Please help. Just found this on my dad's back.

[sprigatito]

My dad's partner died of cancer a few days ago, he and I were with her when she died, and I've brought him home with me until the funeral (and probably permanently). He's got Alzheimer's and his partner was his carer. He's been looking pained and twisting his shoulder, he said it's just a spot, but I made him show me his back and found this. It looks just like the squamous cell carcinoma he's had removed before, only it's enormous. He's lost weight and is pale and more vague and breathless than usual, but I thought it was just grief

This is really fucking bad, isn't it? He survived stage 4 lymphoma in 2017 and has a heart condition. I have a doctor calling me back from 111, but should I just take him to A&E?

There will be something in place at your GPs that will offer transport, even if you have to pay them, it will be mileage only. Please check it out x

Ah, wonderful news!

Great news. Enjoy your painting

Oh brilliant! I hope the weather's held up for you nicely for your watercolours this afternoon. Good luck with the funeral, and hopefully the wait for the results isn't too bad.

I’m so pleased for you both. It must be a huge relief. All the best for the funeral on Friday.

Brilliant news OP!

That’s a relief. I hope all goes well Friday.

Amazing news, so pleased for you and your dad. Wishing him a smooth recovery and also some time for you to process this a little bit.

Great news

Your dad sounds like a lovely man!

Hearing your lovely Dad described as "chirpy as a cricket" made me smile.

Wishing you and him all the strength for Friday and for the preparations needed.

You are an incredible advocate and support for him. Go gently on yourself...YOU also matter hugely.

*"lively as a cricket"

Wonderful news. Would love to see the painting!

Oh, I'm so happy to read this! Whatever happens, it's brilliant to get rid of it now, you've done such a great job advocating for your lovely dad. I do hope the funeral goes OK on Friday. Enjoy your well-deserved painting this afternoon xx

Oh that's fabulous news that its been excised! He's going to be a lot more comfortable, even with a nice war wound to show for it, at least he will be able to lay flat and sit back now once its started to heal. I hope the funeral goes as well as these things can x

Oh that is such great news! The pair of you rock!!

Yay, I am so happy to read this. I really wish you and your Dad well, I have everything crossed.

So, so happy for you and your dad, OP! It must be a massive relief to know that it's gone. Fingers crossed about the results, but for now let's focus on life, and the now, and enjoy the time with your dad.

@sprigatito I hope your travels tomorrow and the funeral on Friday go OK. Best wishes for the next bit of the journey.

Thanks so much for all the good wishes, it really means a lot. We're all packed and ready to go tomorrow, Dad had his dressing changed by a nurse yesterday and all looks good (I collared the nurse who was doing his blood tests and she sorted it for me!). Took him to the barber today for a good spruce-up, he's even had his eyebrows trimmed I've had a few conversations with him today about the funeral just to prepare him, and he does seem to be retaining that it's happening. We had a good long talk about his partner and he cried a bit, and he said that the goodness of her character can't ever really die, because it's part of him ❤️

It'll be a tough weekend but we'll get him through it. DS1 has just arrived home from uni (we're all travelling together tomorrow) which has cheered his Grandad up.

Good luck OP. I'll be thinking of you. So glad you managed to get your Dad all spruced up. You're a wonderful loving daughter, the best he could have. I hope you enjoy this family time together, even if it's for such a sad reason.

“he said that the goodness of her character can't ever really die, because it's part of him ❤️”

That’s beautiful and made me cry. This is how I feel about my late MIL - her goodness lives on in my lovely DH.

So glad to hear that you and your dad’s spirits are up, considering the circumstances. I wish you both the best.

I welled up at that, too.

Such a lovely, comforting sentiment for him, OP.

Seriously well done for negotiating the barber's. And glad you have your DS with you, for the travelling part too.

You have all of us on this thread willing to listen anytime you need to offload.

Lots of deep breaths. Just focus on step-by-step 'in the moment' for today and tomorrow.

May Friday go as well as the circumstances permit for your Dad, you and your family.

Your dad sounds like a sweetheart. ❤️ I’m glad your ds lifted his spirits.

Wishing you all well for tomorrow.