Do you know anyone in their 90s who lives at home independently?

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I know one person in their 90s who lives at home and has carers four times a day. He can’t go out alone and depends on a wheelchair.

I know one couple who are quite independent and still mobile eg do all their own shopping. They don’t need carers but they help each other.

It was part of a discussion with my elderly parents (early 80s) where they assumed that most people in their 90s would be living in a care home. I was wondering how common it is for people in their 90s to still live in their own home?

My father did until he was 96. My sister would take him to the supermarket once a week and do his laundry (only because he’d relied completely on mum for everything until she went into a nursing home) but beyond that he was completely independent.

I only know 2 people in their 90s and they both live independently

My grandmother is almost 91 and lives independently - still drives to the shop!

My Mum did until she was almost 93. Did all her own cooking and cleaning until she fell and died 6 weeks later.

My nan lived at home until she died aged 100. She did have periods in care homes to recover after treatment for various illnesses and falls, but she spent the majority of her final years at home. She had carers three times a day. The last five years or so she did need a wheelchair so couldn't leave the house without someone to help her.

Yes. She delivers the Parish newsletter on foot, rain, snow and shine.

Dh's gran did all the way up until her death. I think she was 94.

My great-aunt lived at home until 98 with a carer coming in daily, though she’s now in a home.

Yes our neighbour lived alone with no carers etc in his house until last year when he finally moved into a care home at the age of 97.

One f my grandparents did. He died in his early 90s and was independent until the end, but he was married to my grandma who is 10 years younger than him. He was still driving and doing DIY, gardening, cooking and housework until his sudden rapid decline.

My grandmother lived independently until 92. She had family help nearby to do driving, grocery shopping and some cleaning. She sadly had a fall and deteriorated very quickly afterwards.

My nan lived at home independently until she was 96.
she had her food shopping done for her but despite her poor mobility managed to (and wanted to do) her own cooking, washing and light dusting (I used to do the heavy cleaning).
She managed her own personal care completely, sadly she passed away last summer after a stroke.

My great aunt is 96 and in better shape than I am. She lives in her bungalow and is independent.

My MIL is 91 , lives alone , has a garden chap 2 hrs per week and my husband and BIL take her shopping / garden centre etc and I do the odd appt / trip out etc . She is perfectly ok walking when out but not miles . Looks after the house / herself with no help although we are currently trying to get her to agree to a stair lift .

Sir David Attenborough?

My DM 91 totally fit, active and independent. Takes 2 buses on a 1 hour plus journey to the closest city - to buy the latest fashions in Primark and chat to younger men en route and the bus driver. 🤣

Also soon to be 98 yo DMIL - one carer visit a day - to pour her sherry and vodka (as she doesn’t drink anything else 😬)

My mum is 99 in June.
Lives alone.
No helpers.
Regularly pushes a Henry vacuum cleaner around.
Changes her bed regularly.
Showers every day.
Does a wash couple times a week. Whites/bedding and colours.
Makes a roast on Sundays, usually chicken and 3 veg. Puts up a second plate for Monday.
Goes to town at least 3 times a week on the local bus.
Can carry most shopping but we do the tins & heavy stuff like spuds.
Walks to paper shop most days for her paper and milk.
Totally ambulant, no walking aids except deaf/partially sighted red/white walking stick.
Can hold a conversation without confusion or any signs of cognitive issues.
Keeps her flat beautifully, no clutter, tidy and everything clean.
She’s a walking miracle!!
She wants a 100 birthday card from Charlie. I think she might just get it.

My Nan did until she was 94. I would take her to appointments etc and shopping but she didn't have carers. She broke her hip in a fall (not at home - she was at the hospital attending an outpatient appt) and ended up in a home for two years before she died. The physio got her up and walking with a frame though.

My MIL is in her 90s and lives at home but has limited mobility so someone comes in to help her with bathing and dp goes round every night to cook her dinner.

I know someone who is 99 and lives at home. I know him through a shared interest in politics - he might not be physically active but is very active politically and joins a lot of the zoom meetings that I'm in.

My neighbour lived to age 91.No carers. Cleaner and gardener càme, no further help in large house. Was taken ill one morning and died on way to hospital .
I have a relative who is now 91, she drives , goes abroad for holidays, she just has a cleaner. She has always done lots of exercise, golf, swimming.

My father is nearly 92 and lives independently. He has a cleaner and a gardener since mum died 2 years ago and I do his online shop. Fully compos mentis.
FIL is 96 and us the same still goes out and about independently.

MIL died at 98 very suddenly one morning...just went to sleep and didn't wake up. She was beginning to get memory problems and more needy of my husband but still had to get out and meet friends for coffee.

My mum the youngest was still very active and able at 85 ...cooking, cleaning, shopping until a secondary cancer robbed her of everything over 4 months.

I had patients who were amazing in their mid 90s. But things could change very quickly

I don't know any 90 year olds full stop. But my grandparents both lived independently until late 80s.

FIL is 91 and MIL is 85 and both live totally independent. He is absolutely able to do everything on his own if MIL is not able too, she had some health issues the last couple of years.

They do drive but I think that is getting less and less frequent, I often wonder if they keep the car just for us when we visit.

Unless their health deteriorate I can't think of them going into a home voluntarily. I could imagine if one needs care the other follows, there is a large complex with a variety of accomodations options nearby, I can see them moving there.

Wow incredible! I hope she does!

I know loads but I do work in community services/hospital discharges
It's not as uncomment as you think. Some need a bit of input after a hospital stay and get back to independent living