Needing to be liked

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How do you get past wanting everyone to like you? Towards not caring what people think? And where is the balance?

I had this problem most of my life OP.
I'm sure there must be some therapy that would help - CBT possibly?

However what has changed things for me is getting older and realising that actually I don't like or respect quite a lot of people. And concluding that if I don't like or respect them,or agree with their opinions about other things, why should I be concerned if they don't like me?

Also the realisation that you can't " make " people like you. All you can do is be yourself and hope that the people whose opinion does matter to you do like you.

Like yourself enough to tell people no, without apology, when you don't want to do something.