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Angry at Wandsworth prison officer.

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Underlockandkey · 29/06/2024 00:05

You may have heard or unfortunately seen the female prison officer having sex in a prison cell whilst been filmed . Her number visible on epaulette and her wedding ring clearly seen. On so many levels totally wrong.
I work in a male prison and have done for many years. I do a damn good job and am fair but firm and know I have the respect off the men. We do a challenging job in difficult situations but we are professional and caring.
Today Twitter is full of comments that women shouldn’t work in male jails or comments that make it seem all women are working there to be around men.
As well as the security aspect - she has made our job so much harder. I hope she sees prison from the other side of the bars.

OP posts:
rumnraisins · 29/06/2024 21:23

Thevelvelletes · 29/06/2024 21:12

You want to try Scotland under the SNP for a truly fucked up scenario when it comes to crime and punishment.

No thanks. I believe you! 😂

But then, national socialists have a bad record elsewhere too! 😂

TrishM80 · 29/06/2024 21:27

What % of female prison guards have had sexual dalliances with male inmates, it seems to be a regular occurrence. Are we talking 40, 50, 60% ?!

I've heard of fancying the bad boy, but this is ridiculous!

OhHelloMiss · 29/06/2024 21:31

We aren't talking anywhere near 40% !!

Not even 4%

Thevelvelletes · 29/06/2024 21:38

Prisoners manipulate both male and female staff
I read of one being blackmailed into taking in phones etc and it all started with a packet of biscuits being brought from the out when none were available.prisoners had a receipt the guy had left in a carrier bag as proof and then pressured for other stuff to be brought in.

TitsInAbsentia · 29/06/2024 21:50

@Thevelvelletes you are absolutely right, they don't care whether you are male or female, they just care whether they can get you in to a situation where you will do their bidding.

OhHelloMiss · 30/06/2024 17:49

@Thevelvelletes that's just how it starts

This woman I feel will be made an example of too

Thevelvelletes · 30/06/2024 19:12

OhHelloMiss · 30/06/2024 17:49

@Thevelvelletes that's just how it starts

This woman I feel will be made an example of too

I've read quite a few books by prison staff and prisoners for balance.
I don't think the public as a whole appreciate the difficulties staff face from management and prisoners
The inexperienced are really in the wolves den IE the officer that took in biscuits from Tesco because he was being harangued because there were no biscuits..and ended up taking in phones etc

wizzywig · 30/06/2024 19:19

Hope you're OK op. I work alongside you in community. It devalues the uniform, it'll make it seem like all female staff are up for it. The focus of our job should be public protection not dealing with stupid comments.

Paul2023 · 30/06/2024 23:05

Prisoners can be professional manipulators , against male or female staff. But there’s very clear guidelines on what to do if this happens.

This woman was 31 so wasn’t exactly a kid. Shes an adult and knew the rules.
She had sex with another prisoner filming then , she must’ve known it would have got leaked. It was inevitable.

Im ashamed that this happened but the vast majority of the staff I’ve worked with have been professional and do a good job in difficult circumstances.

Male and female staff in prisons is important, I certainly don’t believe in having male and female staff in male and female prisons. The rules changed in the late 80s and quite rightly so.

As for vetting, well they can only vet you on what you’ve done in the past . You’re just a name on a computer. They can’t know that someone is going to sleep with a prisoner in the future , how could they ? So I don’t see how this could have been foreseen.

icelolly12 · 02/07/2024 15:51

As for vetting, well they can only vet you on what you’ve done in the past . You’re just a name on a computer. They can’t know that someone is going to sleep with a prisoner in the future, how could they ? So I don’t see how this could have been foreseen.

And you don't think the fact she'd been on a swingers show on tv and had a onlyfans account was enough to be an unsuitable candidate for the role? I thought a google search was more or less commonplace these days? If not it should be.

OonaStubbs · 02/07/2024 17:49

Did she have the Onlyfans account before joining the service or did she start it after she was already in?

Catsfishybreath · 02/07/2024 18:05

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 29/06/2024 19:06

I'm just annoyed that prison is meant to be punishment, but here they are with drugs, phones and sex. Seems more like a holiday park than a prison..

It is a punishment albeit deserved in most cases . Imagine being locked away from society with limited choices, being told what to wear , eat , when to wash , eat etc . Freedom curtailed , can't go to the park and beach and swim in the sea on a beautiful day , can't celebrate Christmas , birthdays etc with loved ones . Can't really see kids , on edge all the time in case you get bullied or attacked , and much more . It must be awful if you're doing time for a crime that you didn't commit.
and much more . It must be v

Catsfishybreath · 02/07/2024 18:10

Thevelvelletes · 29/06/2024 21:38

Prisoners manipulate both male and female staff
I read of one being blackmailed into taking in phones etc and it all started with a packet of biscuits being brought from the out when none were available.prisoners had a receipt the guy had left in a carrier bag as proof and then pressured for other stuff to be brought in.

I heard of one where it started with a piece of paper given to an inmate because he had nothing to write on and it ended up with drugs bring smuggled and prison for the officer when eventually found out who felt sorry for the inmate originally. Keep a barrier up always.

Thevelvelletes · 02/07/2024 18:25

You wouldn't think that something as innocuous as piece of paper could land you in a world of shit.

OonaStubbs · 02/07/2024 18:52

Sorry, but prison is a joke in this country. It needs to be made much, much more harsh.

icelolly12 · 02/07/2024 19:57

OonaStubbs · 02/07/2024 17:49

Did she have the Onlyfans account before joining the service or did she start it after she was already in?

she already had it and had starred on c4 on a tv show about swinging and orgies

OonaStubbs · 02/07/2024 20:01

So why wasn't it discovered upon reference checking?

I why was she allowed to work in a male prison coming to work caked in make up and looking like a glamour model?

somewhereoverthechipshop · 02/07/2024 20:52

ItsTheGAGGGGGGGG · 29/06/2024 18:43

she has made our job so much harder.

In what way OP?

jesus it’s not hard to work out!

ItsTheGAGGGGGGGG · 02/07/2024 21:00

somewhereoverthechipshop · 02/07/2024 20:52

jesus it’s not hard to work out!

Maybe it wasn’t to you. I was interested in hearing OP’s response

Raera · 02/07/2024 21:07

OonaStubbs · 02/07/2024 20:01

So why wasn't it discovered upon reference checking?

I why was she allowed to work in a male prison coming to work caked in make up and looking like a glamour model?

As long as officers male or female are wearing their uniforms correctly, why shouldn't they be able to style their hair, wear make-up and nail varnish etc.?
They are dressing to feel confident and comfortable, just like in any job.

Raera · 02/07/2024 21:09

Just to add, prisoners male or female are and should be able to style their hair, wear make-up and nail varnish etc. too.

DancingLions · 02/07/2024 21:32

Prisons are horrible. I went in more than one as part of a former role, went on the wings etc, and I wouldn’t want to spend even one night there. Every time I left, I was so thankful for my freedom. They’re not “holiday camps”, nowhere near. If you’ve seen the video or pictures, then you’ve seen the tiny cell where 2 men slept in bunk beds and all the mess around them, hardly luxury!

The fact is when something like the prison service is chronically short staffed, they have to lower standards, there’s no choice. I don’t think they should be hiring OF women! But it looks like the account was in a different name. They wouldn’t have necessarily known to look for it. Likewise the documentary, unless they’d seen it, it’s hardly going to have been on her CV. It’s not routine to contact television companies and ask if a candidate has ever appeared in anything risqué! It’s not MI5 they’re recruiting for.

OonaStubbs · 02/07/2024 21:48

Raera · 02/07/2024 21:09

Just to add, prisoners male or female are and should be able to style their hair, wear make-up and nail varnish etc. too.

No they shouldn't! Why should they be able to?

Catsfishybreath · 02/07/2024 22:35

Thevelvelletes · 02/07/2024 18:25

You wouldn't think that something as innocuous as piece of paper could land you in a world of shit.

Yep . Some prisoners are devious and charming . Very good at sussing weak spots in people.

ItsTheGAGGGGGGGG · 03/07/2024 00:33

OonaStubbs · 02/07/2024 21:48

No they shouldn't! Why should they be able to?

Why shouldn’t they? As long as it’s not viewed as contraband then they can do as they please. Female prisoners can’t wear make up or style their hair just because they broke the law? Even if the prison allows it? Strange take

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