Exactly 30 years ago - Got divorced at 24, managed to get all the equity in the house - a grand total of £7K (approx £17K now) - by saying I wouldn't touch his fire service pension.
I'd been talking about going on holiday on my own for 3 weeks/a month once I got the money. Not only had I been dealing with my own divorce, but my also my parent's long and horrible divorce, that took 3 years to go through. My mother had ripped through her financial settlement in next no time - she was spending money like she still had access to my father's ex-pat income. I had been diagnosed with severe depression...
During all this, my younger brother suggested we go back to Oz - my parents had moved us to the UK a decade earlier. I would get the 3 of us one-way plane tickets - cost £1K - and then use the rest of my divorce settlement to set us up in a rented flat. My mother leapt on this, she was heavily in arrears with her rent and also had high credit card debit...I then stupidly let her emotionally blackmail me into shipping all her furniture back as well...that cost another 2 grand....
Trying to make an already long story shorter, my £7K was gone within 3 weeks. 2 weeks after being back in Oz the shippers got in touch to say they'd underestimated how much stuff there was and we owed them another £1K...ended up having to ditch all MY personal effects to lower the bill. One month after the furniture arrives - we've been back in Oz 9 months - my younger brother announces that he's going back to the UK. My mother had been such a nightmare to live with that I'd had a massive nervous breakdown and had attempted suicide, so no way on Earth was I being left on my own with her. I managed to scrape together the plane fare and 3 months later I arrived back in the UK, homeless and with £50 to my name. I was homeless for 3 weeks until the local YMCA managed to persuade a landlord to take me on. My mother followed us back to the UK 6 months later, lasted a year and then returned back to Oz...
Less than 4 years later my ex H sold the house for 5 times what we paid for it. My younger brother years later admitted that when he'd suggested we went back to Oz, he'd meant just for a holiday...and where does he and my mother now live, and have done for 20 years? Oz...I've been on my own in the UK all that time.
Am I bitter? You better believe it! 😂