Do you ever just think 'wow I'm so lucky'

[carparkcow]

Having a bit of a soppy moment after a few drinks with DH and thought it might be a nice idea for a thread in amongst all of the misery online.

Do you ever look at your life and just think - wow - I could only have dreamt that things would turn out like this.

Specifically tonight we were talking about our beautiful 5 month old. I had a MMC before I had him and some very similar bleeding in early pregnancy this time round. We both remember being in the waiting room waiting for the scan and being sure they were going to give us bad news again, but that time we heard the glorious 'and there's the little heart beat.'

Now he's here and it's absolutely chaos because we've got 2 under 3 and are both self employed with very little support and neither kid sleeps very well but every now and then I just look at him (and his brother) and think WOW ❤️

I'd love to hear some other lovely stories in my soppy state!

Every single day.

I always dreamed of having a family of my own. After 3 miscarriages, I now have 2 gorgeous DCs and I’m 19 weeks pregnant with my second little girl. My DH is the most wonderful, kindest man who makes me feel completely secure. This is the life I’ve always dreamed of 🥰

Yep - survived a cardiac arrest outside of hospital and was clinically dead for 2 minutes. When I woke up, not only alive but surprisingly well, the younger doctors wanted to come have a look at me because it's not everyday you see that. I'm a much less stressed and worried person now, I'm on my second life anyway!

I feel lucky that despite being a single parent, I'm not destitute like my parents seemed to be when I was growing up. We had an electric / gas key meter that always ran out of money at annoying times. No landline (in the days before mobiles) and my mum's catchphrase was "we can't afford it". I think some of it was down to them being less responsible with money, so as an adult I am pretty careful, value my resources, and as a result despite a small income I am not scrabbling around and can buy the important stuff within reason. I have a gorgeous child - as a LP it is not easy but things are way easier than they were a few years ago.

Yes I feel grateful every day! I suffered a serious illness when younger and I remember thinking I would never have children.

I now have 2 gorgeous DDs at 3 and 1 and although I am shattered, I am very grateful to live a lovely home, area, have a lovely DH and professional job that I am able to work part time in.

If you had told the poverty stricken little girl in a deprived area that this is what she would have become I would have said it was a dream. And that dream has come true. Ahh that was soppier that I thought it was going to be!

Thank you for this thread OP. I do sometimes forget to stop and think how lucky I am.

I have the best DH who would do anything for me and our DS. Our DS is the best funniest person I know and I just adore our little family. We have a small house, hoping to move to a bigger house soon, but we are so lucky that we have what we have. We are all healthy and happy and that's what really matters.

We also have amazing family and friends who we spend a lot of time with. I am very grateful for them all. I had some difficult teenage years so if I had been shown what I have now then I would never have believed it.

I'm grateful every day for how lovely my life is. DH and I are still very much in love. Last night our song came on the radio in the kitchen and we just stood cuddling and slow danced until it finished. Our daughters have just about flown the nest, and they're always a pleasure to spend time, we're very close.

Thanks to us owning a very successful business we no longer have to worry about money and can enjoy a very comfortable, affluent lifestyle. We eat out all the time, have a cleaner and a gardener and lots of holidays and weekends away per year. I love our home so much, it's a renovated, period house that's smart enough to look good but comfortable enough to feel welcoming.

We have a great circle of friends that we've known for donkey years, and we're close to our families. I'm officially a lady who lunches and I potter through my days meeting friends for lunch, shopping, reading, drawing, jigsawing, drinking coffee and watching the world go by.

But what I value most is the peacefulness of our life now, the absolute peace and contentment. Reading a book in the garden, eating good food and going to bed early is bliss. It took blood, sweat and tears to get here and I will never take it for granted.

I feel very lucky to live in a country that is safe. We have a roof over our heads, we have food on the table, and we all have our health. These are the important things in life and I keep them to the forefront of my mind at all times- I never take them for granted.

Yes. I think of my great grandmother. Living in cellars with her 9 children as a refugee from the Irish famine of 1845-51. ( Life expectancy in Liverpool was 14.)
Or my grandmother. Her mother died when she was 5. 12 children all born at home ( no contraception ) only 7 survived to adulthood. Died of scarlet fever, TB, diptheria, heart problems. Worked very hard and died at 58.
Or my grandfather, the only one of many siblings who survived past 35.
Or my mother, a campaigner for equal pay,( for years on 75% of men's pay), was the only breadwinner for her widowed father, unemployed brother and sister and brother in law. (Not allowed to buy a house as women couldn't get mortgages.)
Or my 2 aunts - 1 lost her husband in WW1, her son in WW2, the other her fiancé.

All except my mother were either illiterate or left school at 13/14.

For most of the above no state help whatsoever. In a crisis if your family couldn't help, you died.

I have a house and a pension - so fortunate in comparison. They would be astounded at the ability of my children to go to University and have 'professional' jobs.

Weirdly DH and I had one of those moments only a couple of evenings ago. We were sitting out in the garden of our little house in Spain where we spend half the year, listening to the birds singing and the breeze in the palm trees, and we looked at each other and said, "Did we ever imagine we could have something as nice as this? And for so little money?"

We picked a smaller house than we set out to because we fell in love with the garden, and have never ever regretted it. Now our DC are grown up, the garden is a little like our baby. Life has been hard, but early retirement is bringing more joy than we ever dared hope and we really appreciate it.

🌞🌴🥂

I feel incredibly lucky to have my little girl. She’s almost 2 and whilst it can be hard being a lone parent, she’s the light of my life. Things were pretty bleak before she came along. How different life is now!

There are definitely some aspects of my life where I feel very lucky indeed and I'm very aware of how different things could have been. In particular, I feel very lucky when I look back on my childhood and think what brilliant parents my mum and dad were. Obviously no parent is perfect, but fundamentally, my mum and dad are kind, funny, principled, interesting, curious people who were incredibly supportive and encouraging to us when we were kids and I definitely get my core values from them. I also constantly think how lucky I am to have met my DP. I honestly could not ask for a better partner and in 21 years we've barely had a cross word between us.

My daughter for me. Our life/home is far from perfect but I often give myself a reality check and realise how lucky we are to have her and she never goes without

Yes, I’m seriously lucky and grateful. Couldn’t have imagined this life for myself 10 years ago; I was in my late thirties and very single, working all hours, living in a flat share in London, and pretty worried about the future.

Now I have a husband and two kids (one adopted), who are the centre of the universe, a part-time job and half a mortgaged house and garden in a lovely friendly place.

It was a hard road to get here, at times, but I am very grateful every day.

I feel lucky every day knowing what i went through and all the stigma that was said to me about being a young mum.
Im now 37 with 2 adult children.
Them that laughed well thats a whole different story now.
Im very lucky on a lot of things.

Yes! I had lots of miscarriages before and after my son was born, and we'd almost given up on the idea of having another baby when I was referred to Professor Lesley Regan's recurrent miscarriage clinic. She was amazing and found and fixed various gynae problems, so I went onto become pregnant with my daughter. Towards the end of that pregnancy, I developed pancreatitis, spent some time in ICU and almost died, and the baby was tiny and frail in utero. My son was 5 and I was so scared about leaving him and my husband.

Now I'm perfectly well, my frail baby is 4, at school and very jolly and strong, my son is 10 and adores his sister, and the four of us are happy as clams. We are so, so lucky.

Yes I often think this. I don’t earn a lot, I don’t drive a fancy car or have designer things but I feel so lucky and grateful in life to live in a relatively safe country, have the human rights I do, have the health I do and all the other small things that most people over look.

Love this thread!!!
Yes, I often do. There's a quote from Charlotte from SATC movie (of all people!) where she is asked do you feel happy everyday and she says something like "not all day everyday but everyday I do"...that's how I feel.

I love this thread! Yes, I thank my lucky stars every day. After having a crappy childhood with no money and angry, disinterested parents, then the heartache of losing a baby, I now have the kindest man I ever could have wished for as a husband and we have our lovely daughter, who has the most wonderful, thoughtful and funny personality. We don't have money struggles which I am grateful for, as we can provide our daughter with things I never had and we say I love you multiple times a day. She feels safe, loved and happy, which I never really did. After having seen some incredibly sad times for close friends and family, I am genuinely grateful with our happy little lives.

Yes all of the time.

I am skint, a single parent, a tough childhood, very few family members and the ones I do have are mentally ill or just self involved but it is absolute heaven compared to most peoples lives and I count myself lucky every single day that I don’t have the life that some people have to deal with.

I am also very healthy and don’t need to take any medications or have any physical impairments, which I didn’t realise was that rare until I went to a dentist and I was being asked questions about my health and then a senior staff member came over to check I had given the correct information.
Apparently most of the clients they see take some form of medication or have some form of physical disability, which makes me feel very fortunate indeed.

I did once and then it was taken from me in a blink of an eye.

im lucky to have what I have now, a roof over my head and food in my cupboard

Yes. There is a lot that I don't like about my life, but I love my job and my DC. I'm very lucky to have been able to do both.

I do indeed but am aware that there are some individuals who would have it all take from you - in our case - Anne Harrison/Besford- Stephensons solicitors/ Dennis Crowe IVA supervisor/ Peter/Irene Quinn all conspired to destroy our children and my Husband - When some see others with (to quote Shakespeare) a ‘daily’ beauty’ in their lives it makes them act in the most awful way So be wary one and all ☘️👍 and I hope you all continue to feel lucky

Lovely thread @carparkcow 😊

I feel incredibly lucky every time I think of my life with DH and our 3yo DS. I had a turbulent childhood with a chaotic and extremely volatile home and every night when I put DS to bed I take a moment to be thankful for the peaceful and safe home that we have created for our boy to grow in.

Yes x
Suffering from quite bad health problems and luckily, I live off investment properties so although I'm in bed 24/7.. the world will go on.

I won't be out of employment and I still have money coming in to support my family and keep my house running.

I've had to employ cleaners, which is a cut in my money but it's worth it to keep my house in good order while I can't.

I am very lucky. I hope to be recovered in a few months. X

Yes absolutely. Two amazing dds who are the kindest and funniest young women I know. A wonderful handsome husband who I trust with all my heart and still get on with brilliantly. A close and supportive family. A beautiful house with money in savings and no debts. A flexible and creative job that brings satisfaction but doesn’t take over my life. Lots of truly lovely friends. I have a tendency to get a bit grumpy thanks to menopause and sometimes have to take the time to check myself and remind myself how lucky I am as it’s easy to compare to others and get a bit fed up of the daily grind so thank you for this OP. Your family sounds wonderful ❤️