What is the cheekiest thing someone has asked of you?

[Conniebygaslight]

There have been many but reading on another thread about the CFery of a school mum reminded me of a time when my DC were at primary.
A mum asked if I’d mind picking her DC up from school and taking them to another school a few miles away where they were competing in an intersports thing. My DC were competing too so I agreed assuming she was working.
When we got there, said mum was already there in the front row with her DH & DPs. I asked what was going on, she replied that they wanted a good seat and parking so didn’t want to wait until their DC finished school so they could get their first. I was absolutely stunned…I still laugh at the audacity of this years later🤣🤣

Do you think perhaps your friend took her sister's pay and was supposed to pass it on to you? Or more of a conspiracy? It seems quite calculated and nasty, stealing your mate's pay.

😂

Christ sounds like that Netflix programme about mums (can’t remember name). Queen bee? Seriously? Why would anyone be queen bee! We’re all just mothers trying to get by. Personally if I could help another mum out now and again I would. And no I have rarely asked for help myself.

I have once been asked for an urine sample as her husband thought she was using drugs which she denied so he asked for an urine sample, which she then asked me for 😂.

I love the last paragraph and aspire to be you :)

Ooh, now that's an interesting theory, I honestly hadn't thought of that one at all. I've always assumed the sister was in on it, but now you say that I'm actually wondering if my 'friend' actually kept it. Over the years she has proved time and again that money is very important to her, I have to say. Some people don't change, do they? I'm only still friends with her because we've known each other for so many years. I know all her faults...

Yeah, they did take turns and I helped with childcare too. Not sure what her reasoning was for asking me on this occasion, but she did tend towards CF-ery, unfortunately!

He did! 😀

Agreed! Happened to me twice so far. First a dress described as immaculate but arrived with catches all in one patch so really obvious. When I messaged the seller she said "well you only paid a fiver for it" I said it didn't matter what I'd paid, if it's listed as immaculate I don't expect a damaged item.
The next one was a zip up hoody for my son that was brand new. It came with food on, bobbled strings to tighten the hood and fake tan all in the neck and hood! I mean what do these people think you're going to do?! I got a partial refund on the dress and a full refund for the hoody :)

I have another.
I was 15 and it was the day of my mums funeral, the wake actually.

My aunt (mum's older sister, wonderful woman R.I.P) was a seamstress and had been teaching me her trade. She had given me a nice little old machine to learn on at my own house. An old fashioned one where you turn the wheel by hand because it was safer for me to use unsupervised than an electric one.

I was sitting in the kitchen, on my own trying not to cry, when my sister-in-law walks in and picks up the sewing machine from where it was sat on a small side table and started to make her way out to the car. I told her she couldn't take it. She replied, "yer muvva said I could ave it. She don't need it no more anyway". My mother had been on so much morphine she couldn't do much but talk gibberish toward the end and that was only on the rare occasion she wasn't asleep.
I never even saw her in my mum's room. Lying cow. She just saw something she wanted, that I had and tried to take it. Cheap bitch, it was only worth about £20. She could have afforded a brand new modern one, what with all the money they were fiddling off the state while her husband worked cash in hand, no questions asked. No, the rest of the family were not on benefits, in case anybody is wondering if it was a houseful of scroungers trying to empty the place. Nobody else even tried to take a teacup to remember mum by.

She used to go round grassing up genuine benefit claimants too, by making shit up to get their benefits stopped. Friends, family, didn't matter. She even did it to one neighbour when he got sick and had to give up work...twice...once at Christmas so his 4 kids wouldn't have anything to eat nor any presents. But I digress...

My aunt just happened to walk in while she was trying to claim "mums" sewing machine. Took it out of her hands, called her a disgusting scrounging vulture and put it in her car. Then told me, not to worry as I could come to her house to use one of her electric ones any time I wanted. SIL did not like that, went off with a face like a smacked arse. Aunt wouldn't even have SIL in her house, so no free fabric or use of a professional industrial sewing machine.

Auntie gave me a nice electric one for free when I moved in with my future husband. SIL didn't like that neither. She was never been invited to my home.

Maybe ask the sister. Quite embarrassingly publicly, with big smile, if possible.

I hope you are planning to "forget" your money every time you have a coffee and cake with your friend until she's made up your waitress money. Or just say candidly, well I guess this one's on you, you can get it out of my wages - accompanied by huge happy smile. I mean, you wouldn't want her being consumed by guilt or anything.

My ex partner . I had a child and wasn’t the best for money . I had to really budget , had a certain amount for shopping each week . knew this ( he was fine for money but tight as hell! ) we didn’t live together . I had done my shopping for the week .

One day , he took his mom shopping to Tesco . He had asked if I wanted to come and I had said no , I had done my shopping . He came to mine with a few bags of shopping and started getting it out - nappies , ready meals that he thought me and my daughter may like , sweets , crisps , pop , biscuits . Aside from the nappies it was nothing I would usually really buy - more of a “treat “ shop - and I could not afford treat shops . I was shocked and thought it was really thoughtful of him until he said “ it was £32 something so just call it £30 “

I asked him what he meant , did he expect me to give him the money for this and his reply was yes as it was for me and my daughter not him . He said it’s things I will need ( nappies ) and I said yes that’s true but I don’t buy in bulk because I don’t have the money to do that and he also said that the other things were things I would use . I said yes , I would but I have a budget and I simply don’t have the money for them . He couldn’t understand this and then said “ I was doing something nice for you ! “ - he couldn’t grasp that buying something for someone that they hadn’t asked for and then asking them for the money wasn’t ’doing something nice’ .

He ended up taking the sweets etc home , I agreed to pay him the following week for the nappies ( and he took it ) and then begrudgingly left the rest .

I rang a long-standing friend of my mum's to let her know she had passed away. After (briefly) expressing her regrets, she said "Oh, I lent her a book - do you think you could have a look through her bedside table and get it back to me."

Yes!

I would be livid about this….still! What a seriously shoddy way to treat your friend.

I used to work for a very well known higher end skincare brand. We had an obscene discount from the staff training centre in London. Think things like face creams that are normally £120 for £15 and bottles of body oil for £8 instead of £30.

if I was training I’d let some friends and family know and I’d pick up what they wanted discounted. After one training day a friend asked when I would next be going and I said not for another 6 months when the next line comes out. She asked if I could go into London on my day off to get her some bits and then proceeded to tell me her marvellous money making plan. She wanted me to buy her £1000 worth of products that she could then sell on to make a profit by making up hampers. I said “so you want me to pay for train fare, go to the shop and purchase £1000 worth of products which would be about a dozen bags worth once I’m done, carry it back on the train and give it to you to sell?”

“Spot on. I can pay for the train if you need me to, seems a shame to waste that discount!” was the reply.

I explained that was gross misconduct and would get me fired. She said they wouldn’t know, like this was a normal shopping trip and the average person would buy enough products to last them several years in one go regardless of expiration date.

she told me I was being unreasonable when I said no and a worry wart, big companies don’t watch these things (they do)

Slow fade out on that friendship after.

Thank the lord, you said ex.

I'm willing to bet the goodies were for him to have when he was around and only included nappies to gaslight you into paying by making out the whole lot was for you.

What a turd.

Skint and miserable recently having become a single mother after relationship breakdown (DV) living in a rental property, (I half owned a Mansion flat in Kensington SW5 but it hadn't been sold) a friend said she had free tickets for Alton Towers, would myself and my daughter 8 like to come with her and her son 5. Oh yes please!
We get to the entrance and she has two free tickets from The Sun with the proviso that there would be accompanying people who paid in full. That person was me. It was almost the full amount of my benefits for that week (I only had cashed that day). I almost fainted. I just had to cough up as I was miles from home and couldn't bear disappointing my child.
We had agreed to bring picnic and drinks but her son wanted McDonald's so I had to pay for a sodding burger as well.
She was going to ask me for petrol money and contribute for a drive thru car wash for her BRAND NEW CAR but she said she thought 'It might be too much'. She was a SAH house owner with high earning husband.
Thirty years later I can still feel the moment my jaw dropped.
Thanks Cheryl, you dim bint. 😐

What a dishonest cowbag thing to do!

Did you have a go at her about it afterwards?!

Another time , at Christmas , I had really struggled to make it nice for my daughter . I had got him a small gift but then had said to everyone else I wasn’t doing presents , I had told him this , I hadn’t got anything for my own parents or siblings.

Christmas Eve , we were going to his parents . On the way he asked me what I had got them - I told him I hadn’t as I had just about managed to afford my daughter’s presents . He told me that they had got me and my daughter presents and I couldn’t turn up empty handed so he would take me to Asda on the way to get them something . I told him I couldn’t afford this and hadn’t he just put the gift he got them from all of us ? He said no . He said you don’t have to spend much and I was tired at this point of having to constant say how much I was struggling . So I thought I would just get them some chocolate . We went in and he went off , he came back with two bottles of alcohol they liked and put it in my basket and said “ they like these , they can go with the Chocs” - again I told him I couldn’t afford that and he laughed and said “ it’s like £40, surely you can afford that” this time he made me feel so crap that I actually got them , knowing that this money was coming from the small amount I had put by for over the Christmas period so that I didn’t have to say no to everything .

But the last CF moment - I did have a kind of revenge . He had been going on and on about a present he had got me for my birthday .. I had been hinting at something I really wanted and he kept saying I would love this present so I was quite excited . I HATE opening presents early but he was so excited himself that he begged me to open it the day before ….. when I opened it , I realised why . It was a bloody games console that he had wanted . I had never , ever played any kind of games console or had any desire to! I felt like I had to be grateful as it wasn’t cheap and he then started setting it up so he could play it! We split up not long after that . He asked about it a few days after , about taking it as I never played it and I had already gave it away free to a friend 🤣🤣

Definitely!! He was so tight it was unbelievable- and he was not short of money at all! He wanted to move in together and I refused as I knew he would be just as tight and I would lose all my benefits , as I only worked part time at the time . He watched me struggle so much , he would occasionally buy take away or something and then I knew it was coming that soon after we would be out and he would drive into McDonald’s ( knowing my daughter loved it ) then order and say “ I’ll let you get this “ not realising that for me a McDonald’s was a treat that I actually needed to budget for . I don’t know how I stayed with him so long .

Someone in our friendship group was genuinely stunned someone else wouldn’t loan her the equity from their house. So she could buy her current house from her soon to be ex partner and ‘repay when I downsize at retirement’. She was 42.

I worked with someone (A) who was offered a lift home ONCE by another colleauge (B) because it was raining. After that, B would be waiting by her car for her expecting to be taken home after every shift. A tried to politely tell her no but she would follow her to her car or be waiting for her every time.
We started letting A sneak home early so that she could avoid B!

Thank you for feeling my pain ❤️. No, I didn't have a go as I was in shock. She really was a bit dense so it would have been pointless.
She's a miserable Granny now and her deadbeat son still lives at home.
My daughter is 38 and is working in the Music Business, has a really decent bloke, is constantly travelling abroad for work and fun and is being paid for assisting running the Pyramid Stage at Glastonbury this year.
Funny eh? 😂 Bx

This dude needs smothering, he's a weapons grade twat. And there is stiff competition on this thread.

I hope you reported her missing to the police & the abandonment to social services!!
How utterly selfish of her