Really dislike my child's name

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It was chosen in a rush when she was born poorly. My husband loved it and kept calling her it, nothing serious, and I just ran with it when the NICU asked 'does she have a name yet we can write down?'

Anyway, she was registered as that. And she is not too far off school starting age so obviously it cannot be changed fairly

I don't like it because it isn't really an adult's name. It is pretty enough. And it's not awful.

But it is brassy, a lot of people would say!

I just wished I'd given her an adult name that is timeless and classic

My other DC had a classic, timeless name. Suitable for a lawyer

It's Lola. Nothing more annoying than someone not saying what the name actually is! So there you go

If’s a lovely name op. I like classical names too and this wouldn’t have been my first choice for a girl, but that said I actually think it’s a beautiful and elegant name. .

I did wonder if you were going to say her name was Minnie (worst name ever)

Lola on the other hand is a good name!

Does she have a middle name? So she has the option to use that if she wanted to when she is older.

Does your DH know how you feel about it?

It's a perfectly nice name (not to my personal taste but absolutely nothing wrong with it)

DD is 10 and has a Lola in her class. I like it, prefer it to many of the other popular names these days like Poppy and Lilly. I am also someone who prefers classic names too.

One of my DDs has a longer (‘classier’) name but somehow it evolved to Lola. One of her sisters started it and it has never stopped!
Also, my DH (solicitor) went to Uni with a girl called Lola. Your DDs name won’t ’hold her back’ at all.
I think you’re worrying about nothing, OP!

I had a great Aunty Lola who was born just after WW1 so the name has been around a long time. I think you need to make peace with this, but I do empathise because my DD was named in similar circumstances and 16 years later I still wish we'd called her something else. She loves her name though and would hate to be what I wish I used (Camellia or Eilidh) and I think some things happen for a reason.

That was my first thought too, although Dolores is very Catholic - nothing wrong with that, but it might confuse people if the OP wasn't Catholic. I think this is the right idea though, put a more formal name on the birth certificate and keep Lola as a nickname.

My DD1 (aspiring lawyer!) is called Fifi, but that's not the name on her birth certificate!

Lola is fine, it's Lawrence I'm not keen on. Sorry.

Oh I like it, sounds quite quirky alongside her brothers names. I'm sure she will do just fine.

I had a mid 30s Gp called Kylie .that was one of "those" names when I was working in childcare that people were snooty about.

Personally I love it but Marcus and Lawrence are boring old man names to me. But then I have no aspirations for my children to be stressed yet bored out of their mind as lawyers. We are all different!

A lot of lawyers are twats anyway and it can be a boring job with loads of paperwork.

Lola is fine :)

Thanks, feel better now I've started this thread and nobody has said it reminds them of someone will all fur coat and no knickers

I really, really don't like Dolores! It means misery, but I just don't like it - It is technically classic but just feels stuffy, if that makes sense

I like Lola, it's just such a fun name, it feels. So I didn't think it would be good for a grown woman

She can always change her name by deed poll when she’s older if she feels it’s holding her back. There’s nothing wrong with her name anyway.

it's a nice name

I think Lola is a really cool name for child or adult. Not brassy at all IMO

Lola is fine for an adult or child

Lola is lovely, I'd be more concerned about Marcus only known met men in prison called Marcus.

Lola is lovely. Brassy it is not. As PP suggested the name Chardonnay is Brassy.

Saw a TikTok the other day about a woman in her 30s exposing heat he primary aged daughter was saying name like Charlotte, Samantha etc are old people names and names like Evie, Ava etc are young people names. So Lola fits in the young persons names as it's very much back in and will grow with her. By the time she's an adult the Lola will be an adult name and other names will be classed as young people names

I was also going to link Baroness Lola Young.

I know some young Lolas, all with parents who are lawyers, TV producers, creative types.

In my daughter's year group of 130 at a fairly 'middle class' secondary school there are four Lolas! A friend of mine also has a Lola, who is currently at medical school. It is a nice name and I'm sure that in years to come there will be plenty of lawyers and doctors named Lola.

I love the name Lola , it's pretty

I love Marcus and Lawrence btw and actually much prefer Lola to Delores

If it helps, I know LOTS of grown up Lolas, who are perfectly responsible, respectable women.

But more importantly, you say your DD suits the name, so all is good.

It's a beautiful name. I know a teenage Lola and she's a gorgeous girl inside and out.

I like it. Unusual so there won't be three in her class, but everyone knows it and knows how to spell it. Great Starbucks name.

Plus the sound will fit in nicely with all the Ellie, Ella, Emma, Eva, Evie, Ava, Isla type names in her generation without being as anonymous or ubiquitous as those.