I’m fed up of my colleague now

[Lilllypad11]

Genrral rant here. Colleague (Jane) is morbidly obese, today, another staff member (Emma) asked her to edit a document. She did it. Then later on, Jane said to the colleague (Emma), “seeing as I’m helping you out can you just go over there (less than a meter) and make me a coffee then pop some water in my pot noodle”

normally I’ll try and be a listening ear for this colleague of mine, but today took the absolute piss. She just doesn’t move, she’s so lazy honestly it boggles my mind and she does herself no favours.

Emma just blindly said yes then later said to me I wish I said no. I did say it’s so hard in a room full of people to say no. What the hell do you do in these situations because Jane’s asked me to do stuff for her at times too and it annoys me.

The cognitive dissonance regarding obesity is strong on this thread, and elsewhere in life.

Obesity is a serious health condition which is largely self-inflicted. It doesn't just strike a person out of nowhere, it is the cumulative result of many daily choices.

Obesity related illnesses cost the NHS billions and the bill is rising, so it isn't true that obesity is nobody else's business.

I wonder how understanding and forgiving Jane's supporters would be if Jane found it hard to mobilise due to COPD because she smokes 40 Marlboro every day.

I agree that it's important to be kind. But while you are all so busy being non-judgemental, the nation is creating a public health emergency for itself, and all of us are involved in dealing with the consequences of that.

Yes,op will be lynched on this thread by people who'd probably feel similar irritations or superiority.

My (skinny) line manager is annoying me questioning my decisions atm and trying to parse out how much is my defensiveness and how much is her officiousness. Colleagues!

You do have a point. If Jane was necking the vodka pre-9am and asking for favours, I can't imagine that going down too well.

Jane may be a good professional but what she’s doing is not ok.

It seems she is constantly vying/bartering for other people to do specific things for her but underplaying the whole thing, after a while, I would get uncomfortable just with that, it’s contrived and sneaky.

And, if you want to look into it, there’s also the nature of the requests and what they seem to show about Jane’s health and mobility.

"Of course being extremely large is like a disability because it causes major mobility issues"

@Tigersonvaseline

If a person is so large that it causes major mobility issues, it's very unlikely that they would be in employment, surely?

"I wonder how understanding and forgiving Jane's supporters would be if Jane found it hard to mobilise due to COPD because she smokes 40 Marlboro every day"

@LauderSyme

And what if she had COPD that wasn't caused by smoking?

O you're a mean person OP. Hope you never have to ask someone to help you but, if you do, I hope you get a similar reaction. What's your waist measurement?

This thread backfired on you OP, didn't it?
Hopefully you think twice before fat-shaming somebody for asking a favour of their colleague... which actually has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Well, then my point wouldn't apply and I hope they would be sympathetic and helpful.

As it happens, I am sympathetic and helpful to people with medical conditions they themselves have caused, because I like to think I am a decent person who recognises that we are all fallible.

However I do think that widespread extreme defensiveness regarding high BMI, as evidenced by this thread, is problematic.

Exactly this. It's the domestic task in exchange for an office one. Would have riled me too. I bet if 'Jane' was 'James', weighty or not, there'd be a different response.

Yanbu just say no

All you posters asking what her weight has to do with it - well, if she were more active she wouldn't be so overweight I would have thought that was obvious.

i dont understand where posters are gettng "constant demands"
making things up here to suit your argument

I had a manager who drank black coffee. She would stand next to the coffee percolator, would call me and jiggle the cup and saucer she was holding indicating for me to stop typing, get up and pour her a coffee.

She was an absolute cow to me and I had an upset stomach every morning before work and even had a fleeting moment of thinking what would happen if I stepped out in front of that bus coming down the road? She died from cancer years ago but 30 years on I still remember.

If Jane is that type then you have something to say but if she is a "scratch my back and I'll scratch yours" type of person I'd probably do it.

Always remember that the person making your coffee is also able to spit in it.

OP: how was her tone when she said it? If it was a jokey tone then I’d laugh it off. If she was being serious as in “you owe me one” I wouldn’t take it well.

and yes, it sounds like she’s lazy and needs to move more, I would have also judged! Sorry but I’m only human.

Yeah, but were any of them fat?

Why stop at spitting? Why not just go ahead and put rat poison in it?😡

It’s very regular.

Yeah it’s like come on. Move.

She takes the lift up for 8 stairs.

It can backfire. But being lazy has no excuse. It’s at least 3-4 times a week she asks people to go get her printing or get her cup off the desk or her lunch to be heated. I don’t mind but it won’t hurt to be moving more.

it probably does hurt her to move more, that is the thing.
stop being so bitchy about her, look to yourself. @Lilllypad11

Have a word and tell her no one is her slave!!!!