Do you know anyone in their 90s who lives at home independently?

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I know one person in their 90s who lives at home and has carers four times a day. He can’t go out alone and depends on a wheelchair.

I know one couple who are quite independent and still mobile eg do all their own shopping. They don’t need carers but they help each other.

It was part of a discussion with my elderly parents (early 80s) where they assumed that most people in their 90s would be living in a care home. I was wondering how common it is for people in their 90s to still live in their own home?

My Mother lived in her own home until she was 93. She fell at home and died in hospital 8 days later. She drove a car, was out and about often and looked after herself until she was almost 90 although she did have a cleaner twice a week. She had carers in twice a day from age 91 and family support was also needed for the last couple of years of her life, in order for her to stay at home, but she was happiest at home

If she had lived another year or so, I think she would have had to go into a home then, but she was adamant she would never, ever want to go into a home. It's cheaper for Social Services to have someone living in their own home than pay care fees - so if the person wants to stay at home, they will do everything they can to make that happen

My mum & her partner. Stepdad's just died - he lived independently in his own house to the age of 98. Had to stop driving at around 96, but had plenty of friends to take him shopping and to the doctor. Mum also lives in her own house at 94. She had to stop driving the year before SD and, for the past year, a relative's been visiting several times a week to help with stuff like shopping and giving her lifts. No carers for either of them.

Having lived an infinitely unhealthier life, I won't follow their example (they were still tackling long hill walks at my age). But, equally, my previous lifestyle would've killed many before now - indeed, it has.

My grandma is 93 this year, she lives in her own home. She has a stair lift and relatives pop in a few times a week.

She does online shopping herself and has a cleaner and gardener. But she does struggle to cook for herself, walk and cannot hear so well, but her mind is as sharp as mine.

She said yesterday that she doesn't want to go into a care home yet, as she doesn't want to get rid of all her books.
Her younger sister is in a care home for respite and I suspect there's a bit of sibling rivalry going on now!

Only one and she’s 97

A friend of ours is 100 and lives independently.

Until his death last year at 94, my grandfather did. The only time he had any help was aged about 91 when he fell while pruning his apple tree (🙄) and broke his hip. Once he got a new one he was back up and about.

He deteriorated a lot during Covid though, which I think hastened his death - both physically and mentally as he was taken out of his usual routine.

My Dad is 91 and lives independently, cleaner and gardener but that's it. Shops, cooks for himself, climbs ladders, cuts up branches and terrifyingly still drives on occasion

My father in law lived independently until he was 96. Still drove, cycled to the Co Op regularly, cooked for himself, mowed the lawn etc.

My grandad was still working at 94 years old. His brother is also on a farm and was out yesterday lambing. He is 92. His wife is only 89 but she still does the church flowers and delivers shopping to frail people...some who are younger than her!

Next door F/95 still walks to the shops about half mile away and back with her wheeled shopping beg Her OH, 89/M, walks up and down the road with stick and still drives. They put their own bins out, the lady does - several door up, single family 91 this year - does all of her washing, cleaning, shopping online and takes cabs for bits

Femal 86 across the road, drives and we often see her cleaning the front door and ground floor window sill

We live is a close, about 100 houses, mainly detached and a few semi's - most of the people men and women lived up auntilt he age of 85 plus and from the time we have been here, all appear quiet able -

My nan did until age 92. She would probably have had to go into a care home if she'd lived longer, as she had dementia which was getting worse. But she developed pneumonia, had to go into hospital and died.
My father in law lived at home and was fully independent, no carers, no mobility aids etc, until his sudden death aged 94

My friend's aunt is 101 and lives alone with no help. She's fit and goes out and about with her daughters all the time.

My late MIL, who died at 92 lived independently. She had a stairlift but carers.

My dad will be 93 at the end of the month. He lives independently, has a cleaner and a gardener and relies on his children to take him shopping. He does all his own cooking. My mum died in October quite suddenly and dad has even managed to master the washing machine! I’m amazed he’s still here after losing his wife of 55 years but 6 months on and now I wonder if he’ll keep going for a while now.

My grandmother was independent until she got a terminal illness in her mid nineties. She needed care once the symptoms were severe, but that would have been the case if she'd been in her thirties.

My great grandmother lived independently in a fourth floor flat with no lift until her late nineties.

Yes loads!

It's not inevitable that someone in their 90s will struggle.

I know many people in their 80s and 90s who regularly come into my shop who never have help of any kind and often look after their less able partners.
seems a shame that falls put an end to their independence and often their lives. same happened to my fil he spent 3 years in a home before he died.
A lot of my older ladies are still busy knitting and crocheting often for charity or family they don't lose the ability

A friend of the family is 94 and lives alone. She has no carers, she lives independently and cooks for herself. Her grandson visits a couple of times a week and brings shopping. He has a quick clean, takes the bins out etc.
She's still very mentally sharp. She's remarkable.

Same for my DGran.

90s, no. Mum is 85 and has (undiagnosed, she won’t accept it but its so obvious) dementia.
Stepdad is 79 and doing his very best,

My dad was alive when I wrote that. He died in July. His house is empty now.

MIL does. Early 90s, totally independent. No carers.

DMIL was independent into her 90s until dementia set in.

I know (or have known) several people, yes.

Only 2 months ago my friend lost her Mum, aged 102, who lived independently in her own home.

One of my grandparents is 95 and living alone they live in an apartment complex and have done for Mandy years so there is a warden on site and emergency pull cords in the property however they do not have regular contact with them or the other flat tenants unless they choose too,

Completely depends on the person's health.