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What is the cheekiest thing someone has asked of you?

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Conniebygaslight · 15/05/2024 17:46

There have been many but reading on another thread about the CFery of a school mum reminded me of a time when my DC were at primary.
A mum asked if I’d mind picking her DC up from school and taking them to another school a few miles away where they were competing in an intersports thing. My DC were competing too so I agreed assuming she was working.
When we got there, said mum was already there in the front row with her DH & DPs. I asked what was going on, she replied that they wanted a good seat and parking so didn’t want to wait until their DC finished school so they could get their first. I was absolutely stunned…I still laugh at the audacity of this years later🤣🤣

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DrJonesIpresume · 16/05/2024 14:05

Bumblebeeinatree · 16/05/2024 09:19

We did have a gardening, house warming party, everyone pitched in to help out our large totally overgrown new garden, but we did supply lots of food, beer and wine. Everyone seemed to have a good time and we did ask in advance.

Yes, that was a good idea. What got me though was that it was just us she expected to help, and she had considerable form for it in other ways. I'd already helped her move house twice before, and there were a couple of other fairly major things too, which I never got properly thanked for. At one of them (event at their family business) her brother was really arseholey with me, not realising I was her friend doing a (massive) favour for nothing. He thought I was an upstart employee and he wanted to put me in my place. The other thing was that she wanted us to do the garden before her friends arrived, which got me thinking 'well what are we to you then?'.

The clincher is that this was 5 years ago, and she's not been in touch since.

DrJonesIpresume · 16/05/2024 14:10

Starlight1979 · 16/05/2024 12:09

Ok I have been on the other side of this. I ordered some furniture which I arranged to have delivered to work knowing I wouldn't be home on the day they wanted to deliver. Or so I thought. (I work in a huge factory / warehouse setup btw, not a city centre office!). Unfortunately I mustn't have changed the delivery address from my billing address and yep, it ended up all being piled into next doors hallway 😭

Tbf they're very good neighbours and we all do a lot for each other but I felt absolutely terrible. I hope my neighbour isn't one of you lot thinking I'm a CF 😂

Our neighbours are absolutely lovely and we do take in parcels for each other. The patio set was a one-off, and we all expected it to be flat-packed, not ready-assembled!!

Conniebygaslight · 16/05/2024 14:21

MissAmbrosia · 16/05/2024 09:07

Mild compared to some of these, but we moved house recently and had some small items of furniture to give away, advertised on local FB group, with a message that we would be at the house at this time and it was first come first served. Found potential new owners for nearly everything. Not one, but 2 different people called me to say that they had come for x,y,z and were outside in the car, if we could just bring it out. Lazy gits.

Ah yes that old chestnut, similar to when you offer something on FB Market Place for free and you get messages asking if you can deliver...😂

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Menomeno · 16/05/2024 14:21

determinedtomakethiswork · 16/05/2024 13:56

@Menomeno you win the thread crown with that one. That's such disgusting behaviour from her and your husband. I hope you got rid of him and have a happy life now.

Thank you! I’d already got rid of him and found out afterwards. He’s married to her sister now! She’s bloody welcome to him.

Opine · 16/05/2024 14:21

@Menomeno My jaw dropped reading that. What absolute b@stards.
I hope you are happy and surrounded by people who love & respect you ❤️

Opine · 16/05/2024 14:23

@YoureStuckOnMeLikeATattoohoohoo Absokuteku disgusting and definitely unforgivable. Your lovely little girl was also their niece. Vile people.
So sorry for your awful loss.

Lacuranights · 16/05/2024 14:24

Neighbours/friends initially asked if we would take in a single parcel for them - they wanted to go out and didn’t have a porch or a safe place to leave deliveries. Fine, but the whole thing snowballed to the point where we were taking in several parcels a week (it got ridiculous at Christmas) and we were expected to take things round at a time that suited them.
I was shopping with the lady of the house and she was ordering some made to measure curtains. I wandered off for a mooch and returned just in time to hear her give our address, telling the sales assistant that ‘someone is always at home in so it didn’t matter what day the curtains were delivered.’
Turned out that for more than a year, both they and their sons were putting their name, but our address on anything they ordered because they didn’t want to have to stay in for deliveries. I put a stop to it immediately and they sulked for ages. Apparently, their time was far more important than ours.

VaddaABeetch · 16/05/2024 14:25

My neighbour told me, not suggested or asked that his brother, wife & 2 kids would be moving in with me.

TerrifiedOfNoise · 16/05/2024 14:31

My brother and his wife asked me to move out of my home when I was 8 months pregnant so that they could stay there when visiting my parents. Their suggestion was that me and my partner go back to his house (it was empty and SSTC as we were selling his first then mine in order to buy together). The clincher is this is because they weren’t able to stay at my parents as they couldn’t possibly share a room with their children whilst they visited and insisted on two separate rooms (which my parents don’t have). I couldn’t get over the absolute cheek of it all.

fridgegrazer · 16/05/2024 14:39

VaddaABeetch · 16/05/2024 14:25

My neighbour told me, not suggested or asked that his brother, wife & 2 kids would be moving in with me.

What? Why on earth would they even dream of such a thing? There must be some back story here!

Sharontheodopolodous · 16/05/2024 14:40

Newestname002 · 16/05/2024 13:46

Wow!! I'm totally speechless at how thoroughly evil she is. You would have been right to have taken legal action - although perfectly understandable you might not want to. Have you changed the locks? And I'm assuming DP has got a strong password on his computer now (although stable doors...), secured his smartphone etc. So sorry you had to go through this nastiness. 🌹

I wanted to go to the police over the pictures but dp asked me not to and at the time,I had other stressful things going on so I left it

She would stand there,smirking and saying 'you two are my slaves','you have to do as I say or I'll tell mum' (who would then start up a level of abuse like you've never seen before) or 'buy me this (pulls expensive shit up on her phone-the expensive phone we bought her and paid to run' or I'll kick off' (I wrote about her on the sulking thread)

I mean this is a young lady of 18 (if she'd been 8,I would have dealt with her attitude in a way suitable for her age but she is an adult speaking like this to me in my own home!)

He did change his password,but those photos are out there now-i know people who have seen them and i don't know if they've been uploaded onto the Internet (it's bad enough my dad AND bosses have seen them)

I insisted we change the door locks at a lot of expense just in case she'd had another key cut but I don't think she did-she'd had the first set done but not a second-we had the locks changed just in case

But for all the people saying I'm evil for not kissing her arse and calling her nasty and spoilt-yes I knew dp had kids

So do i-i get on really well with his family including his younger child,just as much as he gets on with my (adult) children-the problem was the older dds attitude

Anyway,please let's get back to the cf stories (of which I know many-thank god for the menopause-they don't seem to come for me anymore)

LawlorsNaa · 16/05/2024 14:42

Visited my DH cousin and his wife's new home many years ago. Four hour round trip. Arrived and were not even offered a glass of water whilst the cousin was eating their Chinese takeaway from the night before and telling us how good it was and washing it down with a cool beer.

The wife then asks me to drive her to the shops to pick up some lunch items. She gets a trolley, does a full shop and when we get to the till says to me " we will just go halves for this seen as its for your lunch too ". Told her no I had no cash or card on me. Got back to the house and all the shopping was put away and we didn't even get a sandwich, obviously because I hadn't agreed to pay for half of her weekly shop. DH suggested we go to the pub as we were parched. DH bought first round, I was only drinking coke as driving. Cousin ordered a double whiskey, wife ordered a very expensive cocktail, DH had a pint. Cousins round and he got me a "splash " of coke. Ordered himself the cheapest pint of beer and the wife had a glass of tap water as the cocktail was very sugary and sweet so just needed a glass of water . DH round and again cousin ordered a double whiskey, wife was going through cocktail list wondering what to have next .DH gave me a look, made our excuses and left.

Same wife suggested I could practice all my beauty treatments on her in the run up to her wedding. I could collect her from work, go back to my house and then drop her home. She had worked out waxing/tinting dates that suited her but would like a facial every week. (All for free)

EmpressSoleil · 16/05/2024 14:50

Years ago, a male friend said he had a "favour" to ask me. I said "what?". He then says "can I lose my virginity to you" 😂He wasn't drunk. Didn't seem to particularly even fancy me! He just seemed to think I'd be happy to sleep with him for no good reason. It will come as no surprise to know that I said no!

Flossflower · 16/05/2024 14:50

One of my children did a hobby. There were several children in the class and a few of them went to the same school as my child. Some went to different schools. I didn’t know these children and parents quite so well. One evening one of the mothers from a different school, rang me up and said she had got a new job and could I pick her child up from their school after I had picked mine up and take them to the hobby. I hardly knew her. She had got my name and number from the person who ran the hobby group.
Fortunately I was already in a lift swap with another parent and told her so. I also told her I only dealt in reciprocal arangements! I am glad I said this but I was really embarrassed. I am well beyond that now and always think when put on the spot.
If put on the spot, my MIL would always say ‘I will think about ‘ and that is probably very wise of her.

IwishMaxTheriothadanOnlyfans · 16/05/2024 14:50

I didn't pass my driving test till I was in my 30s and my at-the-time primary aged DD was friends with the DD of an absolute CF. She called me up to congratulate me on passing my test (saw me at school pick up with R plates) and then asked if I could collect her DD every morning for school "on my way". She was a single mum who worked shifts and her mum stayed over with her kids but didn't drive so she was sending her to school in a taxi.

Her idea of "on my way" was to turn off the main road and onto her estate and then another few minutes drive to her house. Stupidly agreed.

Her DD was never ready when we went to pick her up. She was also horrifically rude to her DGM - eg gran calls to her to hurry up, CFDD shouts back "fuck off granny! I'll be there in a minute". They frequently "forgot" to tell me if she ill or not going in for whatever reason meaning I'd wasted a journey.

I immediately realized I'd been taken for a mug and was desperate to get out of the arrangement. I tried to gradually withdraw by limiting my availability but nope, she had an answer for everything. She even asked me to take her DD to school on the day I was getting married and my DD was having the day off!

It came to a head after a few months, in the horrendous winter of 2011 when temperatures were well below zero for weeks. I told her I couldn't collect her DD for school as I was incredibly nervous driving in the terrible weather conditions and the road I used that went by her estate was un-gritted and very treacherous at the rural end where I came onto it. I had the option to go a slightly longer way on a main road that was always reliably gritted so planned on doing that and therefore wouldn't be collecting her DD anymore.

She told me to go the longer way and double back to pick up her DD thus avoiding the un-gritted rural part of the road. And adding at least an extra 20 or 30 minutes to the extra 10 minutes (minimum) that collecting her daughter already added to my morning school run.

I grew a pair and flat out refused - I was genuinely terrified driving in those conditions as a newly qualified driver. She persisted and kept messaging me asking me to collect her DD! She remains one of the most CFs I've ever dealt with and I think of her every time there's a CF or car pool thread on here! Her DD bullied mine terribly later that school year and she actually ended up being suspended so thankfully, the friendship between the girls died a death too.

loveulotslikejellytots · 16/05/2024 14:55

SIL wanted to borrow our photographer on our wedding day to have some family photos done (or her, BIL and their 2 kids). I was assured it would only take an hour or so. We did say no.

And the worst one I can remember is a very close friend lost her little boy at 2 weeks old (SIDS). Another friends sister (who I didn't know) had found out that I was holding onto all of their baby's stuff until they were in a better place to deal with it all. They just wanted it out of the house to start with. She kept messaging me asking me to ask the grieving parents if she could buy certain items. I sent screenshots to my friend (who's sister it was) and I never heard from her again, thankfully.

Beautiful3 · 16/05/2024 14:56

A new neighbour with 2 school aged children, approached me to ask me to take her children to school on rainy days. Because she can see that I'm lucky enough to own a car. I explained that we walk most of the time as school is literally 10 minutes away. She asked why not drive, so I wouldn't get wet?! I told her we all wear rain jackets and foot wear. The car is more for longer travel. She said she never gets any childcare help, since she moved down south away from friends & family. I discussed the possibility of the three of us (including another mum) taking turns to baby sit for each other. She shrieked that she should not be expected to babysit for others, when it is she who needs it?! Never spoke to her again. She had 2 more children then moved back up north, for better support from family and friends.

Whatsmyusername1235 · 16/05/2024 14:58

BlueRidgeMountain · 15/05/2024 18:15

There’s the time a close family member wanted to borrow my car….. to drive to Poland. Was most put out when I said no because
a) I needed my car for work
b) they in fact had their own car and could just use that!
then they announced they didn’t want to risk their car breaking down in the journey, so thought they could use mine. Their car was newer than mine, and when I asked what they thought would happen if my car broke down on the journey, they announced they’d have to just leave it there! Don’t know what upset them more - the fact I said no, or that I didn’t stop laughing about it for days!

😂😂

DrJonesIpresume · 16/05/2024 14:59

Minniemooose · 15/05/2024 23:55

I know this isn’t really the point but I can’t help but wonder….. Vancouver couldn’t possibly only be a 7 hour drive from NY?! More like 7 days as ones in the west coast and ones on the east coast??

I think the lassie is mistaken 😂

I’ve just seen your update about 47 hours - I was gonna say 🤣

Edited

I reckon she looked up the distance between the two cities and mistook 3000 miles for 300.

Louise303 · 16/05/2024 15:04

MissAmbrosia · 16/05/2024 09:07

Mild compared to some of these, but we moved house recently and had some small items of furniture to give away, advertised on local FB group, with a message that we would be at the house at this time and it was first come first served. Found potential new owners for nearly everything. Not one, but 2 different people called me to say that they had come for x,y,z and were outside in the car, if we could just bring it out. Lazy gits.

So cheeky I had an encounter last Christmas with a very weird woman getting some lovely new beauty items free. Her teenage daughter responded and when they turned up it was the mum the teen and two other daughters. I gave the items the teen was polite but the mum said what about my other girls they need something also. I replied that I only had what I advertised for free on olio she was giving dirty looks and told me in an aggressive way to go in my house and find something for her other daughters. The teen was embarrassed I had to tell the mum that she was on camera and I would ring the police if she did not get out of my garden.

VaddaABeetch · 16/05/2024 15:05

fridgegrazer · 16/05/2024 14:39

What? Why on earth would they even dream of such a thing? There must be some back story here!

His reasoning was @fridgegrazer that I live alone in a 3 bedroom house.

Neighbour rents house with 2 other lads so no room there. His Bro & Family were moving from abroad & has no money for rent so they could move in with me. Simples

He argued with me when I said no. I have 2 empty bedrooms his brother Needs somewhere to live. So what’s my problem.

Peacelily001 · 16/05/2024 15:08

Menomeno · 16/05/2024 13:53

I had a ver close friend with 4 DCs (2, 3 and a pair of twins 5), who’d recently divorced. She couldn’t sort childcare for the summer holidays so asked me to have them. I had a 1yo and a 5yo of my own. I agreed and had a summer of hell. She’d drop them off without breakfast and I’d have to give them 3 meals plus snacks and drinks. She never offered me a penny toward the cost. We’d only go within a half mile radius of the house because it was impossible to go any further with the little ones as I didn’t have a double buggy. I did it because I knew she’d lose her job if I didn’t, and I cared about her. She’d turn up later and later to collect them and say she’d been to the supermarket or wherever on her way home. I discovered months later that she was actually always late because she was shagging my DH (who incidentally used to moan constantly about me looking after her “feral brats” and told me that I was a mug and she was a piss-taker),

Oh my god Angry

blacksax · 16/05/2024 15:15

EnglishBluebell · 16/05/2024 09:49

How utterly appalling to call your partner's DD a spoilt, nasty bitch. What a piece of work you are....

PMSL.
You didn't read the post properly, did you? If you had, you would have realised that the poster showed considerable restraint in just calling her that.

Wexone · 16/05/2024 15:20

Not as bad as some of the others, but me and my husband were struggling to find somewhere to rent (while we were waiting for planning and our house to be built ) as most people know rentals hard to come by especially as we have dogs- My husbands mother kindly let us rent her holiday home which is over an hours drive away from our home place and from our family and friends as well as work but in a very nice area. All well and good for Autumn and Winter however come summer time last year, my husband brother rang around May asking when are we moving out so he could have his two weeks free holidays ( also to note both him and his wife earn 6 figure salary each) My Husband was in shock and asked sure where do we go ? Like we living there and Wexone WFH too, plus dogs and cats. He wasnt impressed and ranted at my husband. Mother in law was in a tizzy, and asked could we do something to help him, we rang him back said we cant move out but we can give you 1k and help you find accommodation ( as its a touristy area and hard to come by) but like we don't have anywhere to go, house wont be built for a year. This did not make him happy and a row happened. This happened last year and i still cant speak to both of them. Just to note we have relations who have holiday homes here and he could have asked them , he also had his own holiday home as well but sold a few years ago. Last year they went to France for 2 weeks, a staycation city break here in a 5 star hotel for a week, also stayed in a fancy hotel near where we are living for a week, kids sent off to camps for a full week stay twice and Paris for a weekend . Good going for the 2 months the kids are off on holidays and kicked up a stink cause we couldn't give up where we living and he could stay for 2 weeks free. And i understand we are in a very privilege situation that a parent can offer us a home to live in during a rental crisis so this really really hurt my husband and i

LakeTiticaca · 16/05/2024 15:25

@Lacuranights the etiquette for collecting parcels should be, if a parcel has been taken in by a neighbour, the parcel recipient should be the one going round to collect it, not expecting the neighbour to deliver it to recipient. That is my opinion anyway 😅

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