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Adding thanks to comments. Be careful

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endofthelinefinally · 09/07/2024 23:53

Your name associated with your thanks may not be the name you used on the thread. MN were supposed to have fixed this but it seems to be still happening. Unless of course all the thanks are coming from posters who are not actually on the thread. I suggest that everyone check their user name before thanking anyone just to be sure. Just a heads up in case anyone wasn't aware. Have a look at the thread in site stuff for further info. Sorry I can't do links on phone but it should be easy to find.

OP posts:
Kinneddar · 09/07/2024 23:57

I might be being obtuse but why does it matter. I have another name on here but if I thank someone it doesn't link the 2 names. Even if I post on the thread as name a and the thanks shows as name b only the poster I'm thanking can see and again it doesn't link a and b or is there something I'm missing

DixonD · 09/07/2024 23:58

I don’t think it matters.

endofthelinefinally · 10/07/2024 00:00

It depends on context. Sometimes it is possible to figure out a name change. Of course it is fine if you don't mind. Some people might though.

OP posts:
Kinneddar · 10/07/2024 00:02

I still can't see how you can possibly work out a name change

Does anyone even pay that much attention to who thanks them

tonyaskater · 10/07/2024 00:11

I don't see how you'd work out a name change, or why someone would take the trouble to try to find out.

I glance at the names of people who have thanked me, and am always pleased when people do, but wouldn't dream of looking up those names to see who was on the thread.

MeAgainAndAgain · 10/07/2024 00:26

I’m messaging on loads of threads that I don’t thank anyone on.

And I’m silently reading loads of threads that I do thank people on. Is that what you mean, that if people receive a thanks they assume that it’s from someone who has commented on the thread?

endofthelinefinally · 10/07/2024 10:33

It is absolutely fine if people are ok with it. Many people on the site stuff thread were concerned by it, so I thought it was just worth a heads up. That is all. As I said, it depends on context/conversation in the thread. I wouldn't dream of looking names up either, or outing anyone. (I noticed a really obvious example, which prompted this thread).

OP posts:
DinaofCloud9 · 10/07/2024 10:37

Kinneddar · 10/07/2024 00:02

I still can't see how you can possibly work out a name change

Does anyone even pay that much attention to who thanks them

It's easy as the op posts are in pink so if you get thanked by someone who's posts aren't highlighted then it's obviously a name change.

Not everyone wants their names linked.

D20 · 10/07/2024 10:39

I still don’t get it. I ‘like’ posts where I agree with them but don’t always contribute to the thread.

MeAgainAndAgain · 10/07/2024 10:52

DinaofCloud9 · 10/07/2024 10:37

It's easy as the op posts are in pink so if you get thanked by someone who's posts aren't highlighted then it's obviously a name change.

Not everyone wants their names linked.

Ok, so your post is a good example. I might ‘thank’ you for this explanation (in fact I will as soon as I’ve written this), but I am not the OP. So maybe I am the only person who thanks you, and you assume I am OP. The real OP doesn’t thank you because maybe she doesn’t know what ‘thanking’ is, maybe she’s new, maybe she’s wandered off and has forgotten she ever posted.

Is that a good example of what you mean?

I use the thanks button for:- ‘thanks’, ‘interesting’, ‘how funny’, ‘that’s answered a question I had’, ‘that answer is literally nothing to do with the OP but it’s still a great comment’, and lots of other reasons.

Crinklycrisp · 10/07/2024 10:56

I often give thanks to comments on threads I've not posted on. How can that link to any other usernames I use?

Crinklycrisp · 10/07/2024 10:57

DinaofCloud9 · 10/07/2024 10:37

It's easy as the op posts are in pink so if you get thanked by someone who's posts aren't highlighted then it's obviously a name change.

Not everyone wants their names linked.

It's not only the OP who uses the thank button, so this doesn't make any sense.

LessOnslowmoreHyacinth · 10/07/2024 11:26

DinaofCloud9 · 10/07/2024 10:37

It's easy as the op posts are in pink so if you get thanked by someone who's posts aren't highlighted then it's obviously a name change.

Not everyone wants their names linked.

This makes no sense?

I often hit the thanks button but might not have commented on the thread. Why would anyone assume that it is only ever the OP who thanks people (or assume that the person using the thanks button has posted on the thread).

tonyaskater · 10/07/2024 12:48

It's not only the OP who uses the thank button, so this doesn't make any sense.

Exactly

I received three thanks from one thread yesterday. None were from the OP.

cardibach · 10/07/2024 12:50

I didn’t even know I could see who had thanked me!
and what everyone else has just said.

Zimunya · 10/07/2024 12:51

As @MeAgainAndAgain said, "I use the thanks button for:- ‘thanks’, ‘interesting’, ‘how funny’, ‘that’s answered a question I had’, ‘that answer is literally nothing to do with the OP but it’s still a great comment’, and lots of other reasons."

I do this too - thanking people on posts that I've not contributed to because I think their response is witty, insightful or helpful.

DramaAlpaca · 10/07/2024 12:52

Crinklycrisp · 10/07/2024 10:56

I often give thanks to comments on threads I've not posted on. How can that link to any other usernames I use?

I do this too. I'm not seeing the issue.

Julyshouldbesunny · 10/07/2024 12:54

Not sure thanks should be a thing... What if you mn in secret and a not so nice dh/dp comes across a thank you email?

MeAgainAndAgain · 10/07/2024 12:56

Julyshouldbesunny · 10/07/2024 12:54

Not sure thanks should be a thing... What if you mn in secret and a not so nice dh/dp comes across a thank you email?

I’m fairly sure you can have all email notifications turned off somewhere in the settings.

MeAgainAndAgain · 10/07/2024 12:59

In fact, yes, I just checked, you can have all email notifications off.

Adding thanks to comments. Be careful
ForestAtTheSea · 10/07/2024 13:17

Zimunya · 10/07/2024 12:51

As @MeAgainAndAgain said, "I use the thanks button for:- ‘thanks’, ‘interesting’, ‘how funny’, ‘that’s answered a question I had’, ‘that answer is literally nothing to do with the OP but it’s still a great comment’, and lots of other reasons."

I do this too - thanking people on posts that I've not contributed to because I think their response is witty, insightful or helpful.

MN is often a good resource for all kinds of topics. I read threads where I'm interested in the topic, or maybe experienced a similar situation as the OP at a time. I thank people for an interesting or useful comment, or to support a minority view on a thread where there is a heated discussion and I do not have the headspace or time to contribute, too.
It is not always necessary to repeat what would be a similar post, so I thank posters who had a similar line of thought to mine.

I get where the OP here is coming from if they thought that only thread starters thank other contributors, but from what I experienced, that is not the only group to give thanks to others.

MeAgainAndAgain · 10/07/2024 13:23

@ForestAtTheSea “or to support a minority view on a thread where there is a heated discussion and I do not have the headspace or time to contribute, too.”

This is one of the reasons I wish everyone could see how many thanks a post has. Not who they are from, but just a number. Someone who has an opposing viewpoint but more likes than anyone else might make other people stop and read again. A bit like Reddit, if a comment has risen to the top I am more likely to stop and think, and not simply dismiss it because I don’t instantly agree. I’ve had my opinion changed sometimes by this.

Scorchio84 · 10/07/2024 13:45

Zimunya · 10/07/2024 12:51

As @MeAgainAndAgain said, "I use the thanks button for:- ‘thanks’, ‘interesting’, ‘how funny’, ‘that’s answered a question I had’, ‘that answer is literally nothing to do with the OP but it’s still a great comment’, and lots of other reasons."

I do this too - thanking people on posts that I've not contributed to because I think their response is witty, insightful or helpful.

Yep literally this

also what is this OP's posts being pink witchcraft?? It's blue on my devices

MeAgainAndAgain · 10/07/2024 13:58

Scorchio84 · 10/07/2024 13:45

Yep literally this

also what is this OP's posts being pink witchcraft?? It's blue on my devices

You can set different colours for both the OP and your own posts.

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 10/07/2024 14:00

DinaofCloud9 · 10/07/2024 10:37

It's easy as the op posts are in pink so if you get thanked by someone who's posts aren't highlighted then it's obviously a name change.

Not everyone wants their names linked.

That doesn't make any sense, I often thank posts on a thread I haven't posted on. Did you think that only the OP was allowed to thank posts? Anyone can do it for any thread

I don't see how it would give away a name change

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