Page 18 | What is the cheekiest thing someone has asked of you?

Conniebygaslight · 2024-05-15T16:46:14+00:00

There have been many but reading on another thread about the CFery of a school mum reminded me of a time when my DC were at primary. A mum asked if I’d mind picking her DC up from school and taking them to another school a few miles away where they were competing in an intersports thing. My DC were competing too so I agreed assuming she was working. When we got there, said mum was already there in the front row with her DH & DPs. I asked what was going on, she replied that they wanted a good seat and parking so didn’t want to wait until their DC finished school so they could get their first. I was absolutely stunned…I still laugh at the audacity of this years later🤣🤣

Accipe · 17/05/2024 14:53

Dodgyguts · 17/05/2024 12:30

Technically she didn't ask me outright so I don't know if this counts but it still pisses me off many years later so ...

It was the opening weekend of Frozen 2 at the cinema, had booked the tickets ages before. We got there while it was still quite quiet to find 2 adults and a little girl sat in our seats. Went up and politely said that they were our seats. Mum insisted they were theirs. I've had a double booking issue with a train seat before so presumed same had happened. All very pleasant at this point.

Turned to DH and said could he go and grab a member of staff while I waited with the kids. Dad tried to discourage DH from going by saying there were loads of free seats, I pointed out it was a very popular film and was likely sold out so off DH went.

I got distracted explaining to my DC what was going on but could hear the mum and dad having a heated conversation and he said "oh go on, just tell her then". So the mum comes up and says "actually we've come at the wrong time, these are the right seats but for a different showing". So I said something along the lines "oops, that's the sort of thing I'd do, nevermind eh" expecting her to move. But she stood there and did this weird wide eyed thing which I think was an attempt at puppy eyes, and said "but it's my DDs first cinema experience!" I felt bad for the little girl but I'm not giving up my DCs seats, I just said "well see if the staff member my DH is talking to can help". They begrudgingly moved and went to talk to the staff, DH overheard her claiming it was her DDs birthday when the staff member told them it was sold out and they'd have to go to another showing.

She clearly expected us to give up our seats for them and when that didn't work she wanted the staff to turf someone out to accommodate them. Batshit CFerfery.

Memories of going to the first showing of a new Harry Potter film, around 5.30pm, no reserved seats so we got there quite early and chose a couple of seats on the end of a row. Just as the programme was about to start and the cinema was packed a woman marched in with about 6 children trailing behind her and promptly started telling people to move up, fill gaps etc so her party could sit together, she finished up with them spread across the aisle and then told us to move up so she could have the end seats. She seemed quite shocked when we refused to move, But I have CHILDREN, seemed to be her trump card, she tried to involve the staff unsuccessfully. She wondered why we were there at all, having no children with us, we didn't understand the problems of parents etc etc., OH told her that at least we understood the clock and could get somewhere on time.

Silvers11 · 17/05/2024 14:59

Menomeno · 16/05/2024 13:53

I had a ver close friend with 4 DCs (2, 3 and a pair of twins 5), who’d recently divorced. She couldn’t sort childcare for the summer holidays so asked me to have them. I had a 1yo and a 5yo of my own. I agreed and had a summer of hell. She’d drop them off without breakfast and I’d have to give them 3 meals plus snacks and drinks. She never offered me a penny toward the cost. We’d only go within a half mile radius of the house because it was impossible to go any further with the little ones as I didn’t have a double buggy. I did it because I knew she’d lose her job if I didn’t, and I cared about her. She’d turn up later and later to collect them and say she’d been to the supermarket or wherever on her way home. I discovered months later that she was actually always late because she was shagging my DH (who incidentally used to moan constantly about me looking after her “feral brats” and told me that I was a mug and she was a piss-taker),

That is awful @Menomeno . CF doesn't begin to cover it. So sorry that happened to you 😢

OnGoldenPond · 17/05/2024 15:00

@OVienna I know, I have seriously thought of writing a book based on the batshit people I met at that school!

KellyMaureen · 17/05/2024 15:02

To cancel a holiday because she had met a man and wanted him to go instead of me.

OnGoldenPond · 17/05/2024 15:06

@Heldri honestly, I didn't just lift this from the telly, truth is often stranger than fiction

Honestly, this all happened years before Motherland came out, though it's uncannily similar to the episode with the pool party. I'm beginning to wonder if one of those Mums was a scriptwriter on it!

Lululime2024 · 17/05/2024 15:08

I was at a baby group with a woman I used to hang around with (not really a friend) more the girlfriend of a friend. She used to take her nephew and I'd take my son. Anyway one day she asked for the time and I got
my phone out my bag to check but I accidentally pulled out my old broken phone.

once she realised I had a broken phone on me she asked if she could have it, she wanted to give it to her son for his birthday. So I just handed it over to her for free and said I'd dropped it a few days prior and it was broken and that was that.

a week or so later she messages me saying

hi, I've been to the phone shop and that phones going to cost £70 to get fixed. So could you send that over when you get a chance.

you're not mistaken this woman wanted me to pay £70 to get my old phone fixed up so she could give it to her son for his birthday.

she seriously thought I was in the wrong when I told her no. She couldn't see why she should pay for the repair. I gave you the b**tard thing for free 😂

Danikm151 · 17/05/2024 15:11

I put a cosatto pushchair on FB market place. Description stated cash on collection only.

A CF asked me to put it on vinted so she could get it delivered.

Told her no. If i wanted to offer delivery I could have put that on the fb listing.

she could have told vinted that she didn’t get it and i’d have lost out on the money.

Iloveyoubut · 17/05/2024 15:14

This one is unbelievable. Many years ago I was at the seaside with my son. I’d bough him a very small paddling pool to take with us so he could run back and forth to the sea with his bucket and fill it with water etc. there was a man and woman behind me with two young kids and the man came over and asked me if it was alright to put his cans of lager in the paddling pool to keep them cool! My son was in it at the time! I’m not joking l, I still can’t get over the cheek all these years later! 😂

Eggmoobean · 17/05/2024 15:18

The cf that lived upstairs was moving out. They dragged lots of stuff into my front garden and said “is it ok if I leave this here until tomorrow as my bil is collecting in his van first thing ?” It was about 30 bin bags full of waste, but I reluctantly agreed. A week later it was still there and I found she had moved to the end of the road - about five doors down to another flat on same road. I dragged the old carpet and some bits to her flat and left them outside with a note through her door asking her to collect her rubbish. I then filled her bin outside with more of her garbage and my kindly ex took the the rest to the dump. She had the cheek to storm down with her boyfriend in tow and tell me how angry she was I left all this “shit” outside her front door, despite leaving rotting waste in my front garden for over a week. I am never surprised as the cheek of people, the entitlement or the frank nastiness of others - I saw it first hand in that cf’s face .

paisley256 · 17/05/2024 15:29

EnglishBluebell · 15/05/2024 23:42

I'd just got my mobility scooter which I'd saved for months for. This was very much a scrimped & saved situation as you'd be amazed at how expensive these things are, but it was imperative I get one, for both mine & ultimately my family's sake. The car is a blessing but I can’t walk far once I'm out of it!
Anyway, somehow I'd ended up with two front baskets for mine and was told by the shop I could keep it so I decided to sell it and spend the money on DC. So I listed it on a local selling group briefly explaining that it had come with my new scooter and I added stock photos of the model it was compatible with - making it very clear that I was not listing the scooter for sale, just the basket (and for context, it was very clear I was a person not a business!)

Well I very quickly got a comment from a lady telling me alllll about an elderly lady who had absolutely no money and a scooter like this could change her life completely, she could have a social life etc etc. How absolutely amazing it would be if I would consider "gifting" her my new scooter and what do I say? (!!!!)
Followed immediately by comment after comment from people saying variations on "Yeah go on EnglishBluebell! That would be so generous" "Just think of how much you'd transform that poor little old lady's life..." and the local paper's editor was even tagged who, I discovered later that evening, had even PM'd me offering an interview/article on my wonderful act of generosity 😳

All this was before I got chance to say "No I bloody won’t! I skipped meals to buy this scooter. Every single penny I could find for 5 long months went to pay for this. I didn't so much as buy a pack of biscuits for almost half a year. The absolute cheek of it! I'm sorry for that lady's predicament but I only came on here to sell a surplus basket. I suggest you contact charities rather than publicly cornering disabled people on social media to try and coerce them out of their equipment. Their bloody lifeline!"

I won’t repeat the abuse I got but you can easily imagine. Suffice to say I was removed from the selling group and the editor of the local rag? Yep. He blocked me! 😳

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That's shocking! What a bloody cheek. Honestly, some people.

35mph · 17/05/2024 15:47

Me and dh sitting in a busy cafe, in a sort of ante room - the only part of the cafe where dogs were allowed. It was the only table free when we arrived so we took it. There were still no tables free when a couple with a dog arrived and asked us to move as this was the room for people with dogs and we didn't have a dog with us. I explained that you didn't 'have' to have a dog to sit there, just that you couldn't sit in the main room with them. This is where you had to sit if you had a dog. Not having a dog with us meant we could sit anywhere but there were no other tables anywhere so here we sat.

They totally disagreed with us and couldn't see any logic. They even asked a young waitress to ask us to move. "These people are sitting here and they don't have a dog"! She sort of nodded and moved on.

Having said all that, I have a feeling that some people are going to think that we were the CFs

ElleBelleLou · 17/05/2024 15:56

Ohhh I finally have something to add - I say finally, this happened 8 years ago!

Someone I knew in passing, my (ex) boyfriend's cousins friend who I'd bumped into on nights out here and there. I was a very young 20 year old with not much life experience, my ex was not a nice person and I found myself in with a crowd I couldn't quite handle myself in!

This girl messaged me (first time we've ever spoken one on one) as if we're massive friends, asking to borrow some money for a few days until she's paid. I ask how much (4 days before I was paid from my part time job alongside uni so I wasn't exactly rolling in it)

She said £25, I said okay send me your bank details then she said actually can I borrow £40, I again say okay and I'll ring my bank - then she asks can I not do mobile banking as it's faster. I had issues with my phone network and said I'd rather ring - 10 minutes later she messages again asking if it's done, I wasn't able to as she was a new payee - so she then asked for everyone I've transferred money to before so she could have it sent to them then sent on to her!

I stopped replying at this point (grew some balls and realised I was being taken advantage of here, it wasn't my responsibility to help her), I then get 8 calls and then a message to ask whether I'm in and where my address is so she could pick it up! I reply and say I have no cash sorry, she said is there a bank machine near you - at this point I just stop replying and she says 'thanks guess I'll ask my auntie then' - why not ask her in the first place instead of an acquaintance!

She posted some vague bitchy things on Facebook clearly aimed at me, and we've literally never spoken since. So strange!

ElleBelleLou · 17/05/2024 16:11

Ohhh I've opened the floodgates!! Another VERY CF who used to be my best friend - though we do not talk any more

Two separate occasions

I unfortunately had to have an operation to remove a pre-cancerous lump from my left breast. I was very young, never had any kind of operation or even particularly invasive hospital treatment before, and was absolutely terrified! I was particularly upset after my pre-op assessment when I'd found out the scar was going to be very visible due to where the lump was, as I was so young and to be honest quite vain.
She on the other hand was booked in for an (obviously optional!) breast enlargement her dad was paying for in the same month - and went on and on about how excited she was that we'd recover together and compare scars etc! I was going through one of the scariest times in my life and she was counting down the days!
I had gone through a really traumatising experience in the early hours of 24th December a number of years ago, where I was raped by a near-stranger. It was NOT common knowledge, but was something my best friend knew about. My birthday 2 days before, and the following year I was getting back to myself and invited all my friend group out for a drink in our local pub to celebrate my birthday. She stands up in the prime of the evening, when I'm finally having a good time and feeling happy, raises a glass for a toast and announces what I went through and how she knows it's coming up to the first anniversary and I am just so brave for being out! This at a table full of my friends who did not know, not to mention it was the middle of a packed city centre Wetherspoons 3 days before Christmas!

There were so many more things she did, but those really stick out to me as absolute CF-ery.

Newestname002 · 17/05/2024 16:12

Knittedfairies2 · 17/05/2024 13:13

My sister and her husband were invited to a housewarming party, so they donned their gladrags and went. On arrival they were given a paint pot and a couple of brushes, and told which wall to paint. There were lots of people at the party, and no one was forewarned; no one stayed, and I think the party guests ended up in the nearest pub.

So the real, bonding party, was at the pub.

Foolish of the 'hosts'. If they had asked/pre-warned their 'guests', AKA 'labourers' ahead of time and promised copious amounts of food and beer at stages through the day, they might have received a better result. 🌹

BlxckDay · 17/05/2024 16:17

My dad was dying in hospital and a girl I met once at work messaged me asking to borrow £35, I couldn't believe it as we'd only met once and she knew I was in hospital with my dad through mutual friend but wasn't in the right head space and ended up sending it her.

HelpMeUnpickThis · 17/05/2024 16:17

Razorwire · 16/05/2024 19:39

SIL leaving UK to Oz. DH invites to take her out for farewell dinner. We have booked dinner for 3. My kids are already in bed.
We are in London, she drives from a suburb.

This whole scene is like on of those plays all action & dialogue are in one room. Sofa, coffee table, 2 chairs.

We both have children same age - 15 mos.
She arrives with her son (unexpected), an adult female friend and the friend’s 8 year old. Not mentioning a word about the extras people.
Am baffled because we don’t know this other woman or child & don’t know if joining us or what. Woman is saying how mature her child is & i’m wondering - is child joining us at dinner??
I have a baby sitter for my 2 kids, not expecting 2 more and have no beds for them. A very f*cked situation for a baby-sitter & dinner booking.
SIL announces her child not weaned, so she will have to “breastfeed him til he sleeps” and she proceeds to lie on the sitting room floor to feed him & get her kid to sleep! It takes her ages to settle him, I’m trying to make up the sofa into a bed for this 8 yr old. Make very quiet small talk w stranger & child because the baby is supposed to be sleeping.
The child doesn’t settle, not happy sleeping on the floor. The 8 yr old - I don’t think she has had dinner herself. I have no nothing to do for a child that age. No TV in sitting room.

Baby sitter arrives and is like wtf? She can’t sit on sofa. There’s a woman lying on the floor breastfeeding …. Extra kids, one used to co-sleeping w mum is on floor crying.

SIL just like this is totally normal, oh so fun and spontaneous - they all thought they’d stay at ours overnight and have next day out in London! Oh, they have a big house! Without asking!
DH and i ended up needing to cook meal at home, scrounge up beds etc. Paid sitter & sent her home. SIL & friend drank too much, & Instead of a nice night out, I was running a scummy b&b.

The adult woman friend, hope she’s not reading this. Was telling me how she got a vintage Porsche sports-car from her baby daddy, was getting a trailer hitch put on it so she could take her horse & “horse-box” to Spain. She was complaining that car garages refused to put the trailer hitch on, saying would ruin the Porsche. And she is scrounging to sleep on my floor !!

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@Razorwire this was a great read! Insanity at its finest.

godmum56 · 17/05/2024 16:20

35mph · 17/05/2024 15:47

Me and dh sitting in a busy cafe, in a sort of ante room - the only part of the cafe where dogs were allowed. It was the only table free when we arrived so we took it. There were still no tables free when a couple with a dog arrived and asked us to move as this was the room for people with dogs and we didn't have a dog with us. I explained that you didn't 'have' to have a dog to sit there, just that you couldn't sit in the main room with them. This is where you had to sit if you had a dog. Not having a dog with us meant we could sit anywhere but there were no other tables anywhere so here we sat.

They totally disagreed with us and couldn't see any logic. They even asked a young waitress to ask us to move. "These people are sitting here and they don't have a dog"! She sort of nodded and moved on.

Having said all that, I have a feeling that some people are going to think that we were the CFs

nope absolutely not and I am a dog owner. My favourite cafe/plant nursery has a similar arrangement, tables under an awning for dog owners or people who just want to be outside, no dogs allowed in the indoor cafe bit.

Newestname002 · 17/05/2024 16:22

I once lent a friend my favourite, beautiful full length silk crepe dress for a black tie event. Before I lent it to her I had it dry cleaned so it was box fresh.

A week after the event after I'd asked several times, she handed it back, with a sheepish smile, a crumpled, dirty mess that she'd left on her floor when she took it off. I let her know how unhappy I was. Told her I would take it to the dry cleaners. It cost more to get it specialist cleaned and I made sure she gave me the money back in cash. Never lent her anything after that. 🌹

Newestname002 · 17/05/2024 16:25

@BallaiLuimni

She contacted me out of the blue to ask if I could help with a presentation she was preparing. It wasn't a huge amount of work, but I had two small kids and was running my own business so it took a chunk out of the little free time I had. I agreed, as she was desperate. Did the work, she said thanks and then pretty much ghosted me. Bailed twice on meetups, didn't respond to texts.

Don't be surprised if she contacts you again in the future, wanting to 'reconnect' and wanting your help again. 🌹

Newestname002 · 17/05/2024 16:30

@SOxon

My shrewd Mum used to tell us, ‘Users always know who to ask’ a negtive response is a surprise to them, they act aggrieved, then move on to the next Mug - don’t be that Mug, just say No, it saves so much time, upset, money, your own children’s upset and your Sanity

Very sensible person, your mother. It also helps to develop a thick skin for when insults are then flung your way by the would-be user, until the victims join up the dots. 🌹

Newestname002 · 17/05/2024 16:31

maxandru · 17/05/2024 14:15

Colleague was buying a holiday home in France and asked me if I could “translate something”. I said yes, thinking it was a few lines. Nope… 84 page legal document. In tiny print 😂

Did you bounce it back at her? 🌹

Lululime2024 · 17/05/2024 16:33

TW- misscarraige!

This one's not that bad but it still grinds my gears!

a couple of years ago I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant (although thrilled) a few weeks before my sons birthday. 2 days before my sons birthday I started bleeding heavily and thought I was having a miscarraige. We had to wait 10 days to have it confirmed. But because we'd already booked splash landings at Alton towers for my son's birthday we went anyway and invited my family round in the evening for a takeaway.

well after a day of swimming whilst pregnant and bleeding and giving my son a wonderful birthday, I got home and hosted my family for a few hours, by 9pm I was physically and emotionally exhausted. I'd had to hold in my sadness all day and I politely asked my family if it was okay if we done my son's cake and then could they take it home with them to eat because I was ready for my bed.

everyone was really understanding and immediately got themselves ready to leave, all except my sister. She got all huffy and said well where do you expect my kids to eat there cake?

I said I'd wrap it up for them to take home to which she's scoffed, said no I don't think so and cut it up and put it on plates for them and told them to go and eat it.

I was so angry. All I wanted to do was put my kids to bed, get into my bed and cry myself to sleep but this knob stayed another hour past her welcome.

it turned out I'd had a subchrionic hematoma and my daughter is absolutely fine but it's not the point, at the time we thought we'd lost her

thisoldcity · 17/05/2024 16:43

I have told this story before, so apologies if it's familiar. I need to keep telling it until it's out of my system properly. When I was at school, a friend asked me if I would like to cover her sister's shift at the tearooms of the local stately home place they both worked at on a Sunday. She said they didn't get paid, it was just for tips. I quite enjoyed it in a way, but it was hard work. The tips were very few. I did it for a few weeks until I got sick of it for so little pay (I already had a Saturday job). It was basically a big favour for a friend / her sister.

I didn't think of it again really until years later, probably about 20 years later, when we were talking about the place. I said actually in retrospect wasn't it the most awful cheek of the Lady of he Manor woman to not pay us at all for that work? My friend said quick as a flash 'oh they paid us, what are you talking about?' then realised what she had said. It turned out that she and her sister both got paid, I didn't. So presumably her sister got the pay for the shift I covered! What also narked me was that her parents had set up the whole job thing and took us there in the car and back, knew the people we worked for, so they must have known I was being a total mug.

If I'd known at the time, I don't know what I would have done, but once I knew it seemed petty to go on about it as it was so long ago. It's now more like 50 years ago and I'm still friends (of sorts) with her, but I am still quietly fuming about it!

BlowDryRat · 17/05/2024 16:44

ivegotthisyeah · 16/05/2024 20:27

I think I have one but don't know if it's 🫣 or not!
Detached houses decent amount of space between each house, enough where you don't really see each other. Neighbour asked us to turn our security light off on the side of the house because the light went into his garden and set his dog off.
Explained it's on a sensor so not sure how to turn off - don't know ow if he's being cheeky or I am being unreasonable????

Yes, that's you being cheeky shining a bright light into their garden. We gave a neighbour behind us whose security light goes straight into DS's bedroom

zingally · 17/05/2024 16:45

A friend asked if I could watch their dog overnight while they went to a family party. I live in a flat, and am not really a dog person, but I have a soft spot for this dog, so agreed, despite it not really being ideal.

She swore up and down she'd drop him off at lunch time, and pick him up at lunch time the following day. So literally 24 hours.

She turned up on my doorstep not long after 8:30am because it was "easier to do it now". And then didn't turn up again until 4pm the following afternoon.
When I text her about 1pm to ask for an ETA, they hadn't even left the party location yet. Then they stopped off at a services on the way home, and THEN drove home first, rather than come via mine, which they'd have practically have to have driven past on their way home.

Friend clearly anticipated I was going to be pissed, because she came with a bunch of flowers and her not-much-more-than toddler DD in tow, who I couldn't be cross in front of.

Luckily, the DDog was no trouble - good as gold - but further hints to have him have been roundly ignored. Never again.

What is the cheekiest thing someone has asked of you?

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