Get to an age where you think "Well the best has past?"

[Sooooootired01]

Or is it just me?!!
I'm 43 so my "best years" well and truly behind me!

Awwwww you guys! You're such a positive bunch!! ❤️ Amazing!!

'I agree! What even are "life's big milestones" when they're at home, anyway?

Life is about more than just getting married, buying a house, having kids. Far, far more.'

Can you give me some inspiration? I've done the marriage, house, child thing. The only thing I am looking forward to is seeing my children grow up, spending more time with friends and family and travelling the world a bit more...

Seeing your kids grow up.
The possibility of grandchildren.
Learning a new skill.
Taking up a hobby / sport.
Saving for a holiday.

So many things and more.

Life is about more than just getting married, buying a house, having kids. Far, far more.

I agree, I feel like they’re just things that happened along the way.

But what do you call ‘exciting’? What have you already done before the age of 43 that was so exciting and unrepeatable? Are you one of those people who thinks the high point of their life was their wedding and the birth of their children?

I thought so at that age. I'm actually enjoying my late 60s more.

@TheDogsMother Nothing to do with looks; they don't really matter any more (I'm married - 3 years in).
I suppose I can't see what there is to look forward to? Especially without money in the bank really.

I'm 39 and feel like the best is yet to come. I'm more confident, I look better than I ever have and I get to see my little boy grow up. I find it so depressing that people feel their younger years are the best and life is pointless after that. My friend keeps reminiscing about how great it was to be teens/early 20s. She's rewriting history for sure. I don't remember it being that rosy!

@Craicbaby No, but there's just work, work and more work? Then retire and still skint!!

Don’t you like your job? Are there possibilities for changes of job/retraining etc?

68 and still enjoying life despite crappy health and being house-bound!

Rubbish! I'm 65 and loving life...am healthy, great 2nd dh, busy lives and we have lots of fun.
Don't die before you're dead!

@Craicbaby Hate it! Primary teacher. Was hoping to go back to uni to retrain but I can't find part-time teaching roles to fit in with studies 😞

So how can you make the best of that?
Find a job you love?

Step out of your comfort zone, do stuff that scares you

Sorry @Sooooootired01 I saw a reference to looking back on a photo but I realise it wasn't you. I'm sorry you are feeling this way.

@BigMandyHarris It's not that easy as I need an income...

I’m 46 and sometimes think this too, even though life is in some ways the best it’s ever been (I have had chronic illness the last couple of years, so if it wasn’t for this, life would be pretty damn good)
I have a 6 year old after waiting for years, a great new friend set, a part time job I enjoy and good quality of life in terms of where I live and time for myself.
I def don’t look as good as I did in my 20’s or even 30’s, but if I could just feel how I felt in my late 30’s or even until 3/4 years ago health wise, it would be perfect.

Wow I feel so differently. I love this stage of life and feel I know my own preferences so much better now. Love seeing my kids develop and know the value of the important stuff now.

Thanks all. Perhaps I'm just tired x

I certainly hope not! I'm late 30's and feel like I'm just at the beginning of getting going with my life. There's still so many dreams I'd like to work towards even if I don't achieve them. I'm excited to see my children getting more independent and seeing where they are leading us. I was brought up by my grandparents and it amazes me sometimes that they'd lived their whole lives to retirement before I was even born and have still been there through my whole life.

I suppose it's dependant on what you value.

From a young age, I have always wanted to become a grandmother. Not a mom as that involves to much sacrifice but grandmother's. Get to play and spoil the children and not worry about their job as much.

Attending your children wedding (unfortunately the dc might not get married), hopefully seeing your dc purchase their first home. Or even rent their first home and buying the perfect gift. I really loved the sofa dm bought me. I still have it 12years later.

My style and dm style is so different, I wonder how my dc will style their home. Its something I look forward to.

Will I get remarried or not? How long will I stay in this house? There has been so many medical advances, will they finally cure diabetes? Or get a more comfortable pump?

I decided to have a healthy 0.000001% hope that world suffering would drastically reduce. How? I don't know? Maybe less war or less famine, or we go truly greener, or diseases get cured that saves people life's and preserve/ revert to good health.

I'm looking forward to hearing/ seeing a lot of good news.

You'd have to be clairvoyant to know that! You never know what's coming

I'm the same age as you and don't feel like that at all. I'm really looking forward to the future and really hope I get to live for a good few years yet! I had quite a shit time in my twenties and early 30s so I'm feeling like now is my time.

My children are still young, youngest is 4, so hopefully we've got lots of adventures ahead as a family, but I'm also looking forward to getting older and doing things with DH that we have always wanted to do.

We have no money AT ALL but I've always had quite low expectations for life really and find I can find contentment in quite ordinary things. I think I'm very lucky to feel like that actually, it means I'm easily pleased!

I'm 43 and in the past 6 months alone I've taken up a new sport and started learning a new language.

New experiences don't have to cost the earth. Surely there is something you would like to try? A craft? Learn an instrument? Somewhere in the UK you'd like to visit one weekend?