Do you tell your DH / DP everything? EVERYTHING?

[LadyContrary]

This is meant to be very lighthearted, nothing to do with affairs, secret bank accounts, addiction or family secrets.

I was picking DS up from his friend’s house today. I’m quite friendly with the friend’s mum, a couple of days ago we were having a little moan about women’s health issues and I mentioned I get UTIs every so often and had in fact only just finished a course of antibiotics. Nothing hugely personal or embarrassing, not a massive secret either.

Whilst DS was getting ready to leave today, I was offered a cup of tea by the friend’s dad. I declined, hoping to get away asap, to which the friend’s dad replied: “you know you should stay hydrated to keep those UTIs at bay”

Why oh why did she feel the need to share it with her husband. It doesn’t really bother me.. just find it a bit weird.. I don’t actively keep secrets from
DP but I don’t really tell him everything I ever hear from other people. Am I the odd one here?

Ahahaha nope. Never told DH that a friends got a UTI. I'd be bloody mortified!

Eewwwww. How weird of him to mention it though, even if he knew, why say anything. Odd.

No- if I told him everything that goes on in my head he'd never sleep......He'd probably be quite scared actually.

The weirder part is him mentioning it. Very very odd.

Hmmm. I'm that person that this is something I would probably tell DH. We do enjoy abit of a gossip and natter.

But my DH isn't daft enough to talk about it with the person I talked to him about 😂

Nope and I certainly wouldn’t want to know about any infections his mate might have!

Yeah the weirder thing is him mentioning it to you. I'd find that very weird.

@userxx I haven’t actually thought of how weird it really was, I’m not quite over the fact that she told him and that was my main focus.
I didn’t even have any good comeback at the time, I was a little bit speechless.

I wouldn’t tell the friend much again !

@LuluBlakey1 haha I’m the same. My DP wouldn’t cope with all the noise at all.

That is so freaky that the husband mentioned it!

Frankly, I would never tell anyone anything that I didn't want anyone else to know. I don't even tell DH some stuff, because as much as I love him, he loves gossip and drama, and finds it hard to keep his mouth shut. If I said (for example,) 'the woman next door brought a bloke home at 3am!' he would be like 'oooh really?' Then a few days later he would mention it to the neighbourhood gossip over the road, and it would get back to the woman next door that I had been talking about her.

So in answer to your question @LadyContrary No. I don't tell DH everything. I definitely don't tell him other peoples secrets, and bleat their private information to him.

No, not everything by any means. But I’ve had a similar situation to this: I was talking to a friend about my recurrent yeast infections and she said she’d had the same and her GP had advised her partner get treated too as it was possible he was also infected and passing it back to her. So I then related this to DH in asking him to get treated. I would, however, think it weird if he then spoke to her about it.

Some people just witter on about any old crap.
I don't share everything with dh and certainly wouldn't share stuff that people would like to keep private. Id expect the same respect too.

He's remembered and mentioned it to you 😱
That's on him. Is he trying to alienate her from her friends??

@Stinkerantibiotic I really don’t think there’s anything sinister to it. It did seem like a lapse in judgement and I think he regretted it as soon as he’d blurted it out.

This.

Hmmm. I'm that person that this is something I would probably tell DH. We do enjoy abit of a gossip and natter

Why ? I like a natter. I like sharing lovely news someone has shared, after checking it isn't a secret, but I wouldn't tell anyone about a personal, medical thing that a friend had told me. How completely inappropriate.

@LadyContrary , next time I saw the woman, I would have to say something to her about how inappropriate I felt it was that she would share your personal, medical information with someone else, and I would let her know I wouldn't be telling her anything else, and would also suggest any mutual friends don't either.

Good god no!
I can’t believe she told him in the first place but the fact that he mentioned it is so weird 😳
I’d make a mental note to not tell her anything I didn’t want passing on to her husband ever again!
Fucking hell some people just have verbal diarrhoea 🫠

Maybe next time say to him 'I hope your herpes flare up has calmed down' or 'I hope the viagra is resolving your issues'

I'd find them both a bit creepy and nosey tbh, but particularly him. Ugh. I wouldn't tell her anything again.

I’m the opposite, I rarely tell my husband anything, simply because he can’t resist telling every Tom, Dick and Harry his version of what I had said 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yes I do, but he isn’t idiot enough to bring it up to the person in question!

No! And I won't share other people's private information with him either

Sure we have been together over 25 years but we are still individuals

Very strange of him to bring it up, especially to give advice, as if staying hydrated isn't something you'd be well aware of 🙄

I wouldn't be bothered if a friend told their DH about my UTI, but I would assume they didn't have much to talk about if a friend's UTI made it into conversation.

We tell each everything that’s important but not other peoples intimate health issues. The trust in the friendship would evaporate for me in these circumstances. Gross that he mentioned it and inappropriate.

I would be distancing myself and child rapidly. Something feels off.

Same as @Meetingofminds .