Do you sleep in the same bed?

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I just seen a tik tok with lots of divided comments

basically the poster was explaining she co slept with their eldest child (5/6 yo) and now does with the youngest who’s under 1 (following safe sleep guidelines etc) so now her husband is in with their eldest child

she said it works for them and they’re happily married and it’s taboo to admit you don’t share a bed

me and DH do. Sometimes our young kids creep in if they wake unsettled etc especially if we have work in the morning and need sleep

but what’s everyone’s views on this?

(just curious! There was a very sleep deprived time I considered this set up the tik tok poster describes so no judgment from me)

DC2 co-slept. It was the only way anyone got any sleep. (They BF and co-slept until they were nearly 3 and they are still my most clingy child despite being almost 10yo!!)

DC1 used to come into bed with us if they woke early / were unsettled or poorly.

DC3 had a nasal gastric tube so co-sleeping had extra considerations but like DC1 they'd come in with us here and there.

Nope, haven't shared a bed with DH since DC2 was born 10 years ago. She would only co-sleep and he is a terrible sleeper. It was actually a big improvement sharing with DD compared to DH's constant tossing and turning, flinging the covers off and getting up and down. When she finally slept through thr night in her own bed DH just stayed in the other room and it's a better night's sleep for all of us. We are lucky to have the space.

Yes, no children in our bed though, ever.

We haven't shared a bed for years.

Yes I shared with my dc1 until 5 and DH went into the spare bedroom and then baby no2 arrived and is now with me in the next to me crib and dc1 went into bed with DH in the spare bedroom. We all get to sleep. Dc1 has a beautiful bedroom we designed to encourage sleeping in his own room with a mountainous theme and the bed is like a massive tent with tea lights so not overstimulating but relaxing but he likes sleeping with us. It's very common around my circle where kids sleep with parent/s.

When both my dc were young I bought them small double beds each as I got fed up tossing and turning in a single with them when they were poorly or restless.

DH and I share a bed but we’ve both had Covid this week so he’s moved to another bed and tbh it’s been bliss having the bed to myself. My sister and her partner haven’t shared a bedroom let alone a bed for years as he’s snores for England so it works for them.

When my dc leave home I might consider turning one of their bedrooms into my own.

My fil thinks a marriage has issues if a couple sleep in separate beds which I’ve always thought was a ridiculous statement, surely a well tested couple is a happy and contented couple?

We co-slept with our son until he was 7. I was in so much pain due after giving birth that I couldn't lift him in and out of his moses basket without waking him up. When he was 2 days old (after 4 days of no sleep),
I gave up trying to put him into the moses basket because every time I did he woke up. I put him in bed with us and finally got some sleep. As he got older it was clear he had autism and other disabilities which caused sleep issues and by having him in bed with us meant we could all get more sleep.
So many people told us he would never sleep in his own bed because we allowed him to be in our bed.

The first time we tried putting him in his own room was when he was 7 and he stay there all night and has been in his own room every since. Only occasionally he has come back into our bed.

He is now 12 years old and likes having his own room. Although at 4:30am this morning he did give me a heart attack when I woke up and he was in our bed inbetween us smiling. Can't believe he managed to sneak in without either of us realising. We then changed his bedding and put him back into his own bed.

Same here!
sleeping with DH is non negotiable unless a DC is poorly. Kids always sleep well and so do we. It’s all we know.

Musical beds here. We have a spare room that tends to get used during the work week. My husband is an incredibly light sleeper but also a snorer.

My toddler also often wakes in the night and one of us will get in with her (whoever has the least stressful following day, we decide each night who is going to be on duty). She co-slept on and off until she was about one year old and I went back to work. This set up works for us for the stage of life we are in, we are both a lot happier getting more sleep!

I feel this in my bones!

Same

My husband has what I call his teenage boy bedroom in one of our spare rooms. Single bed, TV, games consoles, computer, and lots of Lego!