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School run dilemma

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Roundroundthegarden · 14/05/2024 12:12

Hi I just can't seem to figure this out. Very boring, but maybe someone can give me an idea I didnt think of.I have 2 kids, one primary aged and one 2yo.
We live in the middle and both schools are 20 min apart from each other.
the 2yo begin at 8am and the other at 8:20 and there is no way I can go back without getting stuck in traffic. Dh won't be able to help as he leaves before that and even if he is able to, his WFH days are very rare.
It seems unlikely that anyone wants a job for 2 hours in the mornings too. I tried that. We are going round and round trying to figure this out.

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Starlightstargazer · 14/05/2024 19:19

OpusGiemuJavlo · 14/05/2024 16:01

you keep repeating the fact that this private prep is "highly sought after"/oversubscribed etc but the point is that it isn't meeting your needs and you are being ridiculous to be putting this much effort into keeping your 2yo at a place that is simply failing to do what it needs to. You would be much better to transfer your 2yo to an ordinary, less "highly sought after" nursery which you can physically travel to at the right time to get your older DC to actual school on time. You can then spend a little bit (hopefully the cost-difference between "highly sought after" and "ordinary" to bring in some additional 4+ preparation support - a quick google for "help prepare for 4+ testing" brings up dozens of organisations who will be glad to help you.

What on earth is 4+ testing?!

Zonder · 14/05/2024 22:15

You are setting yourself up for a very difficult couple of years just so your little one can go to a private nursery and be allowed to stay until 7. Is it really worth it?

OpusGiemuJavlo · 15/05/2024 00:36

Starlightstargazer · 14/05/2024 19:19

What on earth is 4+ testing?!

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Why quote my post when you clearly haven't even read the OPs posts where she explains the reason for her insane nursery choice is because the nursery will help prepare for 4+ testing.

4+ is the selection test that selective private primaries do to choose the right 4-year-olds to join their reception class. You could just google it.

OP is keen to get her 2yo ready for the 4+ testing which is mostly play-based and administered without the children really being aware that they are being tested because this is preferable in OP's opinion to waiting 3 years and putting the child through the 7+ testing for admissions into y3.

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Starlightstargazer · 15/05/2024 01:48

OpusGiemuJavlo · 15/05/2024 00:36

Why quote my post when you clearly haven't even read the OPs posts where she explains the reason for her insane nursery choice is because the nursery will help prepare for 4+ testing.

4+ is the selection test that selective private primaries do to choose the right 4-year-olds to join their reception class. You could just google it.

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Goodness that’s a snippy reply to someone asking a question. I’ve never heard of such a system as ‘choosing the right 4 year olds’ or having to prep them for reception. In my opinion, that is all kinds of wrong! The children might not be aware, but the parents are and actively deciding to separate their child from other ‘less clever’ 4 year olds.

OpusGiemuJavlo · 15/05/2024 12:11

@Starlightstargazer yeah probably was a bit snippy probably I just felt it was weird to @ quote my 3 paragraphs answering the OP's dilemma to ask a question showing you don't understand the OP's dilemma.

I haven't given my own opinion on tge ethics of selective schools at KS1 level because that's really not what this thread is about.

Charlotte120221 · 15/05/2024 12:18

what a mess OP - you've been blinded by the 'highly sought after' tag without considering the impact on your family's life.

if you have a boy and a girl then surely you should have aimed for a coed prep school?

seven201 · 15/05/2024 13:54

Roundroundthegarden · 14/05/2024 18:17

Thanks for the helpful replies. My ds school does offer early clubs but it means taking my 2yo on a very long journey in the am, but it might be the only solution.

This is your solution. My dd has had to go to breakfast club from 4 as I have to be at work by 8.30. It's not an unusual set up. Your 2 year old will get used to it.

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