Do you ever just think 'wow I'm so lucky'

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Having a bit of a soppy moment after a few drinks with DH and thought it might be a nice idea for a thread in amongst all of the misery online.

Do you ever look at your life and just think - wow - I could only have dreamt that things would turn out like this.

Specifically tonight we were talking about our beautiful 5 month old. I had a MMC before I had him and some very similar bleeding in early pregnancy this time round. We both remember being in the waiting room waiting for the scan and being sure they were going to give us bad news again, but that time we heard the glorious 'and there's the little heart beat.'

Now he's here and it's absolutely chaos because we've got 2 under 3 and are both self employed with very little support and neither kid sleeps very well but every now and then I just look at him (and his brother) and think WOW ❤️

I'd love to hear some other lovely stories in my soppy state!

I’ve not long had my second baby after being told in my early twenties that I wouldn’t be able to have children.
I now have 2 - 2 years apart. Watching my oldest love on my youngest just makes my heart melt. I feel so lucky that I was able to have both my babies and still be healthy.
I’m also so thankful to have such a hands on dh, who adores his children and wants to spend all his free time with our family.

Your story is lovely, I’m sorry for you mmc, but I’m so happy you’ve got your happy little team!

Yes every time I look at adopted DD.

I agree. I had a tough childhood. I wish 15 year old me knew how well things would turn out

I have the life I wanted at 15.
I'm married to a sexy long hair man
I have two amazing twin boys that are shaping up to be decent young men.
I have the office job I wanted with international travel
I have my own house that's nearly paid for, money in the bank and no hiding from debt collectors.
It's been a long twisty and hard road but I am very grateful for what I have

Yes I have a lovely DH, 2 absolutely amazing DC, a lovely house, a great job, and a much loved cat & dog, I'm very lucky indeed.

Aww how lovely.
Honestly, every single day. My husband is a better man than I ever thought I’d ever have the luck to meet, we have a wonderful, lively, happy son, we have a beautiful home and a successful business… I had a truly godawful childhood/young-adulthood and I just never imagined my life would be so wonderful.

I do think that sometimes. I am 51. Been with DH for 20 years and although we have had our moments we are very happy. A few years back I was literally suicidal with stress over my job so he insisted I take a step back from my role and take a year's break. Now I work part time in a job I like more but pays several times less. Today I got home and he presented me with some of my favourite perfume because he said he had noticed I had run out. He also 2 years back when I was feeling quite overwhelmed with elderly and demanding parents bought me tickets to the Royal Windsor Horse show and booked me into an air B&B because I had mentioned in passing several weeks before I would really like to go.

I'm exceptionally lucky.

Yes. My parents were very poor growing up, and whenever I buy something frivolous - the brie instead of the own-brand cheddar, or the nice handsoap instead of whatever's cheapest, etc - I think how lucky I am to have that choice. Also whenever we get a takeaway. I never thought I'd be in a position to do that.
But after 10 years of trying to be pregnant, nothing compares to the gratefulness I feel every time my child wraps his soft, fat little arms around my neck for a cuddle. He often asks me to play the Ben Folds Five song "The Luckiest", which I used to listen to when he was in utero, and the lyrics are so true:
"Where was I before the day that I first saw your lovely face? Now I see it everyday. And I know that I am, I am, I am the luckiest".

I think this daily. I had a terrible childhood and early adulthood but I turned my life around and broke free from my abusers.

Life is great now, I have an incredible dh, 2 beautiful children and a lovely home. It's quite remarkable how things turned around for me.

Yes, I am very, very grateful for my calm, drama-free life after a tumultuous childhood.

I genuinely feel and recognise this every single day. And it’s been a good 15 years since I left home (and never looked back).

Yes regularly… I have had a great childhood and upbringing but life served me some tough cards in my late teens and twenties… I didn’t think I’d live to see 30 tbh. So I know I am incredibly blessed and lucky to have the life I do… a wonderful, kind and loving husband… fantastic kids and even grandchildren… a job I love and is a privilege to carry out…
Thankyou for the reminder though as I don’t always remember just how blessed I am.

I do often think yes I'm lucky in xyz but not in abc though.
I'd never dream about boasting publicly though.

Same with my adopted DS.

I think of all the stars that had to align to bring us together and I’m so, so grateful.

Yes, I had a miserable childhood but a happy family now. Means a lot to me.

Lovely thread, OP! I hope one day I can write a similar thread, I’d love to be a mother.

Mine are adopted, they are the children I dreamed about and I am so privileged to be their mum

Good post OP!

It’s so easy to be frustrated with our lives, but we should also sometimes stop to think about what is positive.

I was thinking about this earlier this week. Like most people I am occasionally consumed by self-doubt, comparing myself to others etc.

But actually… I have a great life. I live in a nice place, I know great people, I have a good job I enjoy, I have a lovely family, I have choices.

Sometimes I think what my great grandparents might think if they saw how I lived now, and I know actually they’d see it as huge progress and a magnificent lifestyle!

Yes, daily. Not really regarding work; I pushed myself to get where I am, but family-wise, absolutely. Almost feel like something bad will have to happen one day to even it out, but try to squash those feelings down.

I have 2 wonderful DD's. A 2 year old and 9 month old. After I had given birth to 2nd DD via water birth they informed me that both my DD and I would have died if my waters had broken prior to labour starting. I had undiagnosed placenta vasa previa. They only realised this upon examining my placenta. As it happened my waters only broke just as I gave birth to her. I was admitted a few days before due to reduced movements and they recognised that her HR kept dropping with every contraction. They pushed and pushed to break my waters which I was very impatient for but my gut kept telling me not to, even though I was so fed up by then. My 1st DD was two days early and labour started with waters breaking and I had been having contractions on and off for 5 days before I went to hospital because I felt something was wrong. I thank God that I listened to my gut. So so lucky 🙏

Yes, me! Today I spent an entire day at an assessment centre for the millionth time over the past few years for a specific professional training opportunity. Meanwhile I juggle mostly low paid, often inflexible work around my beautiful kids whilst DH works in a niche professional career but with not great job security. I totally bombed the interview I had today and I realised I genuinely didn't even care. I was a very academic child/teen, graduated with first class honours. I'm a huge disappointment to my DPs.

But I'm so blessed and happy, I don't really care about a professional career and money anymore. I don't think anyone has everything in life all at the same time. Me and DH met as barely adults, in our early 30s we have already been married over a decade. How lucky I have been to meet a soul mate at such a young age to grow and learn together with. I have two beautiful, amazing children and I'm pregnant with our third and last. I have a lovely little terraced house that is ours, with very reasonable mortgage payments, in the fantastic area that I grew up in. We are geographically and emotionally close to lots of family and friends who we love and we spend amazing times with. We don't have loads of money and I buy cheapest of everything for everything, but we never go without anything, and we can still enjoy some leisure spending and a UK holiday. I have a history of very poor mental health and I'm now stable and happy and getting on with life. I'm just so blessed, what is another rejection email? It's nothing.

Yep, I have family and my health, I often think of people who didn't get to my age, grateful for my body every day.

I think this often. I work in a hospital and every day I see patients and families enduring great pain - in some cases drawn out over years or a lifetime. Every day that I don't have to live that life is a gift for which I am grateful.

Yes. 20 years ago I have a miscarriage and then struggled to get pregnant again for a while- fearing it would never happen. My 17 year old daughter just got predicted three A* s in her A levels and is applying to Oxbridge. She's just wonderful- as is her younger sister- another miracle baby who we very nearly lost during her birth.

All the time!
I pinch myself sometimes.
Lucky lady.

It's a very simple thing and I'm sure I have more examples but I always feel extremely lucky every week when I put our food shopping away that we can afford to feed our family. We do work hard to make it happen but I'm aware we are in a good position in life.