Tell me about your best friend please

[AmericanUgly]

Where did you meet? How old were you? How long have you been friends? What made you close? Have you ever fallen out or do you always get along? How often do you see each other?

I don't have one and I want to live vicariously through others tbh! Same as I don't have a close or loving family so I go on TikTok and watch videos of big families all reacting to a pregnancy announcements and things. I can't imagine that type of life.

My best friend , we met aged 11 ( now 62) at school . We have had times where location has stopped us seeing each other often , but now we see each other a couple of times a month . She is my conscience and I’d never bother glossing anything over as she would see straight through me! We are totally honest with each other , about our families and everything else. We don’t share some views but we share values . We are very different but I love her

I have three really close friends but one of them I would describe as best friend.. we have so little in common in many ways - she is arty, designer.. extremely wealthy (multiple properties and a thriving business) I am a single parent to (now) 20 something kids but have always worked full time.. and lived paycheque to paycheque and couldn't draw a stickman .. BUT .. we have similar values.. same sense of humour .. we go away together and she is happy to camp .. but also is so kind and will spring for a couple of nights in a luxury hotel ..

I also know that if either of us were in trouble at 3am she is the first person I would call and vice versa .. and we would jump out of bed and go to each others rescue without needing to know why ..

I met my best friend when l was five and she was minutes old.. yes she's my youngest sister.. we are 66 and 61 now.
I do have other friends l see now and again .. about 6 times a year who l was at school with.
My other best friend l met when l was 20 and she was 19 at work.. she lives near me.. pre marriage and kids we would go out every weekend clubbing etc . Shopping .. but both much older now but we do keep in touch

@AmericanUgly I am lacking in the friend department too due to circumstances and very small family but they live six hour drive away 🥲 happy to be online friends xx

Met my best friend at work at 17. She's a couple of years older so been friends now for 40 years and never had a cross word.

Have supported each other through babies, marriages. Divorces cancer, tragic losses and both our families consider the other a part of the family.

We holiday together and talk via text most days. Meet up as often as we can.

We always find something to laugh about and I can't imagine life would have been so fab without her in it.

I don't have one and I don't want one!

I have mates but I don't do meaningful friendships because I don't have the time! My sister is my confident and biggest supporter and my husband and son are my roomies/travel companions/fun people.

I don't need anyone else!

I have my best friend of 39 years. We met in school. 5th year when we were 16. We both did a dance class which, to this day, is one of the oddest things we’ve ever done! She is my best friend. I cannot ever imagine her not being in my life and not sharing what we’ve been up to.

My best friend of 50 years passed away a few weeks ago.
We met at nursery school.
She was funny, caring, generous, sensitive and did I say she was funny? Right to the end we laughed.
Irreplaceable.
I'm sorry you feel you'll never experience this. Truly sorry 😞

@NowThatYoureGone I'm so so sorry, how awful for you.

I'm lucky that my best friend is the first friend I made on the playground in reception - friends for over 43 years so far. We're complete opposites and had a few wobbles during teenage years but still message a few times a week and try to meet up every month even though we have quite different lives. I lucky that I have other close friends from different phases of life like uni, various jobs (and my brother and DH are best mates too), but she's what I'd call a traditional "best mate".

It's never too late to make friends if you want to...

I love her completely. We met at University, bonded over our hatred of student life and our horrible flat mates.
We live far apart, and often only meet up 1 or 2 times a year, but it's like we've never been apart. There is nothing I couldn't tell her or ask of her, and I would do anything for her, anything.
She is kind, intelligent, brave and beautiful.

I've one BF. We met at nursery, went to same primary and same secondary. Went to different unis (same city), then we both moved away but remained very close. Wed holiday together etc. We were both MOH at each others wedding. We then both moved back to our hometowns and live a mile from each other. Message every day, speak several times a week, see each other at least once per week. I'm godparent to their dd. We're now 40. We've never fallen out. We're actually very different, in looks, style , careers, personality etc but it just works.

We both have a shared group of 6 other friends we also went to school with too and have other separated uni/ work friends.

I met my best friend MC when we were in infant school aged 4.
She was crying as she missed her mum and I was crying for the same reason.
Teacher was fed up and told us we had to cry together or become friends.
60 years later we are still good friends.

I met my bf in my 20's. She was my boyfriend's (now husband's) best friend's girlfriend. They broke up. We stayed friends.

We've planned that when our husbands inevitably die before us, we're going to sell our houses, pool our resources and buy somewhere to live together.

I have 3. Who I would call a best friend

Friend no 1 we were 7 almost 8 I moved school she was allocated to walk me home we lived across the street from each other. We are now in our 50s and she is still someone I turn to and trust. But we live in different countries and see each other every 2 years or so.

Friend no 2 I got to know via a toddler group. We were in our late 20s. All my babies early days are memories of Nic. And her 4.. when we first met we would go out and have a table for 4. Then we both had more children and it became a table for 10. She moves away when my youngest was 3. And we kept in touch but obviously less together. She died last October mmy last message to her was a video of my dd1 boyfriend proposing to her. She sent a thumbs up. I figured it meant she was ever busy but would call soon. She died 2 days later.. I miss her ...

Friend no 3. We met when our youngest went to playgroup together abd actually we were a slow burn. Brought together through our dds being close. By the time primary was over she was a good friend and by the time secondary she was my close friend. She is the one I turn to for every day things. The one I moan to and celebrate too. The one I told when friend 2 died and she knew to just... be there.

The one my children call mum's best friend and the one I think will be in my life til we are old age pensioners. A beautiful person.

I wouldn't have been without any of these in my life.

We met at university and it wasn’t an immediate bonding thing. She was let down by someone who was going to travel with and I sort of stepped into help. We see each other intermittently have a few trips together each year , she is god mother to my daughter and while we don’t live in each others pockets, she would be the one person I’d call if the shit really hit the fan :)

I have 2, one from high school and one from uni. I don't see either of them very often, but when I do its great! One from high school I have known since I was 12 (51 now!) , and one from uni since I was 17. Friend from high school lives fairly locally, we get together about 3 times a year (busy lives!) Friend from uni loves abroad so we rarely see each other, but when we do it's like we've never been apart.
Neither of them do I speak to them regularly, but they are still the people I value and love most in the whole world!

I've had close friends but never a best friend, until I made one a year ago. We get each other and always laugh together, and talk every day. We meet up every 2 weeks or so. He knows more about me than anyone. I feel very lucky.

What I didn't expect is that its helped me to become closer to my other friends, as I've finally learned how close/best friends interact, and I've applied that in other friendships. I've realised the power of both checking in often with random crap, and also sharing deeper things.

usually im more trust no one, but it can be a mix as to when you chat and you sorta just click and then get along and yea, a mix really

67 years.
We've been friends since we were 2. Her family moved onto the same street as me and her mum and mine became friends. We can sometimes go months without seeing each other (and in one case years) but always seems like no time when we get back together. No awkwardness at all.

Mostly we see each other once or twice a month but sometimes it can be closer to ten times. All depends what we have going on in our lives at any given time.

Another friend, since we were 7.

We met when we were about 11. We lived quite close to each other, but didn't know each other (we went to different schools). We were introduced by a mutual friend. I'm not sure what happened to the other friend - she kind of drifted away. We didn't ghost her, honest.

Anyway, my best friend moved away for college and I don't think we've ever lived in the same place as adults. But we've always kept in touch - by letters, e-mails, and the occasional phone call (long distance phone calls were very expensive) etc. Maybe that's the secret to our friendship? If we'd lived close by, maybe we'd have stopped making the effort? I guess I'll never know.

Anyway, we see each other a few times a year. But when we get together, it's like we just saw each other yesterday.

I've made a lot of other friends through the years, but this friendship is in a different league. Partly because of its length, partly because we knew each other as children, partly because we know each other's families very well. There's a shared history that I don't have with anyone else. I trust her implicitly.

My BF and I have known each other for 49 years now, since we were 4 years old. Neither of us has a sister, only brothers.
We went to the same primary school and high school together although not in the same classes. We even ended up living next door to each other when we were teenagers! Many happy holidays abroad too.
She was my bridesmaid when I got married 29 years ago.
We’ve never had any major fallings out even though other friends in our group have occasionally caused drama.
We message regularly, occasionally on the phone and meet up every couple of months.
What we both know and understand about each other is that we will always be friends, forever, until we’re not.

I have many groups of friends and probably two best friends and a couple of other close friends who I know would be there for me if I needed them.

I met one of BF's at our eldest child's swimming lessons 18 years ago. We did a lot together as families and then she split from her exh and moved away. We do still do lots with them but it's not as easy nowadays. I know she is always there and I know she knows the same for us.

My other bf is my neighbour. I have known her since school although we weren't friends then. As adults we played in the same sports team and have always got on and then when they moved next door that became a close friendship. We holiday as families as we have similar age DC who are close but we also do things together.

Other friends have come through work, my school days, dh's school days, sports clubs etc. I think I'm very lucky that I find it quite easy to make friends and I really value the ones I have.

I miss mine. She stopped speaking to me at the start of covid lockdown, have been unable able to find out why. We'd been friends for over 20 years.

I'm so sorry to hear this.

I'm sorry to hear about your friend also.