Do you ever just think 'wow I'm so lucky'

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Having a bit of a soppy moment after a few drinks with DH and thought it might be a nice idea for a thread in amongst all of the misery online.

Do you ever look at your life and just think - wow - I could only have dreamt that things would turn out like this.

Specifically tonight we were talking about our beautiful 5 month old. I had a MMC before I had him and some very similar bleeding in early pregnancy this time round. We both remember being in the waiting room waiting for the scan and being sure they were going to give us bad news again, but that time we heard the glorious 'and there's the little heart beat.'

Now he's here and it's absolutely chaos because we've got 2 under 3 and are both self employed with very little support and neither kid sleeps very well but every now and then I just look at him (and his brother) and think WOW ❤️

I'd love to hear some other lovely stories in my soppy state!

Yes I do. Due to some luck and hard work I can retire a few years early.

3 years ago I moved into my dream house

My dh is usually a kind and considerate person who supports and is my cheerleader.

I have a wonderful relationship with my dd and have a lovely smattering of friends.

I also enjoy the little things, my dogs, putting the fire on when it's chilly, walking into my home, sitting and looking out the window, having a garden

All the time, I’m very lucky I have a lovely husband and we have two really lovely little children. We only have them and each other because other people were brave enough to fight for years and risk their own safety, careers and relationships for people who in some cases hadn’t even been born yet, knowing they would never be able to experience the life that had been stolen from them.

My life hasn't been the best. But I have got through it. As it turns out all the shitty people in it before were the ones bringing me down and now I am on my own I have thrived and they have not. I have a small but reliable group of fabulous friends, a handsome partner who I trust and life is now good, better than it has ever been. I live in one of the most expensive places in the world. I am warm and have a roof over my head. I have free healthcare. A job that pays my mortgage. Food in the fridge. Yes, I am so so lucky.

Yes, my DD is getting married on Saturday to a lovely young man and DS is two years out of uni and has a great job. DH and I will retire in a year or two and have more money than I would have thought possible twenty years ago.

We’ve had some medical issues, all of which have resolved and it’s been a very good marriage. DH has been a great partner and father.

I’ve been very lucky and I know it.

Frequently.

Hearing ds laughing at YouTube
Sitting in the garden drinking coffee and watching the swallows
Lying in my bed early on a Sunday morning, all warm & snug, and knowing I don't have to rush anywhere.
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Yes, especially as I am now retired and soon will be paid to be retired!! After years of being bored silly doing office work I cannot believe my good luck.

Also, I consider myself lucky to be alive and relatively healthy.

This is a lovely read! Sometimes I feel very stressed about money, we are stretched right now and there isn't any wiggle room with finances. But I am married to my soul mate, have a tiny house filled with love, fresh food and a gorgeous little girl who makes us smile every day. As a child I had a stroke and often pause to be thankful that I survived and fully recovered, not everybody is that lucky. Health is wealth!

yes, though sometimes I feel like it’s abit unfair as I feel privileged and I guess so many things have just been easy for me that are hard for others.

i have 3 kids, easily bought a nice house, upgraded to a nicer place, have a good job that I enjoy at the school my kids attend. Dh and I both have great retirement savings, I’ve got excellent health, not hundreds of friends but few good friends, close family nearby. Was able to stay home with all 3 and only just last year gone full time when the kids were 9, 11 and 13.

Absolutely OP. I had a nice childhood so it's not a 'turnaround' for me to have a nice adulthood or anything but I'm very conscious of the nice middle class life we lead with our two DC and feel very grateful. We purposefully don't buy into the 'more more more' culture and live modestly compared to our income and I think that helps with the sense of gratitude we have.

Every day

I do, frequently! I was diagnosed with breast cancer last year and the treatment has been pretty difficult for me. I'm still in quite a bit of discomfort and tired all the time - plus living with the knowledge that it is very likely that the cancer will recur and a digestive system that is completely knackered!

BUT - I've just had a scan and there is no cancer at the moment.
Despite having been living in poverty for over half my adult life I am now in a comfortable position financially
After 2 failed marriages I met the most wonderful man and he makes me so happy
I woke up this morning to the sound of birdsong and the view from my bed is of the varying greens of the trees in the hedge and the stunning lime green of the Acer in my neighbours garden - with the early morning sun on it it glows!
I live in a lovely place and have nice neighbours
I have a lovely family
And so many more things!

Every day I have a moment where I think how lucky I am and how much I love my life! Don’t know what I did in a past life to deserve it!

God every day when I look at my son I think how lucky I am. I really didn't think I would have any children and then it happened, it was a tough journey but since his birth yes.. I've always felt so lucky.

We also own a house (with the mortgage) and whilst it's a stretch at times, I feel super lucky that we managed to save in the years of renting and get out of rented and into a house we will one day own outright. When the interest rates went up I panicked and knew how tight things would be - and then reflected and saw how much rent had risen and just felt so lucky that things had at least stacked up this way as it is better than the alternative, which again - for a while - I couldn't see would ever end

Oh and I have both of my parents. For all their quirks and times they drive me mad, a bit of a dodgy history that we managed to work through, now we are closer than we ever were and they make amazing grandparents who listen to what I have to say and care so much for both myself and my child. I feel so lucky for that, at one point the relationships were very strained

I also feel lucky to live near a school which has proven to be decent, and which my son goes to and enjoys, one which has clubs he loves doing after school and before has been an amazing added bonus

Oh! And I have a job I enjoy!!

Thank you for this post - some of these things I don't think about often in the mess of rushing about and making ends meet, but the individual elements really are fantastic and I have a lot to be greatful for

Yes, I thank my lucky stars often.

DH is great. We get along well, very rarely a cross word and we love and respect one another. He is kind and an excellent father to our daughters.

DDs are the light of my life. They're 5 and 7 now and well behaved, fun little girls. They've got a lovely bond as sisters and bring us so much joy.

We have enough money to be comfortable and a lovely house that has enough space for us. Our work isn't the most thrilling but both DH and I have very flexible jobs that give us plenty of time with DDs and a good work life balance for decent pay, so we know we're very lucky.

We have had some difficult times over the past couple of years with bereavement and some health scares and have weathered those storms together. I have a lot to be very thankful for.

Yes. My DH and I have been together 41 years and apart from the odd niggle and one big wobble have been very happy, I was able to take early retirement and we live comfortably, we have had some amazing holidays, I have a group of great friends and I'm able (for free) to access a miracle drug which means living with a long-term health condition is a breeze. I wish I were 20 years younger but you can't have it all

Every day I think I'm so lucky

I live in a beautiful area and walk the beach most mornings early before work

I have my own business that pays very well and yes I work so so hard but it's still a privelage to me

I have a lovely house and garden that I can enjoy but most of all I have the most amazing dc some adults now starting their lives with lovely partners.

My parents are still active although sometimes can be hard work but I am grateful to still have them.

My twenties were the hardest time of my life going into early thirties.

My health was dealt a shitty hand and I had debt collectors at the door a lot

It was brutal and I never forget it,even upto lockdown four years ago when I couldn't work so we had to work two jobs each when we could work just to cover the bills.

It was horrendously stressful so yes every day I'm grateful for what we have achieved

Yes, every single day. I wish I could go back and tell my 17 year old depressed and abused self this.

Every day. For a long time as a young adult I was very depressed and thought I wasn’t capable of being happy. Now I not only have my mental health but also my lovely kids and DH, a career that I enjoy, our own house and enough money not to have to worry about how things will get covered. I’m grateful every day.

Truly, being aware of how good you have it helps to build your resilience for when things go really wrong.

I've had an absolute bugger of a time these past 5 years, on just about every level. Fortunately food and shelter have never been at risk, and we are all still alive (although I'm quite seriously ill, but I do hope to recover...).

I still feel extremely fortunate and it's easier for me to count my blessings than to feel sorry for myself. I think having had it so good for so long - and appreciating that fact - can give you the strength to get through the hard times.

Not recently. Recently I have cried most days about bad luck and "why us?" and what we could have done to deserve this.

I like this thread though, it makes me hopeful that I'll get to a point where I will think positively and think "I am so lucky" again ❤️

Long time married, in our 70s, reasonable health (I’m off to the gym shortly), comfortable home paid for, adult DC who we get on with, lovely DGC, and enough to eat well and keep warm. Time to read, garden, see friends etc. No pressure. I count my blessings regularly as does DH. We’ve had some rocky times both health and money wise, and survived.

Sending good thoughts your way. At the risk of sounding twee, it really is good to have a cry and feel sorry for yourself sometimes. Sometimes the only way out is through 💐

Every single day! I look back in history at how things were for many people and I look at what's happening now around the world and I think how lucky I am to have been born when and where I was.

Absolutely every day. I had a very tough experience with my family of origin that I thought I could never possible accept and get over. I am NC with my siblings and parents. Now my life is a million times better than it even was before and I am enormously grateful for every day of it. Life has a funny way of working out.

I am in the middle of chemo and my husband has just had a life-threatening medical issue. I consider myself extremely lucky. We are both still here, we have the best circle of friends and family and life in an area I consider my paradise

Someone said only yesterday that they couldn't believe my bad luck. I was astonished. I suppose some are always glass half empty people