I’m fed up of my colleague now

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Genrral rant here. Colleague (Jane) is morbidly obese, today, another staff member (Emma) asked her to edit a document. She did it. Then later on, Jane said to the colleague (Emma), “seeing as I’m helping you out can you just go over there (less than a meter) and make me a coffee then pop some water in my pot noodle”

normally I’ll try and be a listening ear for this colleague of mine, but today took the absolute piss. She just doesn’t move, she’s so lazy honestly it boggles my mind and she does herself no favours.

Emma just blindly said yes then later said to me I wish I said no. I did say it’s so hard in a room full of people to say no. What the hell do you do in these situations because Jane’s asked me to do stuff for her at times too and it annoys me.

What has Jane's weight got to do with it?

because she uses it as an excuse not to make her own coffee or make her own lunch.

She didn't use her weight as an excuse not to do it. She wanted a favour in return for the favour she did.

If it bothers you, say no.

She clicked a button? Making someone’s lunch when the water tap is a 2 second walk is surely silly

She wasn’t asking you for a favour and it’s hardly the crime of the century to ask a colleague to make you a coffee & pour sone water in a pot noodle.

I think you have an issue with her weight (which is none your business), and you should keep your opinions to yourself.

Less silly than how unnecessarily upset about it you are.

Are you one of those people who thinks fat' is catching? You sound scared of her being big?

Could you draw a diagram of the workplace? I want to see the layout that puts someone's desk a metre away from a hot water tap/kettle

Making a coffee and popping water into a pot noodle is hardly the same as making someone's lunch.

Naff off and grow up.

Less than a metre eh

Fat old lazy disgusting Jane scoffing pot noodles, nice try OP.

God I'm glad you're not my colleague, you sound horrible. I've happily put water in a co-workers pot noodle if they've asked me to, or made a coffee, or shove some pasta in the microwave or whatever. Who actually gets their back up about stuff like this? She was hardly asking to have a three course meal cooked for her was she?

Being you must be so knackering. Is that how you stay so teeny tiny unlike great big Jane?

Jane can possibly lose weight.

I suspect you might find it harder to develop a more pleasant attitude to your colleagues.

normally I’ll try and be a listening ear for this colleague of mine, but today took the absolute piss. She just doesn’t move, she’s so lazy honestly it boggles my mind and she does herself no favours.

I wonder if Jane knows her “listening ear” thinks she’s lazy and bitches about her behind her back?

If Jane was a size 8 would you be so mad about her asking?

I imagine being morbidly obese must make getting up uncomfortable - so a viscous circle. I take it OP has been told by Jane the exact reason for her weight for OP to be so dismissive.

Yes, she probably would!

I don't think she would.

Her contempt seems to be about Jane being fat and therfore lazy.

I imagine if Jane was thin then the trade of helping with work vs making a drink/snack would have been a fair one.

I hope tomorrow Jane gets up to make her own coffee and squishes you and your judgy pants underneath her on the way.

If it was just a click of a button, why didn’t Emma do it?

If you don’t want to help Jane then all you have to say is ‘no, I’m not making your drinks for you/your lunch for you/doing anything else for you. What you don’t do is pretend to be her work friend and then bitch about her with your other colleagues.

You’re coming across as really snide. It’s not an attractive trait in a person. I wonder, if we spoke to some of your colleagues, what we’d hear about you?

I once asked a junior colleague to pop my lunch in the microwave because she was going into the kitchen anyway and I was in the middle of something which was complicated.
I was told afterwards that she was really upset and offended, and thought that I was treating her like a servant because she was junior to me. For goodness sake! I wouldn't have minded if she had asked me to do the same!

If your 'fat' colleague was doing something for somebody else I don't see the problem with her asking for something in return. We all put our own values on favours - she probably thought it was a favour of the same value - even if it was for a completely different thing.

Helping colleagues with work is part of the job and a thanks afterwards is sufficient. In my org, going to make tea or coffee is usually quite sociable but you would never ask anyone to make it for you, would be seen as belittling. I wouldn’t find it pleasant working with someone so transactional who saw helping with work as requiring something in return, particularly a non work return.

People should sort their own lunches out at work. That is all.

Op if Jane asks you, just say in a moment or I'm busy.

Of course being extremely large is like a disability because it causes major mobility issues.

In my old job we had a staff member who faced huge issues with the site, moving around, accessing the cafe and so on and she relied on a kind staff member to fetch her things.