In law shoving me

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I’d really like some opinions please as my family and friends are supporting me but my husband blames me.

A long story short but I asked my mother in law to pick up my husband and his brother who were both alcohol fuelled and still drinking beers from our house as we were expecting guests at the house. Baring in mind, the brother still lives at home with the mum at 34 and she always gives them lifts. Once they had found this out, the brother enters the house and I ask him what he would like as I’m cleaning ready for our guests. He said ‘who the fuck do you think you are chucking my brother out of his own house’ to which I responded ‘I asked your mum to pick you both up so you can carry on drinking at hers, my husband can have a shower there then walk home and sober up for our guests arriving’ he then walks towards me and I ask again what he would like as I’ve mopped the floor. I told him to stay where he was and I’d get the beers out of the fridge for him as I knew that’s what he wanted. He said ‘you can’t stop me, I’ll go wherever the fuck I want to go in this house’ and came up chest to chest with me shoving me back towards the fridge. Pushed past me with his arm to get his beers and slammed the door. That’s when I shouted ‘what the fuck are you doing’ Obviously the story carries on and my husband gets involved and tells me not to speak to his brother like that not knowing what had just happened.

once they left I barricaded the back gate, shut the windows and locked all the doors keeping the keys in so i knew they couldn’t be opened from the outside. I felt and still feel threatened and scared for myself and my baby who was upstairs at the time. Im up crying through the night thinking about what had happened and bring my baby into bed with me so I can protect him but also because I need someone with me too. I cannot ever imagine allowing the brother back into my house or being in a social situation. If he does apologise I don’t think I could accept the apology either.

im not sure if I’m overreacting as I did have my baby 6 months ago so it could be my hormones or if I’m well within my right to feel how I’m feeling?

Your husband and his brother are revolting pieces of abusive shit. Please get the fuck away from that family.

Again read what I said not justifying or defending anything
I pushed past someone to get to the bar last night in Weatherspoons should I be arrested for assault

i wasn’t there so can’t comment on what happened

This was not a crowded pub @rwalker. There are zero circumstances where a push or a shove is acceptable here.

I wouldn't be allowing BiL in the house again.
I don't understand some of what you've said OP, DH and BiL were drunk, you were sending them to MiL's to carry on drinking but then Dh was going to walk home to sober up before guests were arriving? That doesn't make any sense at all, sobering up doesn't work like that.
DH sounds like he has an alcohol problem which you are minimising. He is also totally unreasonable to not to chuck BiL out straightaway. But it sounds like BiL has a problem with you, probably he doesn't like any attempts to curtail the drinking. He thinks his brothers house is an extension of the family home so he can do what he wants, and who are you to stop him.
If Dh can't step up then I'd be thinking about ending the relationship.

Report this to the police.

Your H is a useless idiot.

@rwalker

'He said ‘you can’t stop me, I’ll go wherever the fuck I want to go in this house’ and came up chest to chest with me shoving me back towards the fridge. Pushed past me with his arm to get his beers and slammed the door.'

Do you think it's acceptable to say to someone 'I'll do whatever the fuck I want in this weatherspoons' go up to someone chest to chest and shove them backwards? Or is there just not enough context for your brain to understand?