Tell me about your best friend please

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Where did you meet? How old were you? How long have you been friends? What made you close? Have you ever fallen out or do you always get along? How often do you see each other?

I don't have one and I want to live vicariously through others tbh! Same as I don't have a close or loving family so I go on TikTok and watch videos of big families all reacting to a pregnancy announcements and things. I can't imagine that type of life.

I have 4 closest friends.
M oldest friend I met on a children forum. We've been friends for about 10 uears now. We speak every day but have never met. I always think hiw bonkers it is. I'd love to meet up with her ine day.
The next two I work with every day. They're 15 years younger than me so we do have different opinions on things but at the same time they are supportive and hilarious and lovely.
My fourth "best" fruend I've known for 4 years. She's amazing. I see her as a sister rather than a friend. I struggle with my mental health and don't think I'd be here without her. She also has the same sense of humour as me.

That's so beautiful. I'm really sorry for your (both of your) losses. They say no happy marriage ends happily and I guess it's the same for a loving friendship. The pain is the price we pay for love.

Wow! What's stopping you meeting up? Geography or shyness or something else? I must admit I've met online friends in person before and found it hard because I'm much more able to express myself at a distance. In person I'm a bit shy and get tongue tied. I feel like I'm a bit of a letdown! I hope you do get to meet and that it only enhances your friendship.

I don't have a BF, but I am very lucky to have a group of five friends, we're there for eachother to listen, support, have fun as a group and individually - have known them 19 years now and I think we're friends for life. I have two others friends, one I've known for 53 years - we've drifted apart over the last five years - her and her DH seems to be old before their time and seems to be amused that we're out enjoying ourselves, so things can change.

I wouldn't say I have a best friend, I have six very close friends in two groups of three - well four including me. I don't think I would like having just one, I would feel so much pressure, it would be like having another husband. Having a group of lovely friends means people can drop in and out of contact but there is always someone there to support each other even if one of you is going through something which means they are less emotionally available.

I did have one until recently. I fucked up by not talking through some things that had bothered me, and were still bothering me. I wasn't able to get past them, but I miss her. She isn't able to deal with confrontation well, so I shyed away from it throughout the past few years and everything just built up until I could no longer carry on.

I have other great friends. But not like her.

I met my bf at 11 when we stared secondary school. We have been friends for just over 40 years. We have definitely had squabbles but remain unbelievably close. Next to my husband, I am closer to her than anyone in my life, and this includes my children and siblings.

I am lucky enough to have a lot of very close friends, but none as close as I am to my bf. We are godparents to each others’ children, our kids grew up together so are also close. We live an hour or so apart but see each other often and chat on the phone for hours several times a week. Our husbands are really close friends. I honestly think of this relationship as one of the constants - and great joys- in my life.

Met my BF 54 years ago playing on the streets near our homes...we lived 5 minutes walk apart.
Still BF to this day and as we reach our mid sixties, have GC and now retired it has been amazing to see our lives.
From kids to teenagers and a joint love of David Cassidy, both married at 26 and still with our DH.
We talk weekly and one us has traveled far and wide with work and the other has stayed close to home.
Godparents to each others children.
We have never had a fall out, holiday together regularly yet still have lots of independent friends.
She's my sister at heart and I love her dearly.

My girls have close school friends - I hope they continue into adult life, that would be so nice. My son has a close friend too but he's much more relaxed about friendships in general.

I've got two ladies I met when I was 3yo (so 40 years ago) and we meet up a few times a year. We're all so busy with work, families and travel it's hard to do more often.

I also have a friend who I met through an activity in 2014, and we are like one person. We speak daily, we run a club for our activity together, and do said activity 3 times a week. We also socialise at every opportunity, she helps me with my kids and has been a lifesaver for me more than once. My life would be so much less without her in it.

I'm so sorry to hear that. Would she be receptive to a text? 'I miss you - do you want to talk?' or is that too simplistic? I hope you can move forward without it upsetting you anyway.

I met my best friend 9 years ago when I started a new job aged 36. She had been there a year, felt sorry for me when I looked terrified when introduced at the morning briefing and brought a pack of biscuits to my office.
Until then I had friends to go out with but no one I classed as a best friend.
I share everything with this person. I’ve moved on to another job now but she’s still my bestie.

one I've known since I was 18 , so over 40 years and one since I was 5.
We don't see much of each other these days , but nice to catch up now and again ( maybe twice a year for lunch ) and social media and what's app has made it easier to interact with news or gossip or whatever.
It's lovely having old friends I think.
Most of my other ones are just acquaintances really or people I used to work with.

Met at a play park age 7. We are now 54.

She moved to a town three hours away with her family when she was 18 but we are still best friends. Her family are like my extended family because we spent so much time in each other's houses as kids. We try to see each other for a few days at least once a year.

My best friend is lush
I met her at 19 at uni - had a really strong urge to protect her and was jealous of someone else looking after her (we met on a day she had a car accident and i just KNEW she was going to be important to me- never had a feeling like that before or since) friends for 30 years - have had quieter times but also travelled widely together, lived together for a time. she knew my much missed mum and dad - lived with us for a while. I only have a very small family now and my relationship recently split up so am feeling a bit lonely

I have a group of close friends rather than one best friend. We met at university when we were all 19/20 so over 20 years ago.

We’ve never fallen out although one ‘left’ the group about 10 years ago due to doing something none of the rest of us were ok with.

I think we became friends as we were all away at university and wanted company and people to have a laugh with, but none of us were extroverted types. We have stayed friends because we are all fairly similar people who have made the effort to stay friends. I like that they’re not bitchy and don’t gossip like so many other people I’ve known.

I see some of them a few times a week and others who live further away now only once a month or so but we FaceTime/WhatsApp most days. We also regularly have weekends/holidays away together with and without our partners and kids.

They’re just really nice people, easy to get on with and I know I can rely on them for anything.

I met my best friend when we were 6. Our surnames were the same so the teacher sat her beside me and asked me to look after her. I looked after her and she looked after me thereafter. We lived a street away from each other. I was at her house or she was at mine. We had sleepovers together and went on holiday together as children. She was part of my family and me, hers. I loved her mum and dad too. She was my chief bridesmaid and godmother to my son. Our friendship continued as we both worked in education and worked together for a while. After we retired, we went on holiday together and got on so well. She died last year after 59 years solid friendship. We saw each other every week and usually messaged each other every day. We knew each other inside out. I miss her more than words can say

Lady Macbeth
I am sorry ;( 💐
We lost a dear friend last year and it's so hard isn't it? We knew them for 20 years and it feels unreal at times, it must be even harder for you as you were so close.

We met when I was 5 and she was 3, but became close in our early teens. We've known each other 34 years. I don't know why we get on, we just do. We get each other. We can communicate without words. We've always been able to do that. She's my non romantic soul mate.

We've been through a lot together.

There are topics we don't agree on, but we don't fall out either. We accept that we have a different opinion. We've never really fallen out, but have gone through phases of speaking less due to life.

These days we see each other most weeks. Send approximately 4653457 memes, and WhatsApp to check on each other regularly.

I've known her for over 30 years. We met at the very start of uni. I was cripplingly shy, but she was in my tiny tutor group, a bit older than me (mature student but only by a couple of years) and looked friendly, so when we were in a lift together one day in the first week, I plucked up the courage to tell her I loved her brightly coloured shoes. I think she was the first person I'd actually spoken to. She's much more outgoing than me and she sort of gradually adopted me over the years, and has been a wonderful, warm, wise, motherly shining light in my life. We're godmothers to each other's sons and I don't know what I'd do without her. I don't see her as much as I want to because she had to move to the other side of the country a few years back, but we message each other most days and spend one evening a week watching a nice cosy programme (Bake-Off type stuff) 'together' while setting the world to rights via WhatsApp.

Met in year 5 at primary we are now 31 and 32. We've never fell out. We have had spells of not being as close or seeing each other as often / she went to uni in London I went travelling. We live in the same town now and both have young children. She feels like a soul mate to me. She is so dependable, hilarious and I just love her. My love for her grew when my mum passed away suddenly and unexpectedly when I was 35 weeks pregnant. She helped me more than she'll ever know.

We met over 50 years ago at primary school. He (yes, he), was the first person who spoke to me without mocking my very heavy Aussie accent. We became best friends a couple of years later after I was involved in a serious accident which left me both physically and mentally scarred. I was teased (to the point of bullying), and he became my self- proclaimed "minder". We have never fallen out but he lives a fair old distance away so we don't see each other very much. It's his 30th wedding anniversary later this year so we'll meet up then at the party. Before the questions start, no we've never been an "item", neither of us has ever wanted to have sex with the other and yes his wife and my DP are fine about it.

I net my best friend at 13. We did loads together holidays, going out etc. we used to tell each other everything and went through some dark family issues together.

I fell pregnant at 29 and our relationship changed (my baby was hard work) and then I had another child. She got married at 39 and had her first child and then moved away for work. We haven't spoken to each other in eight years - she didn't give me her new address and changed her phone number so we messaged occasionally through Facebook. One day I asked her what happened to our friendship and was told we weren't that close anyway.

It broke me - like our decades long friendship meant little to her. I was so upset.

Now I choose to have acquaintances that j keep at arms length so I don't get attached and I can't be let down again

I don’t have a bff anymore. But I can relate in that I do feel warm and fuzzy watching other best friends and “girl groups” who are genuinely lovely to each other on YouTube. I love quick videos of funny situations where girls cry laughing together, it feels kind of nostalgic.

Judge me, but in my 20’s I watched all the episodes of KUWTK (Kardashians) for the sister vibes I never had.

Oh OP I hope you can make some good friends. You don't have to focus on a best friend as such and just build your friend group?
I do have a best friend we met the first day of college as she had a nose bleed and I rushed to help her. We just clicked she's so funny and warm and had me in stitches with her dry humour.
That was over 30 years ago and we have shared so much althought we don't live nearby.
However I have friends I love who were work colleagues I got to know better and another neighbour who I walk and swim with. They are all special.
I don't have the massive family either so I know what you mean about wistfully seeing those sort of relationships.