to defend themselves, then that has massive ramifications on all events which are run on a similar scale. Similar to how flight rules changed after 9/11, it would entail massive changes to security and safeguarding for all childrens events across the country, if not the world.

If it transpires that the killer was personally connected to one of the victims then it would be a domestic incident. It would still be tragic but fall into a different category of risk for the general public. The most terrifying element is the sheer randomness of the victims so it makes absolute sense to expect some answers from the media.

ARichtGoodDram · 30/07/2024 16:28

Needanewname42 · 30/07/2024 14:07

That's absolutely heartbreaking.
I cannot imagine what those poor families are going though.

Please God 🙏 help the others who are still fighting.

After Dunblane school security was tightened up.
This makes me feel that dance studios, sports halls, church halls etc should be kept locked while kids groups are in session.

Many are. Every venue I've used for a playscheme or after school club has had a lockable door.

The dance classes and gym classes my kids attend all have locked doors. The church hall internal door is locked when Rainbows, Brownies and cubs are on.

It sounds though like this happened at/near pick up time so there's always going to be a vulnerable period when the door is unlocked.

Comefromaway · 30/07/2024 16:29

A door had been opened due to the intense heat.

Rosemarycc · 30/07/2024 16:30

@FreshGas I don’t care what his problems are or how young he is. He should imo never get another chance in life after taking away those beautiful children. He will get locked up for the rest of his life because anything else would be political suicide. I’m just so angry and upset by it all I can’t imagine what those poor families are going through.

Soubriquet · 30/07/2024 16:31

Those poor children. Their poor parents. It’s sad to think a stupid wet behind the ears 17 year old kid went and did something like this. To take away innocent lives and innocence from children who will never forget seeing this horror.

BertieBotts · 30/07/2024 16:33

Fruitbatfruitcake · 30/07/2024 14:15

My children aren't schoolage yet so forgive me if I am being naive. I mean more what to do in the situation that just occurred. When not in a place like at home with your parents or in a school where they have procedures foe these things. And likely adults who will protect them. I mean more at a busy park, restraunt, shopping mall, cinema etc.
But absolutely school drills for lockdowns and what to do therr is unfortunately very much needed and I'm all for that.
I just mean, would I try and impart some understanding of what to do in an emergency life threatening situation to mu 4 YO for example? Or is that just really damaging and frightening to them? But if it has the chance to save their life. I don't know, it's just got me thinking is all

It won't help, because unless you practice emergency prodecures so often that they are ingrained into your bodily memory (like how you can walk or ride a bike without thinking about it) you will simply not be able to remember what you are supposed to do.

When we are faced with extreme terror/danger and threat of actual bodily harm we lose access to the "thinking", rational part of our brains and go only by instinct/muscle memory.

Considering the chance that your child will ever experience something like this is very, very small, and their instinctive behaviour will likely be to run to a familiar adult, run away, or hide, (which are all probably the best things they could do) it likely does more harm than good to practice it. Different for things like a fire drill which involve a large number of people leaving a building at once, where the intention is to practice the aspect of coordinating so many people and also ensure that people know what they are supposed to do if that happens for real. In a fire drill, you don't practice "what to do if your exit is blocked by fire" or how to deal with burns. It's just the evacuation aspect.

3CustardCreams · 30/07/2024 16:33

The fact that this was clearly a pre-meditated attack on young girls (women) -- means arguing diminished responsibility on the grounds of mental illness should not stand. Surely if due to mental illness you would kill indiscriminately. To arrive by taxi and target girls specifically means you know what your are doing.

ARichtGoodDram · 30/07/2024 16:35

It's really hard to secure a lot of places you hold groups.

We had to fight (and I think if it wasn't for the fact we paid quite a lot of money they wouldn't have given in) to be allowed to lock the internal door where we held our playscheme. The building owners (the council) didn't want any locked doors in case of fire - totally understandable - but we needed the main door to be secure.

In the end we won with a lock being fitted that could be opened from both sides so the caretaker could come in if necessary but we could lock it from the inside.

At our first inspection the inspector properly dithered and debated - the didn't like the only door on that side of the room being locked because of fire risk, but equally didn't want us having an open door.

The risk assessment is such a balance

FreshGas · 30/07/2024 16:36

Rosemarycc · 30/07/2024 16:30

@FreshGas I don’t care what his problems are or how young he is. He should imo never get another chance in life after taking away those beautiful children. He will get locked up for the rest of his life because anything else would be political suicide. I’m just so angry and upset by it all I can’t imagine what those poor families are going through.

I’m angry and upset too. Emotions are running high everywhere. All the more reason to hope for justice rather than vengeance, peace rather than more violence.

VerityUnreasonble · 30/07/2024 16:37

We have absolutely no idea what the motivations for this horrific crime were, and speculating doesn't get us anywhere. We may or may not find out in the fullness of time. At the moment all we can do is mourn the victims and think of / support their families and the others affected.

That said, there is some misunderstanding of psychotic episodes- people can have very specific command hallucinations, voices which tell them to carry out certain actions against certain people or groups, which would appear very much preplanned. You might not know how bad these are from observing the person. I have no more clue than anyone else if any sort of mental health played a role in what has happened in Southport (nor does it actually matter that much at the moment) but I think understanding that psychosis doesn't just mean suddenly and obviously "going crazy" is important, as is knowing that most people with psychotic illnesses don't pose a risk to others around them or need locking up.

Needanewname42 · 30/07/2024 16:38

ARichtGoodDram · 30/07/2024 16:28

Many are. Every venue I've used for a playscheme or after school club has had a lockable door.

The dance classes and gym classes my kids attend all have locked doors. The church hall internal door is locked when Rainbows, Brownies and cubs are on.

It sounds though like this happened at/near pick up time so there's always going to be a vulnerable period when the door is unlocked.

See when I was a child the church door was kept locked during guides, which might be a reflection on the area I grew up in.

But where my kids do scouts the access to the hall is open.

Ilikeadrink14 · 30/07/2024 16:43

MonsteraMama · 30/07/2024 12:46

These threads are so depressing. Little girls have been stabbed to death, families have been changed in ways most of us will never be able to comprehend, children have been murdered. And we didn't even get past page one before the racist fuckwits like @Emmacc24 crawled out of the woodwork to use the death of children as ammunition in their racist bullshit. Absolutely shame on you @Emmacc24

This is the trouble. Your description of these low-life’s is spot on! I just don’t get how, when these darling little girls and their teachers were killed or injured, people can come on here and say dreadful things. Thankfully, the comments seem to have been taken down so I haven’t seen them, but I can imagine. it’s worrying that there are such people in the world.
My heart aches for the children and teachers who had their lives cut short and for their families who have to live with it…..for EVER,
If only something could be done to stop these atrocities. How can anyone harm an innocent child? Please, please can they stop hurting people and ruining lives.
As for Emmacc24, I hope he somehow gets his punishment for what he has said. Festering boils all over his stinking body would be a good start! Who agrees with me? I would wish worse, but it wouldn’t get past the censors here but you’ll all be thinking it, I’m sure!

Needanewname42 · 30/07/2024 16:45

Comefromaway · 30/07/2024 16:29

A door had been opened due to the intense heat.

Oh God!
I really really feel for the staff, because they must be gutted thinking "What if".
Just awful, absolutely awful

Marseillaise · 30/07/2024 16:56

Airbrb · 30/07/2024 12:52

I don’t agree with the death penalty in general, but since there is zero doubt over the identity of the stabbed the crime is ridiculously heinous on completely innocent victims, I do think that he should face the death penalty, without trial.

You don't even know if he's guilty. He may lack the required mental capacity, for example.

The day we start executing people without trial is the day we descend into barbarism.

Uricon2 · 30/07/2024 16:57

I have no idea what the background is to this dreadful event but I've seen at least one post on MN today that advocated execution without trial for the perpetrator of these murders.

Nothing and noone would be helped by lynch law. Nothing and noone will be helped by arbitarily ripping up the M'Naghten rules that have been used in British jurisprudence for nearly 200 years, or ignoring the fact that sometimes, some people are so very mentally ill that they do terrible things because of the illness. It is rare and most people with MH issues are far, far more likely to harm themselves, but it happens and is increasingly likely to happen when MH services are no longer fit for purpose.

I do know what I'm talking about. A much loved uncle, one of the kindest and gentlest men I've ever known was paranoid schizophrenic and while off his meds and acutely unwell tried to kill my nearly 90 year old grandmother (his mother), a woman he loved and who loved him. It was a miracle that she survived. When properly medicated again he was overwhelmed by what he had done.

The perpetrator of the murders in Southport may be ill, he might not be. I've shared what I have as caution against allowing understandable rage and upset to take over and undermine things that keep society tolerably civilised.

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Ilikeadrink14 · 30/07/2024 16:59

SleepingStandingUp · 30/07/2024 13:22

Without a trial you have no chance to understand and affect change. You still might not with a trial but at least it provides an opportunity for the parents to gain some insight. I don't think shooting on the spot once they're unarmed is appropriate

When coming across atrocities like this, against children, whether it be one child or many who are affected, my late husband always said the same thing. Whether it was child cruelty, rape, assault, a situation like this or similar, he always said that the perpetrator should be put into a room full of mothers,
and the door shut. No recriminations, of course. It would be a far more effective punishment than a custodial sentence which comes with perks and early release. And my husband was one of the gentlest, kindest people I know.
I’m not religious but I will pray tonight for those victims and their families. I wish them strength and peace.