Is there a way to check if someone has been baptised?

[Clementinepippa]

Some kind of church register that the public can access? Is it possible ?

For the sounds of your family i would move away and stay away.

You could look up the church online and see if they have any newsletters on there.

You are paying for things because you've moved away? Were other people paying when you were able to help?

Can't you just look at the newsletters online?

The Church of England records baptisms.

(My father spent much of his retirement doing our family tree)

Many other churches esp the less-standard types don't or at least didn't.

I don't know how happy the church would be to give out the information if it is a recent baptism.

You are better off talking to your relatives.

I’ll try to have a look. No previously I was working part time and doing it all but the job offer was too good to pass up and full time which is why I now help with the cost of things but it’s really caused a rift and I feel guilty but I had to take the job.

I should just ask really but it feels so confrontational. I think I will just send a message

I think you just need to rise above this. It's not important. Try and build bridges with them regardless of the baptism situation. It's not going to help being devastated and bearing grudges.

It's a baptism FGS the important thing is to have it and as religious family you know it's less about the event and having a family party. Low key baptism isn't an issue. You can surely understand your (sibling? Cousin?) wanting to keep it to a local event and not inviting people from far and wide.

Having a relationship with the child as it grows is what counts. Visit. Spend time, send cards and presents.

@Clementinepippa you were doing ALL the parental care? Then you took a good job offer, moved away and now contribute to care monetarily?
And you are being punished for moving away?
Allrighty. Religious they may be, they are still users who thought they could just keep you in your place.
You need to find your anger and your dignity and tell them how very, very out of order they are.

Doesn’t seem a very Christian thing to do, does it?

I’m in no way religious and I find it really hard to understand how people can be ‘very religious’. Especially en masse, like in a family. Don’t people, you know, start thinking and question things?

*This perhaps sounded more judgemental than intended. I find these sorts of human behaviours very interesting.

As others have said the church newsletter would be easiest way if you don't want to ask directly . It also genuinely might have been a very low key non event christening. I did that with one of my DC. I didn't have the head space for hosting an event afterwards so did a quiet meal with us and the godparents.