We’re friends with another couple …much better off than us but lovely people & for the most part, down to earth although I don’t think the wife has any concept of money & her “cheap” is different to our “cheap”.
We’ve been on a couple of short breaks with them and what starts off as a cheap weekend away ends up costing more & more …she adds more things into the mix or extra days on ….(“I thought I’d add this in as it’s ’only’ so & so amount) for some reason we feel like we can’t say anything or if we do try to be a bit diplomatic she still doesn’t get it & will carry on. For example we went on a spa weekend away with them and another couple & she put us in for different treatments which was fine (I budgeted for that) then when we’re there she says “oh I’ve added u in for another” (an extra £80 or so)…. I had to be quite firm and say no I don’t want that. She kept telling our other friend to buy this face cream because it’s “only” £100! She sent her text after text telling her to get it even when she was told no thanks.
She Is a great person ,great cook , brilliant host and really good at organising things , she doesn’t have a bad bone in her body , her husbands friends all think she’s great as she always feeds them lol (one man even told his wife she should be more like her ….thst didn’t go down too well!) …I often feel inadequate & I feel like if I voice my concerns/opinions to my husband I’ll end up feeling like I’ve been kicking a puppy lol ….although I do think he’s started to see what I’m seeing lately. She has lots of time on her hands as she doesn’t work much & her husband is retired. But she just doesn’t let up ….if she’s interested in something she’ll go on and on about it. And is a bit too much. I ended up distancing myself from them for a while & now only see them every now & then.
Trouble is , we arranged ages ago that we would go on a big holiday with them & another couple next year & I thought it’ll be fine & started looking forward to it ….we arranged the dates we’re going then already she’s started adding on more things …an extra night or 2 etc etc. So now I’m stressing ! We can’t get out of it (& I don’t really want to ) but how do u reign someone in without being nasty & how do I stop myself from getting annoyed by her ?