Do you tell your DH / DP everything? EVERYTHING?

[LadyContrary]

This is meant to be very lighthearted, nothing to do with affairs, secret bank accounts, addiction or family secrets.

I was picking DS up from his friend’s house today. I’m quite friendly with the friend’s mum, a couple of days ago we were having a little moan about women’s health issues and I mentioned I get UTIs every so often and had in fact only just finished a course of antibiotics. Nothing hugely personal or embarrassing, not a massive secret either.

Whilst DS was getting ready to leave today, I was offered a cup of tea by the friend’s dad. I declined, hoping to get away asap, to which the friend’s dad replied: “you know you should stay hydrated to keep those UTIs at bay”

Why oh why did she feel the need to share it with her husband. It doesn’t really bother me.. just find it a bit weird.. I don’t actively keep secrets from
DP but I don’t really tell him everything I ever hear from other people. Am I the odd one here?

I don't tell my husband everything, if I had told him that he wouldn't mention it to you!

My husband wouldn't be interested in shit like that.

It's more weird that he mentioned it to you. I'd be having a chat with friend about her husband making you feel uncomfortable because of something she had told him

We do but my H would never repeat it! Side note but tea won’t help with a UTI, the caffeine is an irritant.

There’s nothing that I wouldn’t mention to my partner, but obviously some things wouldn’t cross my mind to mention to him.

If I had mentioned something like this, possibly you explain why a friend hadn’t wanted to stay later, he wouldn’t bring it up with the friend.

Do you not understand confidentiality ?

I tell my Mum everything

Why ?
If a friend is going through some 'stuff' - health or otherwise - and talks to you about it, do you not understand they they are telling you and you alone ? If they wanted the world to know, they would have broadcast it themselves, but they didn't - they trusted you as they opened up.

Why would you think it acceptable to break that trust ?

So many do think it acceptable to break that trust or perhaps more worryingly don't even see it as breaking that trust!.

There was a thread on here years back where I learned just how many people told something in confidence think that their partner (or a close relative or hell, maybe everyone's got a nominated person who 'doesn't count') is somehow exempt from that.

I hadn't realised that saying "please keep this to yourself" was not enough and you need to add "and that includes not sharing it with your partner". And that many still won't respect your privacy because they don't see their partner as a separate person from themselves and therefore they don't count.