What can you no longer do?

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I’ll start. I have donated blood since my university days (80’s). I can’t do that now as I was diagnosed with cancer in. 2022. It’s strange, but this is a thing that really upsets me.

Op my mum was hit hard by no longer being able to give blood when she got cancer as well. I can remember how upset she was - she’d got her silver award, and knowing she’d never get gold devastated her. 😔 I hope your health is good now.

For me, horse riding. I learnt when I was three, and although I was never lucky enough to have my own horse, it was always something I did when I had the opportunity. Then when I reached my forties I suddenly lost my nerve. I couldn’t do it any more. I no longer felt safe. So now I just enjoy looking at them.

Give blood (transfusions)
Drink wine
Eat a whole load of delicious things.

A crab 😭 it used to be my drunken party trick to go into a crab and then gracefully get back out of it. Last time I tried it I pulled something in my dodgy back and I was out of action for a month.

A rolly-poly. Used to be so easy.

Cough, sneeze or laugh without wetting myself!

I also cannot do the splits anymore. I think the coughing thing bothers me more!

I thought this too but turns out l wasn't reading the right books for me!

Eat white bread.

Just tried this and surprised myself and nutted the rug 🤕 Good old hypermobility - what it takes away with one gnarly hand...

Have sex

Since husband had brain damage in May 2010.

I am his carer and we are like housemates,a bedroom each.

Yep. There was a thread on here saying ‘there’s no excuse not to take your shoes off’ and I thought, how bloody ableist.

Jump out of bed in the morning;g. I used to be an annoy8ng person waking up full of go. Now my ankles hurt for the first 10 minutes or so, and I have to start slowly. I hate it

Swim, the water upsets my ears.

What an incredible attitude to have. I am going to try and be more like you, you sound amazing, thank you

I'm 64 and can no longer eat gluten, most dairy, apples, raw onion...

Well, I can eat them - but I suffer afterwards. Have also had to cut back on coffee and chocolate, which may not be entirely bad.

Play tennis, run, kneel down. My knees are fucked.

1. Go barefoot outdoors. As a teen in the 1960s I walked miles barefoot. (I still enjoy not wearing footwear indoors, though.)
2. Dance Gay Gordons or Dashing White Sergeant without getting really out of puff.
3. Sing, since Covid. I used to sing Big Works in choirs that gave concerts in cathedrals; now I sing Sunday hymns in the way Rex Harrison performed in My Fair Lady.
4. Expect anyone reading this to understand my references. But please believe me that being in your late 70s doesn't mean you don't miss walking outdoors barefoot, whirling around a dancefloor holding hands with strangers or the joys of choral singing.

That sounds tough. Can I ask your age?

Wear gorgeous high heeled shoes

Read tiny print on labels, or T&Cs

Get up from the floor without using my hands

But the diet industry tells us its calories in calories out and it's the same for everyone!

It's clear that in reality this is not the case, and refreshing to hear someone say that they were able to eat everything and no effect! 😊

I had a lot of therapy in my 40s, and I have lost a lot of my inhibitions about telling people to go take a run and jump and that has actually improved my life a lot.

Also my short term memory went a bit wrong post covid and that really helped to dial down anxiety because now when I see things that scare me, I immediately forget what they were.

So on balance, I think I have lost mainly things that I didn't want or need.

I have lost a lot of physical stuff, but I'm kind of hoping that some of it might come back now I'm not stressed out of my mind all the time.

Stay up past 2:00 without feeling like shit the next day.

Just today I popped round to some acquaintances for something. I know they have a no-shoes house and I waited at the door saying sorry, I can’t take my shoes off. They both immediately insisted I come in with my shoes on. So lovely of them, I felt a little bad about it but I really do hobble without shoes and it was so nice that they understood.

For all those getting up in the night- I have this when I eat a healthy diet inc fruit, but not when I'm surviving on rubbish! 🤷🏻‍♀️

I can't do up my jeans

I can't see my fandango!

I can't fall asleep within seconds of getting into my bed.

I can't read a book because I have no interest/inclination.

I can't eat bread.

Sleep through the night…either the Ddog wakes me for a wee or I wake her when I go for a wee (we grumble at each other in the dark!)

Take anti inflammatories, eat curry, or anything minty or drink champagne… I get raging heartburn and reflux for days afterwards.

Drink alcohol, it makes me nod off, especially after a lunchtime drink

Eat anything too crunchy or tough… spend my days hanging on to my teeth so even the cornflakes have to soak for a bit before eating😵‍💫 Very careful with crusty bread, peanuts etc.