I'm a mess about my PFB leaving primary school

[Crunchymum]

I didn't think I'd find it this emotional? I'm a bloody mess.

I'm under strict instructions not to embarrass him at any of his leaver's events but every time I think about it, I'm almost in tears.

What's this all about?

We're not even leaving the school as I have two more DC there (I'll be there for another 5 years!!!)

Anyone else? Urgh. Need to sort myself out.

Thank you for that, I completely agree.

I'm excited!! My 3rd child is about to leave, and I can see the end of 13 years of school runs!! Bloody brilliant!!

Kids will all by cycling to their schools now, such a relief as juggling school runs and working has been pretty annoying.

I'll be nervous on 4th Sept when she starts secondary.

Leavers Assemblies and Discos were a "thing" in the 90s, way before X factor!

Bit harsh

I was fine about it until I thought of him being the smallest in secondary. This was just before his school leaving do. I literally couldn’t stop crying (hid it kind of well as had hayfever at the time😅😅😅)

Well it could be my hormones but my dc read me the poem she’s gunna read in her leavers asemberly tomorrow and I sobbed like a baby! This school have done so much for her tho so could be the fear I know our secondry school ain’t gunna match up to it

I don't understand the judgement around expressing emotion. We're human beings as well as parents, we're allowed to feel a bit sad and emotional. I was in tears saying good bye and thanks to DS's teachers, and I'm not ashamed of it. Not uncontrollable sobbing, but visible tears in eyes. They have helped DS so much, and has such a wonderful impact on him. His time at the school has been blessed. Why must I conceal how I feel to be thought respectable?

It's perfectly normal to feel this way. Fine if you don't but many mums (and dads) do!
I started a post about this two years ago when my first child left primary school. Now my second child is leaving tomorrow. I know I'll cry in the leavers assembly! It's the end of an a era and leaving being a whole community of children and parents who've been together for 7 years.

I have a black cynical heart, but when my son left Y6, I was a bloody mess. 😭

Yep, I’m another missing the gene.
I don’t remember it being remotely a big deal for ANYONE when my 32-, 29- and 26-year olds left; but my youngest left primary just 2 years ago. A couple of parents said they felt a bit sad and emotional, but no one outwardly or obviously blubbed.
I personally wasn’t remotely bothered: the parking at school was terrible!

I've just been at a Y6 event where the children sang a very sweet song; there were lots of tearful faces in the audience and no-one was "that mum". DS has loved primary school and it is a real wrench for him to be moving on. He is lucky to have been in a very lovely class of children who all seem to be sad to be saying goodbye to each other. They will have beautiful memories from the last few weeks.

😭

It is as much a part of your own life as your DC's (the school runs, school events, your relationship with the school as well as other parents) so I think it's natural to feel emotional and like you've also lost something for yourself as well (even if that's just the routine and familiarity).

I actually think I will be even more emotional than I was when my eldest started (and that was 2020 so Covid made it even more so!).

Or, maybe I'll become more jaded and cynical over the next few years and be glad she's leaving!

Today's the day.

I feel a lot more composed this morning than I did when I posted.

I am sure there'll be a few tears but I'll be discreet.

I’m the same and I really didn’t think I would be. It’s not really sadness though, it’s the realisation that he’s becoming a young man, pride in how far he’s come, nostalgia for when he was younger and excitement and a little apprehension for what is to come.

I’m quite dead inside and I’m sure I’ll shed a tear today as will most parents and unless you lie on the floor and start wailing and pulling your hair you won’t be “that mum”. A little sniffle in to a tissue won’t embarrass anyone.

"Leavers Assemblies and Discos were a "thing" in the 90s, way before X factor!"

But they weren't these emotionally manipulating occasions were they? I think we might have had one in the 80s where the head teacher gave out some awards and house points then threatened us all with not embarrassing the good name of the school when we left and moved on 😆

We got given a dictionary and a well done sticker when we left year 6 😅

No assembly with the parents in to watch up sing or anything. No leavers disco. We did sign each others shirts though and highlighted all the naughty words in our dictionary’s 🤣

I have no recollection of my last day at junior/primary school! It must have been very low key. There is also a good chance I could have gone on holiday and missed it!

It is different now. We’ve had a whole week of Y6 leavers events this week including a morning long award ceremony and celebration. They have had year books given to them too and they finish at lunchtime and get a guard of honour from the rest of the school. Everyone always says how different secondary school is so there is the anticipation of that, it’s bitter sweet but I’m not bereft. It’s just time marching on that causes the emotions mainly I think.

I'm pleased to report there wasn't a single tear.

Although the distraction of preventing heatstroke kind of took over. It was an outside performance / ceremony (kids were shaded, spectators were not). We were provided with water, regular breaks to seek some shade but yep I've just spent 2.5 hours in 27c!!

We actually don't finish until next week so plenty of time for a few tears.

Oh and I left primary in 1991 and we had a leavers assembly. Nothing fancy. And yes we all got a dictionary.

Well done! Our leavers assembly is at 2pm today. We literally have the assembly then walk out of the school never to return!! It's going to be hard.

Happy to report that my yr6's leavers assembly is now over and, no, I didn't cry. Thought id bawl my eyes out but I think I did all my moping and weeping in the very long lead up to this day. All done now and roll on the summer holidays!

I had a brief lip wob,ble watching the dress rehearsal of our leavers assembly this morning and none of them are mine!

I know I'm going to be crying when mine does actually leave, and I work there!

It's a privilege to be able to watch your child grow up. Two of my three babies never made it past birth.

I welcome every milestone and transition. I also feel a moment of nostalgia for what's come before, whilst acknowledging the excitement yet to come. It's natural to feel emotional about the huge change they're about to experience. Some people are less arsed and looking forward to it being over, that's ok too.

2.5 hours 😲😫 holy shit!
Well done on enduring that, I'm not sure I'd be tearful at the end either 😂.
My last has just left secondary and while I wasn't tearful, I did feel sad as he has had some absolutely superb teachers and TAs (specialist school for autism) and a few have become like family. The future is exciting though! If you do have a teeny tear behind sunglasses nobody will be the wiser next week. Over the years I've seen some parents in absolute floods so you certainly won't be the first or last.

You’re definitely not alone. I know quite a lot of mums (& dads) whose kids have just finished primary school and they feel very emotional about it. It’s a big step & as others have said, it’s that leap of independence. Suddenly your little ones don’t feel so little anymore.

My dd is starting primary this Sept, she is more than ready for it & I think she’ll love it, but I still feel all sorts of emotions. It just feels like a big step.
Who knows what I’ll be like when she moves on to big school😆

My dd2 left primary yesterday and I’ve found it so hard. She’s had such a lovely 7 years. the school have also supported us through some terrible times. All her friends are off to different schools so she’s really sad too.
I definitely did cry when the montage of them growing up over the years came on.
I feel very sad 😢

How can it be the last summer of childhood?!