Do you know anyone in their 90s who lives at home independently?

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I know one person in their 90s who lives at home and has carers four times a day. He can’t go out alone and depends on a wheelchair.

I know one couple who are quite independent and still mobile eg do all their own shopping. They don’t need carers but they help each other.

It was part of a discussion with my elderly parents (early 80s) where they assumed that most people in their 90s would be living in a care home. I was wondering how common it is for people in their 90s to still live in their own home?

I know a woman of 102 who lives at home independently.

My own Mum is 94, lives by herself with carers coming in a few days each week to check in on her. She showers herself (although shes meant to wait until her care lady arrives to be in the house), cooks her own meals & often hoovers or mops when she feels up to it. No longer driving but with friends & me I think she manages to get out often enough.
In her case I think it is her stubborn determination to do things when she wants them done rather than asking for help - although that could well backfire because shes there by herself.
We have our issues every so often but I am proud of her still managing - but she is adamant she'll only go out of that house in a box (casket) & not ever into a nursing home.
I've told her however that a nasty fall or other health issue could well over-ride her choices.

My grandfather lived independently until 98 but then he had a fall and broke his hip. He never recovered from that and died some months later.

My grandma did until last year. She's 94. She uses the internet so that makes things much easier, she's done online shopping for years.
A sudden physical decline and a few hospital admissions means someone now lives with her, but she has all her marbles and is still interested in life.

91 now and still the same

Only in my home country where it is normal for the elderly to stay in their own homes independently and buy in help from a housekeeper or carer. Care homes are quite rare.

My granny lives independently at 93, and seems to have more of a social life than I do! She only have up her car last year due to the London ULEZ.

I knew someone who lived into 100s independently!

Both my grandmas lived alone until 96 or 97. One went to a care home about 2 weeks before she died and the other spent the last 2 weeks of her life in hospital. One in particular managed very well with virtually no help.

I bet pashaminomia's Mum will make it to 130

My beautiful nan did until she was 94. Ended up in a home and became very sad but unfortunately her Dementia was too hard for family to support.

I have a friend who's about 95. I know she lives at home and she seems pretty capable. Admittedly I've not seen her for a year or so but she could come on the tube several stops to a restaurant and back. I don't even think she uses a rollator or anything. Fingers crossed she's still alright. She may have carers in for a few things at this stage.

My neighbours are 90 and 87. They both walk their dog everyday, cook and give me food and buy gifts for my children. They are both struggling with pain but are frankly the most resilient and amazing people. DH and I both say we want to be like them rather than his dad who at 75 will not leave his house or climb stairs or even look after himself or his health.

My neighbour is 95.

She managed to live completely independently with just a gardener and someone coming in once a week to help with cleaning until about 8 months ago.

Unfortunately now she needs to have carers coming in regularly to support her as she has started developing dementia but she is still managing to stay in her own home.

One of our neighbours died in his sleep at the age of 101. Until then he lived alone and the only help he had was having his laundry done. He did his own cleaning and cooking and got the bus to town twice a week to get his shopping. He was amazing. On the day he died he nodded off in his chair in front of the TV in the evening and didn't wake up.

My dad, until he died in May aged 95. The last 18 months he probably needed carers but wouldn't have countenanced it.

Yes.

My aunt is 98 and lives on her own. No carers, she takes care of herself, although her children and grandchildren visit regularly. She only had her bath removed last year, and a walk in shower installed. She's quite active, no mobility problems. She's amazing!

My Dad is 92 and lives independently at home. His next door neighbour is 97, lives alone and still drives most days.

My nan is 90 in the new year and still lives alone, drives (she will travel 20ish miles from home to places she knows, and then locally as well), still completely independent. She will also babysit her great grand kids, although not the ones who aren’t old enough to go to the toilet independently or cant be trusted not to run off etc. She also cooks me a lunch every couple of weeks and uses an iphone a bit! She’s doing well, as did her mother until mid ninties before dementia kicked in for her final 8 years.

she’s definitely a touch more forgetful, anxious and deaf in the last couple of years - but she is aware of this in herself.

I know a wonderful lady in her early 90s - a former colleague - who lives alone in her house she’s lived in for 60 years. She’s as mobile and capable as she was in her sixties and you would honestly not know she’s over 90! Oh and she can still drink me under the table!

My parents 90 and 87 respectively live independently in a flat within an Assisted Living complex for the over 55s. There are staff at reception 9 -5 Monday to Friday ( alarm for weekends / out of hours ). They don’t have carers, don’t drive and my Dad has a mobility scooter is uses to go and buy his newspaper every day ! We know they are safe there which is really helpful (as I live 250 miles away and my DS husband is disabled ) and the staff are great at checking up on anyone who isn’t well or isn’t seen.

My Nanna did until she was 94 when she died 2 years ago. No carers, although my Mum and my aunt would do her shopping and check on her. But she cooked and cleaned herself, watched what she wanted on tv, read, etc. We had to move her bed downstairs into the living room after she had to be on an oxygen machine all the time, but she certainly didn’t need a care home (or carers).

I have 2 different aunts both aged 96 who live alone independently. One has a cleaner / housekeeper 3 mornings a week (who does help with shopping, household running, helping with appointments, anything helpful) the other has a cleaner one morning a week, regular help from family if needed. Goes out and about on the bus.

Both do their own cooking, simple things these days but neither use ready meals.

One has a stairlift, the other is up and down a precipitous staircase and down into the cellar.

If it were me, I’d make a strongly worded complaint to the bank!