What age did you let girlfriends or boyfriends stay over ?

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DS has just asked if his not quite girlfriend (they're talking/ seeing each other ) can stay tonight. Do I assume she stays with him in his double or he gives his bed up and he has an air bed ? I'm not ready for this scenario yet. All experience and learnings from those who've been there, please help!!

The above is not monitoring a relationship to see how serious it is. It is showing loving care, there is a huge difference.

Have adult children and extras in my house. Rule is something that is classed as a relationship. So ds2’s long term girlfriend yes, household members ‘person you met on the internet last week’ - no. It’s not a clearly defined time but I think we know when it’s right for us?

But tbh I apply that to friendships as well. I’m not up for randoms in my house, quite happy for friends/proper girlfriends.And I had a friend who used to stay that no-one liked so we had to meet elsewhere 😂 It’s just about respecting others living spaces isn’t it? In a family home.

Dd was 17

Amongst some of the stuff l’ve read of late on MN, this seems so sensible that l thought l had misread it ❤️.

This is a tricky one. Prior to it happening I was firmly in the NOT NOW NOT NEVER camp but once DD was 17 and she was with this chap for a while I allow it now.
I got to know him pretty well before and he's a decent respectful lad.
It's legal, and I would rather know where she is to be honest.
His parents allowed it first (with my consent).

Prior to it happening I was firmly in the NOT NOW NOT NEVER camp but once DD was 17 and she was with this chap for a while I allow it now.

I was the same 😊but once the time came it was fine. However, it really is up to the parents and if they are uncomfortable then it's fine to say no.

16 if dating more than 6 months and I liked them for dd1 who is still with that partner in her early 20s now.

dd2 has got to 21 without a serious boyfriend and never asked.